Oops, The Not So Much End of He Wears Panties
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With the beginning of 2010, I've decided to stop writing about men who wear women's clothing. (Well, I had, I've slightly changed my mind, because I tried stopping for a week and it was boring, so I might just continue. I'm allowed to flip flop, I'm a writer not a war president.) Still though, the rest of this article has validness in it that you might find of interest, so read on if you're so incline.
I do have some thoughts I'd like to share with you if you're inclined to read them. My last articles were about, as I called it, 'The Lie of Femininity'. It's a lie that many people encourage, and indeed, that many men who wear women's clothing aspire to. It's not a real kind of femininity, the kind of femininity that requires a woman be painted and be clothed in usually wildly uncomfortable clothing that. It's a false parody of femininity.
Whether you're a man wearing a thong and heels, or a woman putting on a push up bra and lipstick, you're striving for a false ideal. Now there's nothing wrong with that if you have fun with it. It's absolutely fine for all genders to engage in a great game of dress up and hyper femininity. It's not fine to regard make up and clothing as the pinnacle of human achievement however.
If you are looking for a partner in life, beware of women who spend all their time in the hyper feminine zone. Yes, I know they are attractive, pretty butterflies, I know many of you aspire to be just like them. However women who are trapped in the mindset that says they must be pretty and feminine are usually, (not always, I'll admit, but I would say quite often,) looking for the man to match. See that word there? The man. They don't want a man who wears women's clothing, because they've heavily invested in being hyper feminine which means that you have to be hyper masculine.
So then, men who wear women's clothing, you have a challenge before you. Can you open your minds and embrace women who are organically, naturally feminine, women who understand dressing up and wearing make up for what it is, a fun diversion, but not the be all and end all of life? Or will you continue to be trapped in a cycle like moths to a flame, bumping up against anything in a ridiculously short skirt and silly high heels, women who seem so feminine, but are in reality terrified of not being thought feminine enough, women who trade on their femininity and therefore require men hopelessly mired in the sort of tired masculinity you men find so repulsive?
Fate, as Morpheus observed, has a sense of irony. Prejudices remain towards men who wear women's clothing, but equally powerful prejudices often exist in the minds of men who admire femininity to the point where they confuse it for being pretty face paint and sparkles and skirts. Overcome the prejudices within, and you may find more freedom than you had ever imagined.
Enjoy your lingerie, your make up, your dresses and skirts, but let them free you, do not become a slave to them and don't let them blind you to the beauty that is real femininity.