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What the Dress Says about the Woman
Based on that opinion, it makes sense to assume that wise little girls (made from sugar and spice) grow into wise adult woman who represent the highest quality of sweet and spicy womanhood (that comes in durable wrappers) which connoisseurs like to find. So let’s explore this idea.
We would never buy a candy bar that is unwrapped. Neither do we want the wrapper to be loose.
We reject it if the slightest tear in the wrapper exposes the candy. It could mean that:
- dirty hands have touched it;
- curious customers have pinched it;
- children may have licked it;
- people who could not afford to buy it may have smelled it and put it down again.
The candy wrapper gives information about the manufacturer, the brand and the ingredients.
How can we be sure of what we are getting when the wrapper has been tampered with and defaced, suggesting that the candy is now damaged goods?
Guide on Acceptable Dress
1 Timothy 2: 9,10
1 Peter 3: 3, 4
1 Corinthians 6: 19
Honor and Dignity
Compare the Dress with the Wrapper
The woman’s dress is her wrapper. It gives information about her value system and her character.
Occasionally, there are misjudgments; but for the most part, admirers get some indication of the woman’s self-worth and self-respect from the way she dresses. So, what does the dress say about the woman when she wears one that leaves her overexposed?
- Is her choice of the dress based on her self-worth?
- Is she comfortable with exposing her body parts to every passerby?
- How does she plan to handle sightseers who want to touch?
When a woman dresses to expose her breasts, her belly button, or the size and shape of her thighs, she downplays her value. Decent people do not want to see body parts that should be covered.
A woman who is scantily clad gives the impression of wanting to attract candy shoppers who are looking for cheap stuff; not the kind who appreciates the value of her body.
A man who is shopping for a good women focuses on her character, not on her clothes. He looks for beauty put forth, not for styles put on. He becomes wary of a woman who wears the kind of dress that makes her character seem questionable.
He looks for beauty displayed in her caring smile, her confident posture, her empowering words and her gracious voice. He admires her talents and her display of common sense. A good man wants to develop a spiritual, emotional connection before he shows interest in her physical form.
So, what type of person does the woman expect to admire her in the clothes she wears? If she values association with respectable people, it is wise for her to wear clothes which make her look respectable. If she looks trashy or cheap, she attracts shoppers who want to touch everything in sight and move on.
Some manufacturers change the wrapper according to the season.
Appropriate is the key word.
There is a place for shoulder straps, bikinis and bathing suits. Exercise and dance classes dictate a certain kind of costume. Comfort is essential when weeding the garden on a warm summer day. Even, when wearing these kinds of garments, the woman's sense of decency dictates that the woman consider the people in her company.
Some sportswear and beachwear come in layers to accommodate cover up when not actually engaged in the activity. Let wholesome thoughts and good moral judgement guide the choice of what to wear. If uncertain, ask a reliable friend to help you decide what is and is not appropriate.
How Men are Affected
Most kids reach for candy wherever they see it; it would be foolish to think they would stare at it and not want to try it. That has to do with habit as much as with age.
Some women defend their immodest dress habits by arguing that males should focus on good thoughts and not be affected by what they wear. However, thoughts feed on what the eyes see. It is already a habit for men to look at women who walk by. If the men are surprised by the sight of breasts popping up above low necklines; the shapes and colors of underwear revealed through see-through skirts; the outline of very private parts framed by short tights, they will look again.
Then their brains signal the testosterone to respond in the way that healthy males should. They may become sexually aroused and forced to deal with situations which could have been avoided if only their female friends were more sensitive, respectful and morally minded.
Many young women have never been told about the embarrassment that their male friends experience when they look at women who are dressed inappropriately. Let the older women educate the younger women to respect the men, who usually will return the respect by protecting instead of exploring their female friends.
A Father's Advice
In the book, the father makes an impressive point to his daughters about the importance of the way they dress. He puts the emphasis on the value of their bodies. More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes,
“Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard
to get to them.
"Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too."
Need we say more? Muhammad Ali is a world class hero not only in the boxing ring but also in his fatherly instruction to his daughters. Spread his advice.
What Does Your Dress Say about You?
It should say:
She is modest in her appearance. She wears decent and appropriate clothing and not does not draw attention to herself by the way she fixes her hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For she claims to be devoted to God and she makes herself attractive by the good things she does. (Adapted from 1 Timothy 2: 9, 10)