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The Seven Ways a Husband Can Instantly Know That His Wife is Upset

Updated on May 28, 2016
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Kenneth has been a member of HubPages for five years. He is retired from a 23-year career in the weekly newspaper business.

This is how your wife stands when she is upset
This is how your wife stands when she is upset | Source

Announcing

I have made a personal and professional decision. It was tough, but after a few minutes of soul searching, I arrived at what I needed to do, or in this case, "not" to do. My decision is this: This could be my LAST self-help hub pertaining to marriage, and the fragile workings of the wife and husband relationships.

Why did I make such a decision? I will tell you. I have wrote many hubs expressing free help and advice to both sexes, men and women who were married or engaged to be married and things to do or not to do in order to have a happy marriage. That's it. No hidden agenda's or purposes.

When she gives you this "I give up," pose, you have yourself a problem
When she gives you this "I give up," pose, you have yourself a problem | Source

Where I'm at now

Is not staying complacent with self-help pieces about marriage. I am leaning toward a completely different style of hub. The hub that salutes or promotes a certain person, regular or famous, in my writings and do that until it is not fulfilling anymore.

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Wife refuses to talk to you is a good sign that you need to give her some space | Source
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When your wife yells at you without warning is a good sign that you need to be quiet and let her tell you what is bothering her | Source
When she ignores you, stop. Wait for her to collect her thoughts to talk to you.
When she ignores you, stop. Wait for her to collect her thoughts to talk to you. | Source
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She simply stares at you without talking may mean that the problem is very serious | Source
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This is a truthful cartoon | Source
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If you feel as if you and your wife are in seperate worlds, yes, guys, you have a problem to solve | Source
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When you and your wife constantly fight, just own it, sit down and start a dialogue with your wife | Source
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When she hides her face from you, tone it down. She has ears that work | Source

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This hub is special

Mostly for it is destined to be a collector's item and suitable for framing. Not that I am playing my "ego card," but I feel that strongly about my change of directions.

So I cordially, no, strongly urge you newlywed husbands to get this piece on your computer and go to a dark place, maybe your den or garage with no wife, dogs, or kids. Read what I have to say to you through love because I want you to have a happy marriage.

And that can be accomplished if you know . . .

The Seven Ways a Husband Can Instantly Know That His Wife is Upset

  • A Cold Shoulder - - from a normally-talkative wife. Yep. A woman can be as cold as any guy. Guys, if you are a newlywed or a veteran of marriage, say over 44 years, she as well as you, can still dish-out a cold shoulder which means "you," the husband, is guilty of something you said while awake or in your sleep or something you forgot to do or some important date--her birthday, anniversary. First see if you are at blame. Then be patient. Do not prod her to tell you what is wrong. Give her space. Eventually, after she has rested, she will share her problem with you and you be ready to giver your wife your complete, undivided attention.
  • The Glare - - when you come through the door after work, or on your way to eat. I tell you, guys. A wife's glare can stop a freight train on a late schedule. This is your wife's way of telling you (without words) that you have done something, said something, wrong or doing something she does not like. Do not over-react. Give her the understanding she deserves. After all, she does a lot for you and the kids and needs your kind attention as much as possible.
  • Small Portions - - on your plate as opposed to your huge amounts of meatloaf, turkey, or Hamburger Helper. No explanation needed. If you should get a small portion of your favorite food when you dine with your wife, then something is up. Do not blow your stack. Be quiet. Be patient. You will be privy to what is bothering your wife probably before dinner is over.
  • Snippy Remarks - - about your buddies, workplace, or someone you knew (probably a girl you dated) in your high school years. Your wife will use snippy remarks especially at your high school's 40th reunion and when she sees "June Clairbow," your old flame has not changed one bit, and how you are almost panting like a hungry dog at her sight, yep. Snippy remarks are on the horizon. My advice: Be moderately-nice to "June," and then pretend that you need more fruit punch, but you are really fetching your wife a refill to show her and she is "still the one."
  • The Patting of Her Foot - - at the most unusual times. In church, at breakfast, or any time that you notice how impatient and distant she is. There is a reason for his because her forehead is wrinkled and she is biting her lip. If I were you, I would just eat or drive the car as carefully as humanly possible. If you insist on her telling you the trouble, odds are she will blow up and say some things to you that you cannot help but take personally, but her remarks are only said in the anger of the moment.
  • Slamming Things - - like the bathroom and living room doors, her shoes, your plate at dinner, and so on. This is your wife's anger in action. She is physically showing you that something is wrong. Do not act so innocent. This can only further her aggravation. When a good length of time has passed, humbly ask her what is wrong once. Do not persist. Just you asking will show her that you care.
  • Ignoring You - - while you are in her presence. And talking "around you" to others who might be in the room. To some husbands, this is insulting, but your wife is not really upset at you. She is upset at something like how you do not tell her how many checks you have written and not telling her for she is the one who balances your check book. Or you forgot something she wrote on the grocery shopping list. I hope that all of your instances where your wife ignores you will be small and mostly insignificant.

Thank you for reading my hub.

Good night, St. Louis.

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© 2016 Kenneth Avery

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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, always exploring,

      Thank you sincerely for your comment. I appreciate it so much.

      I am going now to explore your hubs and be one of your followers.

      Happy Fourth to you and yours and please keep in touch.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Alphadogg16,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I also applaud you for whatever reason you have for never being married. I am sure that you know best.

      I appreciate you for taking time to read and comment on this piece.

      Continue to use your wisdom in this sensitive area, marriage, and all other areas of life.

      Happy Fourth to you and yours and keep in touch.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      teaches12345,

      Hello. I have missed you. And it is certainly great to hear from you. I am very glad that you present a very mature post/comment on this hub as you said you have matured enough to just talk to your husband.

      I applaud you.

      Happy Fourth to you and yours and please keep in touch.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      2 years ago

      Well, I am glad to say that I have matured enough through the years to just talk to my hubby when I am upset. I can see how these methods would be normal for those who are not quite up to being open in a relationship. Good post.

    • always exploring profile image

      Ruby Jean Richert 

      2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Great tips on how to spot a problem in a relationship. Up and interesting..

    • Alphadogg16 profile image

      Kevin W 

      2 years ago from Texas

      I've never been married but still found this interesting Kenneth Avery. A man can learn everything he needs to about a woman if he listens and pays attention. It shouldn't be difficult to figure out when your wife is upset. Voted up on your hub.

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