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The Girl Worth Having
“You'll find another.' God! Banish the thought. Why don't you tell me that 'if the girl had been worth having she'd have waited for you'? No, sir, the girl really worth having won't wait for anybody.”
-F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise
Just let that sink in for a minute. Perhaps read it again.
Perfectly said, F. Scott. “the girl really worth having won’t wait for anybody,” nor should she have to.
We, the female population love the satisfaction of having a man, a real man. We love the small things. The flowers, the dinner dates, the late night adult sleepovers. We love it all. But the real question is, what does it mean?
There has been a lot of debate lately about the lack of chivalry and how it has disappeared from our generation. Sad, isn’t it? The New York Times published a fabulous article weeks back about this very topic, exposing us as a more laid back, hook-up culture. Is that what we want? Think about it, I mean, really think about it.
Some girls may dare to dream for the movie-like lifestyle or the love fairytale, but I hate to break it to you, life isn’t like the movies and life is certainly not fairytale. If you want something real, something worthwhile, take that extra step. Make your feelings obvious to your man and put the ball in his court.
Let him know how he makes you feel and see what he does with it. If he does not understand or fails to notice what he has in front of him, it’s his loss. No girl should sit around and wait. The right man will want to swoop you up so fast and take you off the market, so to speak.
Who wouldn’t want to be wrapped up in her guy’s arms, night after night, walking hand-in-hand down the street, flowers for no reason, smiles for no reason other than pure happiness and joy? I know I would.
The ideal man wouldn’t be afraid to parade you around in front of his friends, without a care in the world. Don’t let other factors take control of your relationship. It is ‘your’ relationship for a reason. Make it what you want it to be. You possess so many great qualities and any guy should be so lucky to have you. Don’t ever forget that.
Blonde Advice: Let your guy know how you feel, don’t play games. If he doesn’t agree or take you seriously, don’t walk, run, run away. Everyone deserves to be happy. You are worth having, don’t sit around and wait. Someday, the right guy will show you how much you’re worth.