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The Candle Holders
My Ma' & Her Treasures
James and Nancy
It was February 27, 1928 in Springhill, South Carolina, it was the couples first wedding anniversary. He struggled for just the right gift to give his beloved Nancy. They were not only married for a whole year, but also had an infant son, James Jr. and another on the way. He found the perfect gift for his beloved Nancy. She was a young woman with an infant son, little Bubba, yet she would unknowingly have another little boy born December 28, 1929, she will name him Charlie, after her father.
She would give him, the nick name Tune, because he loved music. Tune could rock a guitar, oh memories. As she looked down at little Bubba she smiled. Her neighbors were her parents, she loved them dearly, although at times she thought her mother was harsh. She was excited, it was her first wedding anniversary and she loved her dear husband, Jay. Jay was a good man, he would shoot you a curve every now and then, but oh how he loved his Nancy and little Bubba.
When it was time to present her with her gift she unwrapped her gift to reveal a matching set of candle holders. It would go great with their first table set. It was beautiful. She would treasure this gift from her dear Jay for the 84 years she was on this earth, for she died in March of 1996 two months shy of her 85th birthday. She saw all her children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and even some great great grandchildren. She was very blessed woman and her hair remained naturally black as it had been since the day she was born.
Her husband, her beloved Jay, died on the day before their youngest daughter's second birthday on February 2nd. Jay had come, he loved her, he adored her, and his children, yet the candle holders remained in tack. My great grandmother lived until 1996, her first wedding gift given to her by great grandfather Jay is still in 2012. For me, as relatives come in and out the house visiting and they catch a glimpse of the old candle holders in mint condition.
I wonder if they know that was our Grandpa Jay's first gift he gave Grandmother Nancy on their very first wedding gift. I wonder if they understand that the simple gesture amongst two lovers has helped to encompass a love so deep that has stood the test of time. The evidence of his love for her still lives and each day as I walk out the door, as I come in from outside I see the evidence of a love that made my existence possible. It reminds me that a love like this happened in then and is very possible in 2012.
The candle holder reminds me of the sweet, innocent, pure, everlasting love that created my grandmother Willievelyn (their daughter) that created Sherry (my mother) that created Brittany (me) and created Mary (my daughter) and will offset any children my daughter has. We have a tough act to follow, but innately this love lies in the makeup of all of us.