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What the Dress Says about the Woman

Updated on December 12, 2017
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MsDora, Certified Christian Counselor, has spent over 20 years empowering young and adult women to pursue positive, productive womanhood.

According to the nursery rhyme attributed to Robert Southey, little girls are made of “sugar and spice and everything nice.”

Based on that opinion, it makes sense to assume that wise little girls (made from sugar and spice) grow into wise adult woman who represent the highest quality of sweet and spicy womanhood (that comes in durable wrappers) which connoisseurs like to find. So let’s explore this idea.

The Wrapper

Modest? Decent? Appropriate?  Picture by Karen Arnold.
Modest? Decent? Appropriate? Picture by Karen Arnold. | Source

We would never buy a candy bar that is unwrapped. Neither do we want the wrapper to be loose.

We reject it if the slightest tear in the wrapper exposes the candy. It could mean that:

  • dirty hands have touched it;
  • curious customers have pinched it;
  • children may have licked it;
  • people who could not afford to buy it may have smelled it and put it down again.

The candy wrapper gives information about the manufacturer, the brand and the ingredients.

How can we be sure of what we are getting when the wrapper has been tampered with and defaced, suggesting that the candy is now damaged goods?

Compare the Dress with the Wrapper

The woman’s dress is her wrapper. It gives information about her value system and her character.

Occasionally, there are misjudgments; but for the most part, admirers get some indication of the woman’s self-worth and self-respect from the way she dresses. So, what does the dress say about the woman when she wears one that leaves her overexposed?

  • Is her choice of the dress based on her self-worth?
  • Is she comfortable with exposing her body parts to every passerby?
  • How does she plan to handle sightseers who want to touch?

When a woman dresses to expose her breasts, her belly button, or the size and shape of her thighs, she downplays her value. Decent people do not want to see body parts that should be covered.

A woman who is scantily clad gives the impression of wanting to attract candy shoppers who are looking for cheap stuff; not the kind who appreciates the value of her body.

Guide on Acceptable Dress

Bible Reference
Modesty, Decency
1 Timothy 2: 9,10
Psalm 24:4
Inner Beauty
1 Peter 3: 3, 4
Body Temple
1 Corinthians 6: 19
Romans 14:21
Honor and Dignity
Proverbs 31:25
Romans 12:1

The Shopper

A man who is shopping for a good women focuses on her character, not on her clothes. He looks for beauty put forth, not for styles put on. He becomes wary of a woman who wears the kind of dress that makes her character seem questionable.

He looks for beauty displayed in her caring smile, her confident posture, her empowering words and her gracious voice. He admires her talents and her display of common sense. A good man wants to develop a spiritual, emotional connection before he shows interest in her physical form.

So, what type of person does the woman expect to admire her in the clothes she wears? If she values association with respectable people, it is wise for her to wear clothes which make her look respectable. If she looks trashy or cheap, she attracts shoppers who want to touch everything in sight and move on.

For what occasion would this dress be appropriate?  Nothing comes to mind. -- Photo by Brian Lin
For what occasion would this dress be appropriate? Nothing comes to mind. -- Photo by Brian Lin | Source

The Occasion

Some manufacturers change the wrapper according to the season.

Appropriate is the key word.

There is a place for shoulder straps, bikinis and bathing suits. Exercise and dance classes dictate a certain kind of costume. Comfort is essential when weeding the garden on a warm summer day. Even, when wearing these kinds of garments, the woman's sense of decency dictates that the woman consider the people in her company.

Some sportswear and beachwear come in layers to accommodate cover up when not actually engaged in the activity. Let wholesome thoughts and good moral judgement guide the choice of what to wear. If uncertain, ask a reliable friend to help you decide what is and is not appropriate.

How Men are Affected

Most kids reach for candy wherever they see it; it would be foolish to think they would stare at it and not want to try it. That has to do with habit as much as with age.

