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Self-Esteem or Failed to Self-Sauce Chocolate Pudding

Updated on October 30, 2009

Failed to Self-Sauce Chocolate Puddings

Everyone (or at least nearly everyone) loves chocolate pudding but when our self-esteem has been battered by harsh parenting we have difficulty realizing we are OK. We have difficulty remembering we are chocolate pudding and fail to self-sauce ourselves.

It's a strange way to look at things I know but I haven't written a hub for a long long time and I had some ideas going on in my head which I thought to share with my beloved fellow hubbers.

Cry, laugh, do what you will as long as I don't lose your interest as I string together these ideas that came to me, which, I might add, have a very serious side to them.

Yes, Self-Esteem is not unlike Self-Saucing Chocolate Pudding but here I want to talk about the strangest phenomenon.

See if you recognize it.

George Patton once said: "I don't measure a mans success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom."

Now why I mention this is because if you have a history of being put down by a parent, what can happen is you begin to put yourself down or see this is the path you must take before climbing. Instead of Self-Saucing yourself all the time because that's what your loving mum and dad did, you instead sabotage yourself and see if you can get out of the predicament you've so unlovingly created for yourself.

To put this another way, not only do you sabotage yourself but you must see how high you can climb (a la George Patton's quote), after you've hit the bottom.

If you can keep coming back from the mouth of hell so to speak, you eventually can prove to yourself the thing your parent never did. You have finally found your Self-Sauce!

"I must be OK. Look what I accomplished considering how low I got. Incredible. Put the sauce on me. I've proven I'm chocolate pudding!"

Doesn't everyone like to see the underdog get up? Isn't there some psychological attachment to seeing him or her finally make it against the odds?

The "against the odds" part of this self-sabotaging cycle or phenomenon is important for the building of self-esteem. They thought you couldn't make it but you proved them wrong "against the odds". Wow, that deserves a huge amount of chocolate sauce!

If you recognize, yourself in what's been said I'm grateful as hopefully this will lead you out of this cycle of self-sabotage created by constant put-downs.

The moral of this tale: if you have children, don't put them down please, try instead to remind them always of your love for them even if you don't agree with what they do.

Being a kind parent will help avoid giving your child "Failed to Self-Sauce Chocolate Pudding" syndrome.







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    • psychicdog.net profile imageAUTHOR

      psychicdog.net 

      8 years ago

      One comment from bayareagreatthing is special itself! Two is like getting the jackpot!

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      bayareagreatthing 

      8 years ago from Bay Area California

      I just came back to read this one more time :0)

    • psychicdog.net profile imageAUTHOR

      psychicdog.net 

      8 years ago

      thanks Catherine R. I was worried no-one would make sense of what I was trying to say so appreciate comments here.

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      Catherine R 

      8 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

      Lovely advice - thank you!

    • psychicdog.net profile imageAUTHOR

      psychicdog.net 

      8 years ago

      thanks for dropping by bayareagreatthing but I'm sorry, the day is still a long way off for when you can eat what's on your computer screen.

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      bayareagreatthing 

      8 years ago from Bay Area California

      Very wise advice my friend...and a yummy picture too :)

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