The Start of a New Family Dynamic
If you would have told me my Dad is gay I would have told you that you are full of shit. He's married to my Mom and they had me. Hello!?! I remember in high school my friends would ask if he was gay and I would stick up for him. Like being gay was a bad thing. I've never though that it is, but I had such a reaction to people thinking that. He's my Dad we're a family.
My Dad grew up in a Catholic family and went to Catholic school. When he was growing up being gay was a sin, something is mentally wrong with you, and of course you are going to hell.
Well almost two two years ago he came out to me. It was a big pill to swallow and I remember it like it was yesterday. We were coming home from visiting my sick Uncle and going to the car museum. I was feeling confusion, pride, and uncertainty all rolled into one.
We all tried to keep the family together. We continued to celebrate birthdays and holidays together. Even had our yearly trip to the beach. But as time went on it became sad, tension grew, and things became more awkward.
In 2015 everything changed. My Daughter and I had two Thanksgivings, two Christmases, I had two 37th birthdays, and they alternate who goes to my Daughter's choir concerts.
I'm so proud of my Dad for coming out and being his true self. I can't imagine everything he has had to go through. He is and will always be my Superman. And I'm so proud of my Mom. Through all of this she has shown love, beauty, and elegance.
During their divorce they showed what two people who truly have unconditional love for each other look like. There have been many tears, lots of learning, and finding things out along the way. Through all of this we have become closer as child and parent, and been more honest with each other. I'm so proud of the new family we have become.
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