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The Night the Angels Came to Take Her Away
You can't stop what has happened from happening again, without help...
Without the HELP, STOP is just another silly word.
I caught 10 minutes of a TV program last week, while I was folding laundry. I do not recall what the actual name of the program was, but the discussion was on a subject which I am a true advocate for working towards; stopping Domestic Violence.
As most who follow any of my writing already know- I am a woman that believes that woman should demand every bit of respect that they deserve and should never allow themselves to be lessened by a man-regardless if the man is her husband or not. I believe that women have a certain strength that no man can ever understand-and she must always know that this strength is within her and should never let anyone take it away.
Relationships are hard-couples fight, they disagree and they get angry. An argument in your relationship is normal-raising your voice and/or needing to walk away from one another to regain control of your emotions and temper is normal. Causing Physical injuries to one another is not normal and is wrong. It is wrong when a man hits a woman and when a woman hits a man---no exceptions (unless it is fighting back to release yourself from danger).
It is often said; Hit me once, shame on you. Hit me twice, shame on me. Although this is true, it is not this simple. Often domestic violence is so much more than the physical abuse. Domestic disputes which escalate to physical abuse do not usually begin with the physical violence. Most often, the mental and emotional damage has already been started, and when the physical abuse is introduced into the situation- the victims are often paralyzed within confusion of what they should do. They may tell themselves, I know he shouldn’t have hit me-but I did push his buttons. The abuser will them apologize-and life will continue. It may be days, months even years before the physical violence enters into the relationship again, but it will certainly return-unless the reasons that lead up to the relationship taking this dark path are resolved and the communication lines open up to discuss issues so that frustrations and tempers do not get the best of us.
If your relationship is in trouble and you do not have the open communication between you that is needed, seek help-and find a way to talk. Even if the relationship ends-think of the good you have done for yourself and that you may have done for their next relationship.
Take an active part in stopping domestic violence-because even the victim can help the abuser by seeking help together. You may save someone else from being abused-if you decide to take the steps to get help, even if you are walking away. The words; Stop and Help need to go hand in hand when it refers to protecting ourselves, because without the HELP, STOP is just another silly word.
In dedication to all those who have experienced abuse-May God guide you to a place so that you may harvest your strength and be a fighter when you think there is no fight left within you.
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It is a hurt that doesnt stop
In the depths of the darkness - She no longer feels lost within her pain
Even as the bruises disappear
She can still feel the pain
Even after the bruises disappear
The scars will still remain
It wasn’t his hand that hurt the most
It was the look in his deep dark eyes
He wasn’t himself as he dealt to her, his blows
He became his own demise
The mood of the day-depends on him
And will never let her go so she can begin to live
It wasn’t her fault the first time
But she stood by him and supported the lies
It became her fault the second time
The end result shouldn’t have been such a surprise
She knows that they know
But she will never confirm they are right
They fear that one day soon-
The phone will ring in the middle of the night
She pretends to be happy
As she lives in her own hell
And when she tells the world that she is okay
She knows it’s all lies which she tells
She can not cry any longer
She can not beg him to stop
The blows keep getting harder
She becomes an empty rock
A stone made to survive
Even when she wants to give up
He will never be kind
And she will never get away to make it stop
In the deepest part of the night
An angel calls out her name
In the depths of the darkness
She no longer feels lost within her pain
The blood is painfully felt
But no longer by her but someone else
Her death wasn’t a mistake.
The night the angels came to take her away.