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What Is A Real Man

Updated on January 28, 2015

You may have been born a male but it takes a lot of work and courage to be a real man.

In order to find out what a real man is, we need to find out what one is not!

We cannot look at the evening news or read a daily newspaper and discover what a real man is.

It is no secret that we live in a male dominant society with males playing major rolls in the film industry such as James Bond, Rocky, Clint Eastwood, Bronson, Chuck Norris and others who seem to be the ones defeating the bad guys and saving the day.

Let’s get real, we live in a world that is self centered and self motivated whose main goal is to be one step ahead of someone else.

With that in mind, where do we look to find what we are looking for?

We must go further than today’s society because most of the Crimes, Rapes and DUI’s are committed by males.

I am here to ease your minds and make a bold statement,” We will never find a man worthy of measuring up to what our society today would call a real man especially with the increased pressures of life that we face everyday.”.

A real man is not one who tends to loose his temper and place selfish demands on others forcing them to adjust to his way or no way at all. This would tend to drive people away instead of bringing them in.

Our character and courage is not found in our temper tantrums or heard in the volume of our voice but is revealed in the way we handle adversity and change.

A real man is not one who refuses to do what he thinks is sissy stuff by helping his wife out in the kitchen and home and God help him not be seen opening the car door for her which in his mind would be a sign of weakness.

A real man is not one who must be in complete control of everything around him and refuses to accept help of any kind that is offered.

A real man is not one who must stand tall and aggressive at times to make things happen.

A real man is not one that would raise his voice to be heard to make a point or must get even if he feels he has been wronged.

A real man is not one who would spew out hurtful words and stomp out of a discussion to a secluded place to whimper like a little child. This shows nothing but a weak immature male who has never grown up and accepted the responsibilities in being a man.

A real man is found in the words of Jesus when he pointed to John and said "there has never been one greater that is born of a woman than John the Baptist"!

What did John have that we do not have that made the Lord speak to us from the volume of his book that if you are looking for a real man, then look at John?

John was a man of understanding and was known to be a sincere man that caused people to want to hear what he had to say.

He was a man who lived a disciplined life that was not concerned about the dress code of the day and was given to a life of prayer and fasting.

He was a man of conviction who believed in keeping his heart pure.

He was a man of courage who confronted the Pharisees calling them vipers and warning them of the coming judgment.

He was a man of integrity who was not swayed by the popular vote.

He was a man of great courage who allowed his convictions to govern his actions and was not afraid to point out evil doers ruling in high places in government even to the expense of his own life.

Now that we have examined the characteristics of a real man, my question would be how does this relate to us?

I will make an attempt to answer this question by asking some questions.

How do we as men relate and respond to life’s challenges?

Are we willing to sacrifice for those we love?

Are we willing to change by adjusting and giving a little to keep the peace and maybe even go an extra mile to save a relationship?

Are we willing to admit when we are wrong and admit when we need help?

Are we willing to admit that we cannot solve everything and that we are human?

Are we willing to admit to our spouse that we need help and face up to the fact that we are human and sometimes we are fearful of a given situation?

Street people being asked to describe the characteristics of a real man

Some Helpful Advice

The first thing that a real man will do is develop a fear for sin and what it can do to his life and marriage.

He will never place himself in a situation where he might be tempted because he knows there are women in the world with seducing spirits that are selfish and love to destroy a happy marriage.

A real man will resist temptation and make it a point to always do the right thing.

A real man will live according to his God given convictions in an unstable world and be determined to live a life characterized by integrity.

A real man is one that will strive to be connected with God’s purposes for his life and set goals to transfer what he has learned to others around him.

I do not know about you but I am striving everyday to be a real man appreciating the life God has blessed me with and live it with integrity and balance.

1995 Promise Keepers at Los Angeles Coliseum with Tony Evans


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    • Jerry Hulse profile image

      Jerry W Hulse 4 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      schoolgirl u sure did a good job presenting a good woman.

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      schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago

      Thanks for asking me to write this hub: (I didn't read yours first btw ;)

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      shofarcall 4 years ago

      Hello Jerry,

      We live in a time when "Godly" men are few. Thank you Jerry, for bringing to our attention the qualities that belong to a Godly man.

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      Jerry W Hulse 5 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      Tks soconfident, Be Blessed

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      Derrick Bennett 5 years ago

      Great hub, these are all good points. I must be able to remain calm, cool, and collected in any situation he may find himself in.

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      Richard Denney 5 years ago

      Great Hub Jerry. I continue to be transformed by God daily. He is so wonderful. You are blessed! I agree it would be great to see what the wonderful writers above have to say about "What a real woman of God is."

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      Jerry W Hulse 5 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      Think about Ruth, A spring Rose coming out of a pagan religion and she was used to take a 10 year curse off her people. Be Blessed

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      SparrowMinistries 5 years ago

      Quite a challenge...I'll be thinking about that....

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      Jerry W Hulse 5 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      Thanks coming from such talented writers and now where is your article on what is a real woman?

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      These attributes are the mark of a real man and also ones that will help a man to enjoy life. Thank you for writing on this topic. Great wisdom!

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      SparrowMinistries 5 years ago

      So great! This hub will encourage many who are seeking to be the men God created them to be. Some others will never read it because they ARE the things a real man is NOT. A great positive message. Up and awesome.

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      Deepika Mehra 5 years ago from New Delhi

      awesome thoughts..thanks for sharing it with us..

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      Jerry W Hulse 5 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      Thank you my friend I see you are trying to step up and be somebody. Be Blessed

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      yssubramanyam 5 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      excellent hub. very astute and ardent. very informative. i like this hub.