- Gender and Relationships
The Many Sagas of Relationships
Seems that the older I get, the more I learn about my mistakes in relationships.
As a youngster, I used to always be looking for Ms. Goodbar, you know the women who has no flaws, and who is just perfect...Even then, I am sure I recognized the silliness of this attitude but hey it was youthful energy and youthful time. Of course, it might also have been because I was a late bloomer in terms of romance and dating. I think my first true date was in College though in High School I had a few crushes that i did not really pursue. And, my first long term relationship was probably sometime in my late 20's. I Remember breaking up with ladies over the simplest of things, like a mole on the cheek, or not having the right style that I thought would fit with me.
Not that I'm perfect, or even thought I was perfect then. But, as I got older, I started realizing that I might have to expect some flaws..we not have the same religious, political, or business goals...we might not even necessarily like all of the same things, though it is good to have some common interests. Shucks they might even be a Bears fan like my brother, and not want to root for the Vikings or they might even think that blues music is not all that great, or not even be a fan at all of cryptoquotes or political and social issue discourse.
And, of course, I have realized my own flaws....Being lazy and procrastinating, telling white lies to get out of situations in the past, and being a hoarder to name a few...I'm sure there are physical flaws, and definitely have the flaw of not being a car driver to some. But, hey I have some serious ambitions even at 53...Might get to them before I'm 90...SMILE.....And I'm still hopeful of finding a good and permanent relationship...Who knows might even have a kid though at 53, unless she is much younger, and doesn't mind her kid having a "grandfather" for their Dad that seems less and less likely.......But hey stranger things have happened in the world...Dad seems to be enjoying being a granddaddy to my two nephews who are six and seven.....and both in grade school now....
But, all of this gets me to wondering what flaws have you discovered of your own as you got older and how did you cope with them?