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The Internet Love Scam, Don't Become a Victim

Updated on March 28, 2018
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Eternity published her first book in 2013. Since then she has focused on writing short stories and articles. She has a passion for travel.


The Internet Love Scam

I once read a story about an American woman who fell in love with a Jamaican man. She fell head over heels in love with him. He was charming and seemed to be the most caring man she had ever met. It didn't take long for either of them to say 'I love you'-- three days to be exact. Some people would call this insane, and others would say it romantic. So, what happen? Was this love at first sight? Not quit, their love story could be desrcribed as love at first phone call. You see-- the man and the woman connected over the internet-- another internet love story, or was it? For an entire year they texted, called, video chatted, and worked on their long distance relationship. They both planned to meet up in person as soon as their schedules were free. The American woman, for the most part was completely content with her new found love, but their was one exception. Every month the man would find some reason to ask her for money. The first month he needed $100 to help towards his brothers schooling. The second month he asked for $300 because he had some unexpected flooding in his home. The third month it was his phone bill, and this went on and on every month. She was skeptical each time, but what is more valuable money or love? So, each time she gave into love and sent him the money. Her friends were outraged, they warned her she was getting scammed-- a love scam. Ignoring her friends warnings, eventually it was time to meet her charming man, so she hopped on a plane to Jamaica. To everyone's amazament-- even hers, he was exactly who he said he was. They were still in love and happy for the entire two weeks she stayed. At the end of those two weeks he proposed-- of course she said yes, and two months later her friends and family all arrived in Jamaica for her tropical wedding. So, her dream came true, Right?-- Wrong. Her life remained in the U.S. so they continued a long distance marriage, the agreement being he would move there in the next couple of months. Six months and $10,000 dollars later he disappeared. Leaving her heartbroken and bewildered. The story goes on to explain, eventually he reaches out again, and again he is feeding her a story-- asking for money. It is concluded that this was indeed a 'Internet love scam'.

So what is a Internet love scam? When a man or woman purposefully lures an individual into a online relationship for financial gain. This is one of the worst scams ever invented, because not only do people lose their hard earned money, they are also left with a broken heart. Anyone that has ever been heart broken knows it is a devastating experience.

So who are these people-- evil doers-- that orchestrate these kinds of horrible plans? The truth is they come from all different ways of life, and from every corner of the world. Some hide behind fake profiles, and some hide behind good looks-- preying on people desperatley seeking love. In a world where everyone's life is out in the open on some sort of social media network, how can you determine the real from the fake? During my research I noticed one of the main social networks used for a internet love scam is of course Facebook. Obviously Facebook is not to blame-- in fact they advise their members to only friend people they know. Then again, it's possible to friend up to 5,000 people, and who on this planet has 5,000 friends? If you do great, but I'm guessing most of us do not. Soon my 100+ friends turned into 200, and then 300, and eventually the mutual friends came rolling in. I was recieving friend request from people across country, even people an entire world away. So I began to chat with some of my new friends. Most of which reached out to me first. Then I noticed the red flags. There were the typical compliments, which led to a lot of people confessing their love after just a week of chatting. One person in particular told me he'd fallen in love with me already, when asked how and why, no good answer could be given. He then went on to ask for $500 dollars, because his family lives in a poor country and needed help. Now I know there are plenty of people who are struggling around the world, but using fake love as a way to recieve assistance is just wrong. So, who falls for these tricks. I couldn't imagine anyone who would, but many do. It became clear that people living in certain countries were being targeted the most.

Countries targeted the most:

1. The United States
2. The United Kingdom
3. Austraila
4. Japan

There are more countries targeted, but just to name a few-- as seen these are considered first world countries. While chatting with my new found friends, I noticed the ones most likely to confess love and eventually ask for assistance lived in certain countries as well.


1. Nigeria
2. Jaimaca
3. Ghana
4. India

Again, just to name a few countries.

Avoid becoming a victim. If you are looking for love online, stick to the dating sites. It is still possible to get scammed on these sites, but less likely. Most people are on these sites seriously seeking a compatible mate. Network responsibily, stick to people you know, or have similiar interests. You will be less likely to be lured into a false online relatuonship. Don't become a victim of the online love scam.

© 2018 Eternity Reign


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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 7 weeks ago

      Good advice!

      There are two things everyone must keep in mind.

      1. You are responsible for having your own mate selection screening process and "must haves list". Nothing happens until (you) say "Yes".

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      2. Always use good "commonsense" when meeting strangers online or offline. Being naïve, gullible, and trusting people too easily is foolish. Never ignore "red flags".

      If something doesn't feel right to you it's probably not right for you.

      Trust like respect is something that should be (earned) over time.