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The Other Wife

Updated on August 25, 2010

I am the other wife. The one who has stood beside you for the past six years after you got DISSED, as in dismissed by number one. I may be number two, three or four, but I sure as the hell have been the one to put up with the dirt you dish out when your pissed off. I'm the other wife the one you make pay for the mistake you made when you were with her, for the times she cheated on you, for the one you just can't seem to let go of.

I'm the other wife, the one you let scrub your clothes, cook your meals, wait on your needs, and clean your house. I'm the one you depend on to get things done, to make sure all the tasks are taken care of and to wait up when you decide to lay out all night. I'm the other wife, the one that you treat like trash, call names and put everybody before. I'm the other wife the one you push around, talk down to, the one you make feel less than a human being. The one who you make feel like a stranger, unwelcome in her own home.

I'm the other wife the one who helped raise your child, helped with his homework, and walked him home from school. The one who spent time with him when you were to caught up in your own life to make time for him. I'm the one you have taught him to disrespect, to ignore, to yell at and to disregard like a used piece of tissue.

I'm the other wife, the one who has to sit quietly by while you hang pictures of you and her in the home where I live. The one who has to stay silent as you share your memories and stories of your number one with your family and friends. Oh no, I could never be as good as she was, so pathetically perfect. I'm just the other wife, the one you never really cared anything about, just the one you used until there wasn't anything to use anymore.

I'm the other wife, the silent, soft-spoken one, the educated one who made sure I could stand on my own two feet. The one that knew that when you are the "Other wife" it's just a way of saying "another". The one who knew she better be ready to leave at a moments notice and take care of herself. The one who you thought would always be around. The one you thought would always be your doormat.

I'm the other wife, the smart one . The one who respected you, didn't party with your friends, didn't sleep around, or make you choose between her or her family. I just stood quietly by as I watched it all fall apart, But I never let you have the last piece of my heart.

I'm the other wife the one you promised to love and not let go, but "other" also meant better. That was something you never showed. I'm the other wife the one whos walking out the door...I won't let you hurt me and I won't take it anymore.

I'm the other wife, independent, smart and strong, I'm the one who doesn't need you. i can make it on my own.


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      christalluna1124 6 years ago from Dallas Texas


      as always so good to see you again. I totally agree with you. I learned early after being a teenage bride to stand on my own two feet and not let anyone abuse me. Thanks for reading.

      warmest regards,


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      pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

      You are smart and strong. Unfortunately, in situations such as this you find out why #1 treated him the way she did . . . he's an abusive dog. Honey you can be unhappy and do bad all by yourself. Good luck to you.

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      christalluna1124 6 years ago from Dallas Texas

      Exploring and Fucsia,

      thank you for having respect and dignity. Exploring, i am so glad to see you again, Fucsia I am glad you understand the meaning of this hub. I am a talented and educated woman, I am mentally ill and have my battles but I am not stupid and refuse to be used and abused. As for the above comment, I won't go there. I refuse to lower my standards in what I expect in a relationship. No one male or female deserves to be treated in this way.

      Love you both,


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      christalluna1124 6 years ago from Dallas Texas


      My first comment is to you because you know how my situation is. You also know the physical and mental abuse i have been through. As for not getting what you want at home and going elsewhere, are you not the one complaining that you think your man is cheating? i refuse to sleep with a man who is in this category. As for being a bitchy wife, yes when i am home taking care of someone elses child and they are out "slutting" i can be bitchy". A woman does not always have to see to believe. As I am sure you know. i will not deny your comment since I believe in allowing everyone their opinion, but i also will not sink to your level in my answer.

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      fucsia 6 years ago

      I agree with Always exploring. If a relation does not make us happy and does not makes us grow ,is not constructive and it is better take another street, open another door.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I feel the exact opposite from the statement above. I have never had to deal with this, but if i did, i would do what you are doing. I think leaving this unhealthy relationship will do wonders for you.

      God Bless You

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      Sue1226 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      some times we make things up, maybe it's us they are trying to stay away from because of the things we do. Some times we imagine things that are not true. I think the only way we can be sure if they are cheating on us is when we see. There still that old adage what that old adage what they don't get at home they will get else where and no man wants to go home to a bitchy wife.