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The Changes of Life

Updated on April 21, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Fight for courage and accept your life

Fight for courage and accept your life.

I remember from my childhood years, and up until now, happiness has always been a big part of my life

Life was simple and most pleasant.

The changes in my life showed me many differences in my daily routine.

In my lifestyles, from everything to nothing of the same and from one life to another I did not know what to expect.

I grew up mentally in a new life, and culture and my experiences so far have been most interesting.

Life is about changes and the many challenges one can be faced with, but when it comes to acceptance life can feel most difficult.

My life changed and everything else in my life went by unnoticed at times.

There is nothing in my life that is like it once was, as in my past life. I have coped with great courage and confidence.

My personality shows the true me to everyone.

Friendly, and always with a smile not to pretend to smile but to be noticed as the real me.

I prefer being direct and true in what I speak there is no need to lie about anything.

I like to be with friendly people those who share my interests and who can laugh at my jokes.

I have an English friend for the past ten years she has been my rock and helped me through my vulnerable times in Croatia.

I learned to be stronger and know how to face up to my hard times in this foreign land.

It has and can be tough in all ways and I could not have imagined what my life would have been like without her by my side at my worst of times.

She encouraged me through many bad times and I trusted her words then and now and with no regret.

When I did not know who to talk to. I spent a few hours daily in the local bookstore reading English written books. It was a great pleasure to read and be entertained with new books.

My focus was on what I knew best at that time thereafter, I made myself useful to the Croatian language.

The days went by with exploring new events in the area and in meeting new people.
I felt easier to cope with my new life when I knew I could speak the foreign language.

I improved on my own and when the time was right I got into what I knew would change my life forever.

All in time and I saw how I changed my photos of which told me I am doing well.
I knew I was doing well, I felt true happiness from within, and I had to get that happiness back inside of me. The one true aspect of my life nobody could give to me.

Acceptance is hard and as I found it an obstacle to be accepted by the local people, I also found it hard to accept them, the new culture and lifestyle.

The acceptance of life is what you get from life itself.

Without acceptance, nothing can be successful.

Life can be most complicated if you don't handle certain situations with care. I found that my emotions got in my way of life.

It is normal but I did not look at that as normal. I looked at it as a problem, not my experience. I was confused at how I should go about my normal life with a problem that I had resisted.

I did not think I would go through such feelings and experience moving to another country and learning a new language. It had not occurred to me until I had to get into living the foreign life.

Look at it this way:
You look at others of how they are living and of how they think but you never think that one day that could be you.

Life is unpredictable that is what you don't understand.

Everything in life changes and yet you think it won't happen to you.

Nothing in life will stay the same it is all temporary.

What you think is permanent is only in the mind.

You need to focus on what happens to you with a positive mind and defeat what you know is negative.

Once you begin to cultivate acceptance you will find coping with major events easy. You will see life from a different side and instead of resisting you will show acceptance.

Your first thought in mind is to accept the present and then everything else will fall into place. Your choice of thinking can make a difference and a change in your life.

I learned to accept after learning more about a new culture and to take each day as I experience it.

When you accept the happenings in your life you move on peacefully.

Challenges are part of you.

You do learn to give in at some time in your life.

Acceptance is the choice you make at any given time.

I accepted my new life through my positive thinking. If I constantly fought against acceptance, I would have been most unhappy with my stay in this beautiful country.

I do not want to be miserable and feel unhappiness, so I chose to accept my life and to get on with living.

It is like fighting against a tornado and not able to fix what is coming toward you.
Acceptance in life can be from relationships to other personal experiences your decisions made are very important as that affects the lives of other individuals and especially, you.

What acceptance can do for you?

When you accept your losses and gains, a new life or other challenges, you gain control of your life. You learn to keep the inner peace and yearning happiness.

The momentary happiness I felt when I first came to Croatia is now changed to my enduring happiness.

My life experiences have helped me move from the feeling of happy times to my true happiness. The kind of happiness, I truly felt before I came to live here from within.

You can use acceptance as a cover to protect yourself from the greater challenges ahead.
Experiences have allowed me to accept and let go.

I found that my life changes affected my appearances but in a good way. I took care of me without neglecting and letting go of myself. Though some people can show neglect through tough times and good times.

I found my true self after I accepted my new life.

