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The Past Shouldn't Determine Your Future

Updated on January 24, 2013

Don't Let The Past Determine Your Future

So many times people say that the reason they are the way that they are “now” is because of what happened or what someone did to them before. I have been a victim of it also. I lived a lot of my life being a certain way because of what I had experienced. It took some time and different types of relationships for me to realize that the only thing I was doing was hurting myself. It’s a lot easier said than done, but things that happened in your past are just that; past tense. When you go through something it is supposed to make you stronger. We have to start finding ways to take what we have experienced and use it to our advantage. When you have a bad spot on a piece of fruit you cut it off or eat around it. More than likely it’s never bad enough to throw the whole thing away. Embrace what you have been through and try to learn from it. Even if it’s not something you feel you can use for yourself; find ways to help someone else that may be going through or dealing with the same or similar experiences.

What helps me

I read and listen to a lot of Joyce Meyer’s Ministries and I have notice that she talks about forgiveness and moving on a lot. I can certainly say that she has been very helpful in my struggle with dealing with my past. I have also noticed that thinking about the past tends to make me worry. I worry about things that I shouldn’t worry about and it only creates more problems. That’s why I want to stop this cycle within myself. The most recent words of advice I took from Joyce Meyer are “Learn from your past mistake and resolve not to repeat it. Then let it go.” How many of us fall into making the same mistake again? How many of us continue to bring up someone else’s mistakes over and over again? This is a vicious cycle and if you don’t take the time to evaluate it and stand firm to change, it will continue to happen and you will continue to hold yourself back. No matter how big or how small the mistake was, move on from it and try your best not to let it happen again. Keeping God in the front of your mind is the best help you can have. Anytime you feel that you are going to fall short or fall back into the past you should give it to God.

Move forward

I’m not perfect and I struggle with this issue just about every day. I actually feel like I’m writing this to myself but if that’s what it takes to help me not dip into the past then I will continue to address my issues in this manor. We all need a little help from time to time, but you have to first want to help yourself in order to accomplish anything. Keep praying and have faith that there is a better outcome. I hope this will inspire you to not continue to fall victim to your past.

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      Saundra Harper 

      6 years ago

      Thank you so much Kim

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      Tiera Exum 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Thanks Kim! I surely will.

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      Kim Hubbard 

      6 years ago

      Please keep bringing these good messages to us. I enjoy reading!


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