The “Package-Deal” Relationship Pt.1: Dealing With Your Partner’s Best Friend
Does it seem as though you're in a three-way relationship with your partner's best friend? Are you upset with your partner because he/she spends more time with his/her friend than with you?
Well here's what you can do:
--- Dealing with a three-way relationship
- If it's because your partner's best friend is always around. If their best friend is always around, you should explain to your partner that though you respect the friendship, you would like to have more one-on-one time with just the two of you. If he/she doesn't talk to the friend about it or you don't notice any changes, you have to make a big decision. Weigh out the pros and cons and decide if that is something that you really could put up with. If you have an understanding mate, he/she will make the necessary changes to have a great relationship.
- If it's because your partner's best friend always feel the need to state how he/she feels about your relationship. What's common in a lot of relationships (especially in the beginning) is the opinion that the friend always give about the person that their friend get involved with. The opinions (or criticism) usually go away after they find out that the person that getting the criticism turns out to be a good woman/man. However if you notice that they become more opinionated, it could affect your relationship because your partner will always listen to what their friend has to say about you.
Well there are two things that you can do here....
- 1. Talk to your partner. Express that you're unhappy with the criticism, and there need to be some changes.
- 2. Talk with both of them. You can talk with your mate, but the key here is to express how you feel to the friend. Explain to the friend that though you appreciate their concern, you're going to do whatever it takes to make your partner happy. Also let them know that you're aware how close they are, but you're in a relationship with one person...not two. And what goes on in your relationship is between you and your mate.