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The Oil Of Joy For Mourning

Updated on November 7, 2014

"Lord, please give me grace to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Isaiah 61:3

To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.

On July 16, 2011 unknown multitudes of people went to their final reward. Sadly, one of them was my husband of 53 years. This is a brief sharing of my testimony and praise to the grace of God which is carrying us through this deep valley of death. I am learning through this time that death is something all human beings have to face in life, both in our loved ones and our own approaching death. Although we all realize that those who are closest to us will one day die, the reality and the finality of it is something we only fully realize when we experience it personally. It is a hard truth of life, a fact we cannot change. .

The end of any life is a tragedy. I think especially difficult for life partners joined in marriage. In my case, the severing of the deep bond established over a 53 year span has been a thing I could not have dealt with and remained stable except for my Lord Jesus Christ. One life comes to it's final end, but the one remaining must go on. It is very traumatic. But I can honestly say that the scripture below has shown itself to be truth; the trauma of the death of my loved one has not made me to doubt the love and faithfulness of my God. In fact, he is proving himself strong in amazing ways.

Romans 8:37-39

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither DEATH nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I am seeing more clearly now that ever the precious treasure that my Lord is to me. I stand amazed at the outpouring of comfort and love through friends and family.

But now, the old has passed away, and all things are become new. I know that as I remain strong in the Lord and in the power of his might I have the assurance that God will help us with our daily grief processes and all the steps necessary for the rebuilding of new lives.

My daily prayer is now "Lord, please help me to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

I do pray for any who read that my words may have some effect in encouraging you to draw nearer to your God, who is always waiting. He is the source of all strength and comfort. And I am grateful to my God who has moved mightily in our lives in the last few years we were together to keep the love alive and to keep the bond strong. I am very grateful to know and to proclaim to all that my God is willing and able to bring all husbands and wives to this kind of life and death experience.

For better or for worse, in richer or poorer, In sickness and in health, till death do us part.


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      frogyfish 6 years ago from Central United States of America

      I did not expect this hub writings from the title you gave...though it fits perfectly now. Blessings to you as you grieve, heal and 'continue life'. Your determination shows in the bouncy song of the video...loved it all. You will make it for you have faith, choice and Divine strength! Makes for a real winner.


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