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The Love of a Newborn

Updated on August 20, 2017

Remembering What's REAL

Just one day old and he's got a half-a-smile!
Just one day old and he's got a half-a-smile!
An angel sleeps...
An angel sleeps...

Stepping Out of Tough Stuff in Life

A little tiny miracle, my precious new grandson, finally chose to make his appearance in this world Friday, July 23 at 3:43 a.m. I went home at 3:00 because we had waited so long for him to be born and I was so exhausted, I just had to get some sleep. He was delivered by C-section and he and his Mommy are doing just fine.

I have waited for his arrival in excited anticipation for the last nine months. Knowing he was coming had given me lots of thoughts to ponder. I am one of those deeply introspective people who chooses to see the symbolism, purpose and positive perspective in everything that occurs. It takes me a minute sometimes to see the positive in some events, but mostly, I search to find something good about all things as quickly as I can because there's enough negativity in the world without me being a part of it.

That last paragraph is my reason for writing this article. I have been through so many rough times since March 2008, it's almost unimaginable. I won't go into major detail here but suffice it to say that I lost four people in my family in eight months (two of them committed suicide within seven weeks of each other), so I moved back to Arizona from California to be with my sons and my three-year-old grandson. When I got here, I had all kinds of illnesses invade my body. I found out I have diabetes, I had bronchitis three times, I got pink eye, had a biopsy because the doctor thought I had cancer, and I had a hysterectomy. I was off work twice due to complications from the surgery, only to be told that I was going to get fired from my job on the very day I came back to work from disability. I think that's quite enough "roller coaster" for awhile, ya think?!!

It came to pass that both my sons and their partners were due to have babies 2 weeks apart! I was totally thrilled to think I get two new grandchildren all at once! Then I got the sad news that my oldest son and his wife lost their baby. I was heartbroken. I knew that they can try again and I will get a precious grandchild from them just like the one I got Friday from my youngest son and his girlfriend.

Since the day I found out I get another grandchild, I have done all I can to stay focused on the fact that new babies bring a new perspective to the lives of people who have lived the daily doldrums of work, bills and the sometimes mundane routines of adulthood. Babies bring about the remembering of innocence, the awe and wonder of the world around us. They bring about the realization that a newborn is like a clean slate, they have no judgement, no issues, no anger, no hurt, no suffering, no sadness. They are the closest beings to God since they are the ones that were most recently with Him. They are pure and innocent and free from all the effects that come along with life on this earth.

Because I have spent years working on my self-awareness, self-development, self-respect and striving to be a more spiritually and emotionally conscious person, the arrival of this beautiful child has pulled me back closer to the essence of who we all are really meant to be. It has caused me to remember that to raise a child "in the way he should go", it is up to me and to all those who love him, to be as "conscious" as we can be. It us up to us to teach him honor and respect and serenity. We need to let him know that he is valuable and worthy of all good things in life. We need to teach him that even though the world may be hectic and busy and sometimes stressful, that we don't need to allow it to saturate our soul. We can take a "higher" approach. We can see all the events swirling around us and keep it that way by just letting it go AROUND us instead of THROUGH us. We can keep the perspective of thinking we are watching a movie. The only happenings that effect us negatively are those happenings that we give our empowerment to.

The birth of my grandson, Dash Alexander, has helped me become even more centered than I have already been, in spite of all the events of the past two-and-a-half years. He has caused me to focus even more so on my peace of mind, my centeredness, my reason for being here, the purpose of life in general. His birth has made me even more adamant to maintain my stance on staying positive. That child will know his "Grammy" will do the very best she can to say only positive, helpful, loving, compassionate, encouraging things to him. That child will know there is nothing in the world I wouldn't do for him if it was within my power to do it. That child will know that the things I do for him will not be co-dependent or damaging when it comes to teaching him about his own personal empowerment. He will learn that all of life is a reflection of our perspective about it. He will learn that we draw into our life exactly what we think we "deserve", that our thoughts are the most powerful things in the world, right below the innate greatness and unconditional love with which we were all born. He will know how truly blessed I am that he is one of my grandchildren.

I love you deeply, Dash Alexander! Happy Birthday, you beautiful angel boy. Welcome to the greatest adventure ever!


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      Bail Up ! 7 years ago

      To hold new life in your hands is the greatest blessing of all. In spite of all you've been through, your grandchildren will help keep you spirited and motivated.

      You are a proud grandma and it shows :)

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      Lene Lynn 7 years ago

      oliversmum, thank you so much for the compliment! Now the other part you need to know is: because I was so sick in Phoenix, I had to move back to CA to get out of the heat and heal my emotions and body. I miss my grandkids soooo much but have been back to see them in Feb of this year and get to see them again over Memorial weekend! I get to see all 3 of them, so I am thrilled! Thanks for reading, I really appreciate it! :)

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      oliversmum 7 years ago from australia

      Lene Lynn. Hi. Goodness me, you have had a couple of not so good years, but now your new grandson has put everything back where it should be.

      Children and grandchildren are the most precious folks on this earth, and your's are so fortunate to have you in their lives, where as you can spoil,love,cuddle and teach them, all the good stuff that grandmothers are so good at.

      I loved your story and thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

      Thanks so much for sharing it with us.Voted up. :) :)

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      Lene' Lynn St. John 7 years ago from Glendale, AZ

      Carrie, thanks so much for the compliment about my precious grandson. I miss him SO much, as well as missing my other grandson, Adam, and my granddaughter, Emma. I also appreciate your empathy, I really do. What you have read isn't even half of what happened to me. I wrote a book in 2001 that is no longer published but if you would like to buy a copy on, just go to that website, go to the "books" section and type in, "Reality in Disguise", which is my book and you can buy a used copy there. Just in case you are interested! :) Thanks so much for stopping by to read my hub! I REALLY appreciate it!

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      carrie450 7 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

      You have certainly had your share of of serious problems Lene Lynn. My heart goes out to you. Congratulations on your new grandchild. The photos are precious.

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      Angelique Fritz 7 years ago

      very beautifully and deeply said!how beautiful a child he is!!