Some women defend their immodest dress habits by arguing that males should focus on good thoughts and not be affected by what they wear. However, thoughts feed on what the eyes see. It is already a habit for men to look at women who walk by. If the men are surprised by the sight of breasts popping up above low necklines; the shapes and colors of underwear revealed through see-through skirts; the outline of very private parts framed by short tights, they will look again.

Then their brains signal the testosterone to respond in the way that healthy males should. They may become sexually aroused and forced to deal with situations which could have been avoided if only their female friends were more sensitive, respectful and morally minded.

Many young women have never been told about the embarrassment that their male friends experience when they look at women who are dressed inappropriately. Let the older women educate the younger women to respect the men, who usually will return the respect by protecting instead of exploring their female friends.

A Father's Advice

In the book, More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes, the father makes an impressive point to his daughters about the importance of the way they dress. He puts the emphasis on the value of their bodies.

“Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard
to get to them.

"Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too."

Need we say more? Muhammad Ali is a world class hero not only in the boxing ring but also in his fatherly instruction to his daughters. Spread his advice.

What Does Your Dress Say about You?

It should say:

She is modest in her appearance. She wears decent and appropriate clothing and not does not draw attention to herself by the way she fixes her hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For she claims to be devoted to God and she makes herself attractive by the good things she does. (Adapted from 1 Timothy 2: 9, 10)


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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for your affirmation, frogyfish. Hope your granddaughter is accepting. The best to you, both!

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      frogyfish 6 years ago from Central United States of America

      Voted up and awesome! We need this affirmation FEW are living by this in today's culture. Am bookmarking it for my granddaughter to read. Thank you for a courageous expression of truth!

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks,Peg. It's an honor to have you stop by and leave a kind comment.

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      Peg Cole 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      This is true MsDora. God looks on the inside but humans look on the outside. My Mom used to say "They shouldn't be looking!" But they do. Well written.

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      You're right jagandelight. Thanks for your affirmation. Let's do whatever we can to help both young and old learn the lesson.

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      jagandelight 6 years ago from Florida

      A lot of women need both young and old needs this lesson because some older women dresses so vulgar they disrespect themselves. Clothing do say a lot about you and it sets you up to be judged, character wise.

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks sugardaddyapparel. It encourages me to know that you and I are on the same page.

      How kind and sweet, creation56. I appreciate you!

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      creation56 6 years ago from Texas

      Thank you for these practical words of wisdom! I can not wait for the next one. Love you.

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      sugardaddyapparel 6 years ago from Hong Kong

      I think that how a girl dresses and styles herself reflect her personality and characters. Very good point on your hubs keep up the work^^

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      PegCole17, you said it very well. Thanks!

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      Peg Cole 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      I love your comparison of women's dress to chocolate bars - "we would never buy a candy bar that is unwrapped." Men make assumptions about women based on their initial reaction to our physical appearance and take signals from our clothing. To preserve our value - we must maintain our fresh, careful wrappings.

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks Linda, for sharing my interest. I'm sure you help me share it.

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      Linda Gumbs 6 years ago

      Hi Dora:

      I love it! This is so true and should be shared with as many women as we could possibly reach.

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eunette, thanks for stopping by. Hope the women in your church have a response similar to yours.

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      Eunette Warner 6 years ago

      I love this illustration. That is God's ideal for his daughters. I will share this with the women in my church, both young and old. Keep up the good works.

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      Dora Weithers 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for your encouragement, ladyt11. I'm glad that you share my passion for morality in dress. I also like your phrase "appreciated not tolerated." The comparison of the wrapper and the dress is in Chapter 6 of my Purity Circle Workbook, which I have listed among the Amazon books on this page. Thanks again.

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      ladyt11 6 years ago

      MsDora this is AWESOME!!! This should be a how to book for young ladies, mothers and anyone who wants to be appreciated and not just tolerated! I love your comparisons using the wrapper and I love how you brought out that you have to dig deep to uncover what's good enough to be protected. I felt regal just reading this and well, that's the whole point!! God bless you, you have a wonderful mind.