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My True North

Updated on April 28, 2014
My love and our family.
My love and our family. | Source
The sea was turning, the wind was blowing, but the sailboats stayed on course.
The sea was turning, the wind was blowing, but the sailboats stayed on course. | Source

Life, Love, Struggles and Marriage.

After being married for 22 years and raising four children, I've learned a thing or two about staying together. I have always been fascinated with love and relationships, and how and why some people stay together even after going through the most traumatic events; loss of a child, infidelity, financial hardships, loss of a job. All these play key roles in the lives of many, and for a few they can pass through these valleys still intact.

Without going into detail, my husband and I have had our fair share of ups and downs, as have most people. I can honestly say that one or both of us have thought about throwing up our hands and calling it quits, but we didn't. We held firm, we believed in us and our children believed in us. Because lets face it when you're going through the valley of the shadow of death (no pun intended) and contemplating divorce is the death of your marriage, sometimes you need someone else's eyes to see what it was that made you fall in love with your significant other in the first place?

On one particular occasion our rough patch seemed to linger longer than ever and our oldest daughter who was 21 at the time said to me (don’t kid yourselves kids know what’s going on even if you both try to hide it), “Mom, we all know that you and dad love each other. You would have to be blind not to see it." And that my friends, was my wake up moment.

It was shortly after that that I was lying in bed and this song (yes a song not a poem with music and all), popped into my head. I had to get up and write it down for fear of losing it, but I did write it down and here it is I am sharing it with you. I hope you enjoy it!

My True North

Though gale force winds try to change my course,

I’ll keep my eyes on you you’re my true north.

Though the crashing waves break against my shore,

I’ll keep my eyes on you, my true north.

When the storms surround and obscure my view,

I’ll not waiver the ballast true.

Lightening strikes and sirens wail,

I will not falter - I will not fail.

While tossed and thrown upon the shore,

My grasp is firm you are the oar.

Driving rain tries to hold me down,

When I am pulled to solid ground.

Battered torn and run aground,

Sails are sure the boat is sound.

Bled and bruised once lost now found,

I kept my eyes on you, my true north.

Six Books To Help A Struggling Marriage.

1) The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman

2) The Seven Principals To Making Marriage Work - John M. Gottman

3) The Love Dare - Alex & Stephen Kendrick

4) Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix (This also has a workbook)

5) His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair Proof Marriage - Willard F. Jr Harley

6) Fighting For Your Marriage - Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley & Susan L. Blumberg

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    • LCaverson profile image

      Leslie Caverson 3 years ago from Virginia Beach, VA.

      I'd love to hear the song put to music as well? I sang it to my brother a few months back, he plays the piano and has the ability to put the song to music. However, I've yet to hear back from him in regards to whether it's finished or not?

      I totally agree with you and your mother. It's a conscious choice to stay together. The vows "through thick and thin" seem to means very little these days, but we took those words to heart and thankfully 22 years later we're still holding strong. Thank you again for your comment, and thanks' for taking the time to read the hub.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I'd love to hear your song! I remember my mother giving me a bit of advice when I was a teen. She said, "There will be times when you grow apart from your spouse, with all the things going on in life. You will have to either split up, or go back together again." I have remembered that through the years. I believe that we make a conscious choice to remain married. It takes time and effort. It doesn't just happen automatically. With God's help, we can get through those times and grow old together.