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The One Before You Meet The One

Updated on May 13, 2020
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Jennifer has a B.A. in Communications. She is an expert with self- help. She studied two years of marriage and family therapy.

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What an Unstable Foundation Looks Like....

So Many people wonder “How do I know when I meet the one?” Often times people confuse lust with love. This is often to happen in ones younger years. Two people will meet and they will be highly infatuated with each other. The sex will be good, they will be attracted to each other. The relationship will be built on unstable foundation.

What Being Loyal Requires

So many times people think that sex and money can make a relationship withstand the test of time. It takes more than that. Of course those things are great. Who doesn’t like nice things and great sex? What happens when one day your partners not in the mood, your going to leave? That’s not cool. What happens if someone loses their job your going to leave? Being loyal is all about being there through thick and thin. Building and not having any other options. I see it all the time. Someone is not as experienced as the other so people think they could have options. That is not the meaning of true love and building a relationship.

The One Who Heals You From Your Heartbreak....

Then someone else enters there life. Now this person may be the one or it may be the person before they meet the one. They will be there all the time. It will be a relationship and it will definitely be better than the last but for some reason the overthinking will still be there. There will still be lessons that you have to learn. Then when you finally say goodbye to this person, it will be the hardest. It is harder than the ones before. This is the person that you thought you would spend forever with. This person was your best friend. This person was the one that you wanted to grow with but for some reason they did not want to grow with you. You can’t hate him like you did with the others. This relationship will probably be saddest of all because there is potential love, no hard feelings, but yet no room to grow.

What Happens After That Relationship Ends?

Then after that relationship is over, you don’t feel anger. You feel sad that you lost someone special. You don’t have low self-esteem issues as you did in in the past. You now believe in love where you once questioned it. You are now ready to meet your divine partner.

Now Meet Your Life Partner....

Then after time goes by and you slowly start to feel better, there is your life partner. This relationship is much different than all the others. It is not like it is in the movies. It is not that feeling where your heart beats out of your chest and you think about each other all day, that’s an unhealthy type of love. All of the others were not ready, but this one is ready. You wont overthink like you did with the others. This relationship is much different than all the others. It is even better.

You Will Know When You Met The One...

There is no overthinking and trust issues. There is open communication, shared feelings, no mind games, establishing boundaries from the start, open and honest communication, respect and love. All of the others were not ready but this one is ready. You don’t keep your relationship a secret and you both add peace and not stress to each other’s life.

It Is All About Divine Timing

It can be tricky knowing when you meet the one. If you have not met the one do not worry like the saying goes “we have to kiss a lot of frogs before we meet our prince.” Sometimes the person that heals us from our past trauma is sent to us, either to be our life partner- or to show us what we want in a life partner.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Jennifer Panaro

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    dashingscorpio 

    14 months ago from Chicago

    "Being loyal is all about being there through thick and thin."

    Yes and no, anyone with any self-esteem has "deal breakers".

    There is no such thing as "unconditional love". All (healthy) relationships are conditional. In other words there are things one is not going to tolerate. Oftentimes these "thin times" are the result of decisions and choices someone makes which conflicts with your values. Having a partner who gets caught engaging in criminal activities might be a "deal breaker" for one person and for another it's example of "think and thin" or "ride or die" whereby they'll wait however long it is for their mate to get out of jail.

    You might not dump your man for losing his job but if you come to realize {he's not looking for a new job} and is content with you supporting him while he plays video games all day might be a "deal breaker". We all have our boundaries and "deal breakers".

    Everyone you fall in love with is "the one" until you realize they're not. Over time we're either growing together or growing apart.

    When it comes to love and relationships there is no neutral.

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