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Are We in Love or in Love with Valentine's Day?
We Are in Love with Valentine's Day
February 14Th brings feelings of love, warmth, gentle smiles and romance. We have visions of Cupid with his bow, warm fires,engagements, heart shaped boxes of chocolate and colorful greeting cards.
We love to be in love. Whether it is for a few minutes, a few months or many years. Everyone wants a Valentine and if they say they don't, I don't believe it.
Valentine's Day has become, like all the holidays, a marketing masterpiece. Every store whether it be a drug store, lingerie store, sweet shoppe and especially the jewelry stores puts on the grand display in full regalia. We begin to feel the romance in the air and have the desire to be in love. We begin to get lost in the Valentine Fog .
For many this is a wonderful and even euphoric experience. However, on the downside those who have recently separated from their love or do not have someone to call their love can be thrown into the barren feeling of loss. Dangerous!
A Little History of Valentine's Day
It would appear Valentine's Day was established by Pope Gelasius in approximately 500 AD named after an early Christian Martyr. Valentine's Day was officially deleted from the Catholic calendar in 1969 by Pope Paul VI.
Romantic notions for Valentine's Day go back to the beginning. Poetry and sonnets often made reference to Valentine's Day:
-morrow is Saint Valentine's day,
All in the morning betime,
And I a maid at your window,
To be your Valentine.
Then up he rose, and donn'd his clothes,
And dupp'd the chamber-door;
Let in the maid, that out a maid
Never departed more.
—William Shakespeare, Hamlet , Act IV
Hayle Bishop Valentine whose day this is
All the Ayre is thy Diocese
And all the chirping Queristers
And other birds ar thy parishioners
Thou marryest every yeare
The Lyrick Lark, and the graue whispering Doue,
The Sparrow that neglects his life for loue,
The houshold bird with the redd stomacher
Thou makst the Blackbird speede as soone,
As doth the Goldfinch, or the Halcyon
The Husband Cock lookes out and soone is spedd
And meets his wife, which brings her feather-bed.
This day more cheerfully than ever shine
This day which might inflame thy selfe old Valentine. —John Donne
One of the most known images we have for Valentine's Day dates way back. It is that cute and cuddley little cherub named Cupid. Cupid emerges with his bow and arrow and waits to pierce the hearts of lovers causing them to fall immeditately and madly in love. Legend has it that Cupid is quite a sneaky little fellow. He likes to pierce the hearts of unlikely lovers. It seems he may derive enjoyment from watching those fall in love who may not have otherwise.
Valentine's Day Symbols
It is amazing how we can communicate thoughts and events through symbols. Words do not have to be spoken in order to convey a Valentine's message. The holiday is so rich in symbolism that it invades the human psyche with out us even being aware. Again the Valentine Fog.
Hearts, velvet heart shaped candy boxes, candies with cute little "hug me" quotes, heart jewelry, stuffed animals holding hearts, lacy lingerie in red with a touch of innocent white, antique cards, perfume and lets not forget the highly over priced bouquet of red roses.
The greeting card industry has made a fortune decade upon decade on Valentine's Day. Early on greeting card companies realized what a gold mine this holiday was and started marketing lacy cards. In early England it became quite the craze to make and acquire beautiful Valentine's Day cards.
Today Valentine's Day is one of the holidays that people actually do not mind paying way too much for a card in which at any other time of the year, a card of the same caliber, would be half the price.
The Down Side to Valentine's Day
There is a huge negative side to this whole Valentine's Day euphoria. What about the impact Valentine's Day can have on some people. Wow, just think about it. That Valentine Fog can really do a number on someone who is not in a relationship or has recently lost one who wants to be in one.
I could not find any solid information that suicides rise during Valentine's Day. However, in the general population those who are Valentineless and want a Valentine are not happy about it. You can see this depicted in movies and books. From personal observation I know that people become sad and have an overall negative response to the Valentine Fog and can't wait for it to be over.
It is bad enough that Valentine's Day falls in the dead of Winter where many people are all ready suffering from some sort of depression due to cold and snowy climate. Technically these folks have to deal with the Valentine Fog for almost an entire month with the way it is marketed.
What to do to beat the Valentine Blues? That just may be another hub or blog.
Which Side of the Valentine Fence are you?
It seems if you are a company trying to earn money, you will. If you are in love or almost there, you are in luck. If you are in the wasteland of sadness, you are out of luck.
No matter which side of the fence you stand on you are effected by this holiday. Wow, the effects of one day that we put on our own made up calendar system.
Where do you stand?