The Things I learned about my marriage in a Foreign Country
Acceptance in a foreign country
I have written about the changes in my life from one country to another, and chose to mention what I learned about my marriage in a different country.
Things have changed no doubt about that. My marriage is nothing like it was fifteen years ago.
I had compared my marriage from the past to the present, and know how much has changed but that does not mean any bad for mus.
What was will never be, what matters is now, and how far I have come to experience this new life.
I learned that a marriage in this part of the world is different and solid.
We have become strong together, and happy for all times irrespective of what has happened through this experience our lives have grown closer.
Trust is not taken for granted, and we know our lives count on more than just trusting each other.
I cook daily, and enjoy what I do for us as a family. I don't expect my husband to interfere in my cooking. If he chooses to cook I don't interfere.
If we choose to cook together then that is handled with a different approach.
I organize lots around the home and make my choices of what to plan for the daily activities while he works his day job.
My marriage has gained a bond stronger than before, the change has allowed us to see how much should not be taken for granted.
I got to know more about my partner in Croatia than I had in the past.
I know now that the past is not my friend but is more of my enemy, and to bring that into my marriage would certainly spoil a good thing.
I don't speak of the past, as it is been dealt with and bringing the ''what was,'' into conversations is a no big deal.
I forgave and moved on. I know that holding onto the past does not show happiness and forgiveness in any relationship.
To me, it feels a better choice. The move from South Africa to Croatia has made me realize how everything I once had and people I once knew have just gone by. Just about forgotten. Life is too precious to stand by and think of the ''what ifs,'' it is not something that I want to do to our marriage.
I learned that my marriage has changed due to a different culture, and lifestyle. Acceptance allowed me to move on from that experience.
In a new life, I chose to see our marriage as a new beginning, especially, from that fairy tale life I once had back in South Africa.
The one I once had in the past, when I began my life in Croatia reality kicked in for me.
The simple habits good, or bad I have put up with, don't nag about what I know can't be changed. If my partner chooses to work on odd jobs around the house, I respect that and continue with my daily activities.
We see each other, and spend as much time together as possible. To listen to each other’s thoughts, ideas., and decisions. The normal part of a marriage consists of all experiences.
Years have passed by pretty quick, and I have become more relaxed in my daily routine with my better half.
There is no perfect marriage!
If I have something on my mind, I come right out with it. Keeping silent is not the way I am in our relationship.
I have built a steady form of relationship with my partner.
Conversations are simple, and not complex. It is the best way for us to talk about anything to give our marriage a more positive than negative side.
Constant arguments, are avoided, it is not always necessary to get into strong arguments for every little negative idea.
One of us has to have a certain amount of stability to keep our acts together.
We are the same behind closed doors and in the presence of other people. Some couples put on a false appearance when in public.
We are not like that, we have a different kind of marriage also not much of a traditional marriage.
Our marriage is easy going and free-flowing, communication is simple, and most understandable. Sometimes we do misunderstand our conversations, but get back on tract fast and avoid friction.
I got to know my partner from getting to know more about his parents, which allowed me to understand his background more in this new life than I had in the past.
It shows the significant impact on our relationship through knowing more about his parents, and of his childhood experiences.
Our move to Croatia has changed the marriage in many ways, and the changes taught me to appreciate my marriage and to work together as a team.
I learned to love more, and have become more understanding in my new life to make my marriage work further in a different way.
I have grown into the changes and made my life the way I like it to be.
Each day is a new challenge in our lives.
Is your past the enemy in your marriage?
I don't speak of the past in our present lives. I have passed that obstacle, and have created a new beginning as soon as I could understand the new lifestyle.
My positive thoughts have got me through all obstacles, and I focus on happiness.
- Do you argue to get your point heard?
Arguing is mostly about who is right and wrong this can ruin a good marriage. If you focus on the right and the wrong, your marriage would face more conflict.
What is marriage about?
A good marriage is the only form of socialism that works. You can share your goals together and avoid resentment. Fortunes rise and fall, you can share risks in marriage, and achieve what you want from life together.
A marriage is experienced together it will not work with one person showing all the effort.
People talk about how bad marriage can be, or is and that it is depressing to get married. What people don't realize about marriage, is they have to work toward having that good marriage.
You don't say ''I do,'' and let it work out for itself.
You need to show your hard work in the marriage.
Love, appreciation, teamwork, trust, communication, respect, faithfulness, and the strength that holds you together counts for in a good marriage.
Every day is a chance for your marriage to work and to get better.
Daily conversations help you through the hardest of times.
Compromises allows for marriages to keep going and surviving, and this you do together.
Treat your partner like you would like to be treated and spoken to not in a harshly.
Patience and hard work shows limitless rewards.
I am responsible for the choices I made. I hold resentment toward my partner for making the choice to move to Croatia. I am also part of that decision.
Blame is not the answer to a better relationship.
It was nobody’s fault for the way things changed and turned out when we arrived in Croatia.
I managed to cope with what made me feel unhappy in the beginning, and now live happy as I have been in my past life.
Some married couples make changes come between them, and destroy their good marriages.
The blame hurts the other partner, and resentment builds up to cause more problems allowing for divorce.
How many people linger in a failing relationship and waste some of the best years of their lives?
Marriages don't work alone, and holding onto something from the past is not going to resolve your conflict.
Marriage is about forming a good relationship with your partner. Once you have formed that relationship, you will have everything you want in a marriage.
I know our marriage has faced many obstacles along the way, and our relationship and love in the marriage has helped us through all those times.
I grew to accept a new culture and a new life with my husband.
We stayed together to improve our lives and to make our lives better in a foreign country, as it is for me as I I see it.
We did not marry for money and that shows in our marriage.
It is a shame to see married couples who only look for the good times in a marriage, and forget about the other times. Marriage is not all about blissful times.
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© 2014 Devika Primić