- Gender and Relationships
The Value of Friendship
In life-you are lucky if you have one great friend
What would life be without friendship?
A friend is someone that you can call at 3am, while crying-for absolutely no reason at all. Perhaps you had just woken up from a realistic nightmare and are upset, sad, depressed or lonely. You dial the number, and know they will pick up the phone-sneak out of their bed, and fully wake up, to have a conversation with you-and tell you that you are a good mother, have a kind heart-and they will assure you that things will be okay. When you finally hang up the phone and head off to bed, you wish your life was less complicated than you have managed to make it. When you wake up the next morning-that same friend will be the first person that calls you on your way to work-just to check up on you, and once again tell you that you are better than you believe yourself to be.
I have this friend. I have told her that, she is an angel. At least for me she is. She doesn’t judge me for the things I have done. She does not mock me when I change my mind 100 times about something that is insignificant. She tells me, even when I don’t deserve to hear it, that I am kind, smart and worth everything that I have ever tried for, I write this about my friend Rebecca.
She claims that I have always been an uplifting spirit for her, although I don’t believe that to be as true as she has been for me. I often wonder, could I of survived without having her as a friend? I don’t think I could have. Her belief in my strength and worth, often felt like the only reassurance that I had, that I deserved to breathe the air-just as other do. She has told me when I am being unrealistic-but has also told me that my dreams are within my reach. She has assured me that I can handle all the things that this life can throw at me, and still come out on top. She sends me quotes of the day and emails that say something generic such as-you are a beautiful woman-I just thought you needed to hear that today (now send this to 10 of the beautiful women that you know, I hope I am one of them). As stupid as a chain letter may be- it is one that can literally put a smile on my face.
Although Valentines Day is, by tradition, a holiday for lovers, I also believe it to be a holiday for friends who show us how much we are loved and how much we are worth sometimes, more often than our lovers do. In reality- a good friend, will fight for you when you are too weak to fight your own battles. A good friend will, stand close and watch while you travel down your spiral, not because they don’t want to help you-but know that sometimes being a friend is not necessary stepping in to save you-it is helping you stand up when you have landed at your bottom. A good friend is someone who breaks down beside you in tears when you have had your heart broken and can no longer keep it together. They will then, pull you back up- help you dust off your knees-and walk beside you as you face the world. When they realize you can’t speak, they will smile and speak for you. Valentines Day is about the love that we have in our hearts. It is for our Husbands, Wives, Brothers, Sisters, Kids, and Parents and for the love we carry in our hearts for our friends. Without a friendship that gives such superior strength and hopeful encouragement, life would be incomplete, and the colors of the world would not be as crisp as I experience them to be.
A Happy Valentines Day to all that are held in the hearts of the loved.
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