Most people would give up as I have seen many foreigners leave Croatia for the fact that paperwork here takes forever to resolve. The long wait is just not for everyone.

I, on the other hand, watched them come and go.

In the beginning, I felt like I did not fit in with the local group. As time went by I changed my thoughts on that note. I realized if I think hopelessly it will not be. I have to make the change and go forward.

I know for a fact that I have to make that change to see a difference in my life and nobody will do that for me. If I sat down and moped about it then I would not have grown to be this happy person.

I am not good at sitting down and feeling sorry for myself. I prefer getting up and doing something about my new challenges.

I think positive and do positive, in this way I feel happier and motivated.

My strengths kept me well, and my family supported me along the way. My very good friend advised me most of the way. She too is proud of my hard work in building up a new life.

That took a lot of obstacles to get by me. I am in a happy stage and I know my happiness is here to stay. Happiness makes everything in my life full and lighter.

My changed Photos

The different appearance with unique features
The different appearance with unique features | Source
My features changed as I  accepted my life
My features changed as I accepted my life | Source

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Purpose Embraced thank you

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 4 years ago from Jamaica

      I truly believe that there are seasons in my life, and I must move to embrace the opportunities of each season, even though there are challenges. Thanks for posting on this thought-provoking topic DDE.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Lady_E thank you very much for stopping by.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      Your new friend is like an Angel. Thanks for sharing a beautiful post. :-)

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ubanichijioke from Lagos thank you kindly for taking the time and commenting on my hubs I appreciate your time.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 4 years ago from Lagos

      Interesting story. This is a motivating story for all those looking for a way to start afresh. Good friend you have there for such is rare. I wish you nothing but the best of the best and continue in this path of happiness.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader so right on and thank you for the vote up and beautiful I appreciate your presence at my hubs.

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      jtrader 4 years ago

      You have certainly kept your head up. as you pointed out, nothing in life lasts forever. Voted up and beautiful!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      vespawoolf greatly mentioned thank you

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38 thank you very much for sharing your thoughts at my hubs

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      vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

      Adjusting to a new country, language and culture is tough. Congratulations on getting through the hard part and finding happiness! I also have dear friends who supported me during the first difficult years. Now I wouldn't want to be anywhere else!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      One thing that you've said really touches me. That success and happiness begin from within....so true. Without that, ever ting we may do loses earning.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jodah thank you for constantly sharing your thoughts at my hubs I appreciate your time.

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      John Hansen 4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Good hub Devika, just try to stay positive. It isn't where you are that matters but your attitude and how you deal with it. I have never had to move to live in a foreign country though so I don't know how difficult it really is.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you MsDora for your kind words I appreciate you stopping by

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, I love your take on acceptance. You re beautiful in all your pictures.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts thank you I so appreciate your kind words.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Made thank you kindly for sharing your valuable thoughts here

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      annart that is true I am all the richer for experiencing such changes and and for holding onto my life thank you very much for stopping by

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      kidscrafts 4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I think in life there are twists and turns and we have to make the best of it. With a positive attitude, things go more smoothly and I think it's better for our health. When we stay positive, it becomes more easy to find good solutions to our problems. As you mentioned yourself, sometimes we have to "cope with great courage and confidence".

      Great pictures of you and your new environment, Devika!

      Have a great day!

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      Madeleine Salin 4 years ago from Finland

      It's very important with positive thinking. It was very hard for me to move from Finland to Switzerland, even if I knew I'd only live in the country for a year. I'm glad to hear you are happy with your life now. You're right, acceptance is the choice you should make to find happiness.

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      Ann Carr 4 years ago from SW England

      It's so true that if you accept what is around you and whatever comes your way, then life becomes easier. It's no good fighting; we make the best of what comes our way. You have obviously done that with a lot of courage and I salute you. You've come through and you're are all the richer for it.

      Great message in this hub. Ann

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway Thank you for your so encouraging words I enjoyed reading you suck kind words.

      billybuc thank you kindly

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      You are a strong, resilient person, Devika. Your photos are lovely, both then and now. Although most often we can change our circumstances if we try, there are sometimes we cannot. In such times, it's our outlook that needs work. Accepting things that cannot be changed is a challenging feat for many. It's part of the seasoning that maturity and experience brings.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Once I learned acceptance my life became very easy. Great words of wisdom here.

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