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The Tantric Kiss
Why this kiss is the most powerful thing in the world.
You've heard it before. True love's kiss awakens the sleeping princess. This recurring theme in fairy tales existed long before mass media found it. The princess is usually put into a kind of magical spell by an evil female false-mother figure that results in her falling into a deepsleep. It is usually the kiss of a handsome prince that awakens theprincess and breaks the spell.
Joseph Campbell, the author of The Hero with a Thousand Faces explains how the drama of the human consciousness plays out in these stories that persist all over the world. When we hear these stories, we recognize them as biographies of our internal world.
These recurring themes are symbolic representations of conditions of the psyche. The stories persist across cultures perhaps because the human consciousness recognizes the story as its own. The malevolent mother figure usually is motivated by envy of the beauty or good fortune of The Princess. This malevolent mother-figure represents the Ego. The dominion of the Ego in the mind is threatened by the purity and beauty of the soul-mind. The soul-mind is altruistic and devoid of material appetites whereas the ego is filled with external trappings of power that hide its weakness. (Hence, despite Snow White's ragged clothes, her beauty cannot be denied by the evil and vain Queen) By suppressing the soul-mind, the Ego succeeds in maintaining its dominion over our actions cutting us off from what we truly love and truly need to do in other to find peace. Then, comes Prince Charming. In a single kiss, the spell of the Ego is broken and the soul-mind awakens to rule the kingdom of the psyche once again.
Prince Charming represents the aspect of our psyche that desires union with our soul-mind. It could be art, curiosity and even discontent. He symbolizes our desire to penetrate the thick protective thorns of the Ego in order to be one with our True selves and to find peace within. To be united with the Self means to live and act in harmony with the true nature of our soul-mind.
In Hinduism, the art of Tantra pertains to the uniting of the spirit to the body through the act of love. When a man and a woman practice Tantric union, this means that their bodies and spirit behave as one. The authentic self becomes fully expressed. Masks are shed and in this recognition of deep truth of the Self, the Self becomes oriented with Itself and becomes self-aware. Tantric sex is not a set of techniques to improve sexual experience. Rather, it is a way for a man and a woman to achieve self-awareness through each other. Tantra's goal is to use the love between them as a gateway for spiritual enlightenment.
Human beings kiss because they need to exchange information about each other. The kiss is a summary of the person's state of being. The saliva contains chemical information about a person. It reveals the diet, the health and the hormones of the person you are kissing on an unconscious level. That is why some kisses taste sweet and smell good and some are just disgusting or flat. Perhaps the taste of a kiss reveals chemically how much you are emotionally and biologically compatible to each other.
The Tantric Kiss is a kiss that brings to life the latent desires of a man and woman and awakens it. This kiss is directly linked to the truth that would otherwise be unrecognized or is dormant within us. An exchange of spiritual strength transpires in any Tantric union. It balances energies and creates harmony within enabling both to achieve their full psychic potential.
Biologically speaking, I suppose this is like kissing someone who is an exact chemical match. The kiss is so pleasurable, so right because whatever the saliva is informing you about this person is exactly what you need to complement your chemical composition. All those hormones swimming between your lips are having chemical reactions that inform the unconscious that a perfect match has been found for an optimum union that will result in a chemically-balanced offspring. Just like a Tantric kiss reveals our deepest and most basic desires and validates them,a chemically compatible kiss gives the body a reason to proceed and invest its energy in keeping the mate interested. Whether chemically or spiritually speaking, finding true love may actually be "...in his kiss (that's where it is)".
In this way the Tantric Kiss is just the esoteric name for any fairytale's True Love's Kiss. Whatever it's called, it is a kiss that awakens the soul, liberates us from the illusions of the ego, and gives it a reason to live in the spirit of truth again.
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Joseph Campbell explains myth and the consciousness.