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The Greatest Revenge To a Girl That Steals Your Man is To Let Her Keep Him

Updated on November 30, 2011

How Could This Happen to Me ?

Laying in your bed while thinking in the back of your head "How Could this happen to me".You are feeling mad, hurt and you couldn't think well or even know what to do.

All you can think about that “I don’t deserve that”,

how could he do that to me when I was madly in love with him,

what did he saw in her that wasn’t in me,

is he in love or it was just a fling ,

All those questions are running in your mind and driving you CRAZY!!.

You start to isolate your self from the world, you don’t talk or meet your friends and not even answer your phone when your mum calls, because you are terrified from their reactions, when they will know.

The Two Scenarios

Now you have nailed him cheating with some other girl, but I’m sure you are not surprised; I also can't say it didn't hurt any less.

All of those hints and your hunch were telling you that there was something wrong going on with him.Late work hours, less phone calls and he is not paying attention to you like he used to, etc…You ignored all that and started to lie to your self, acting like everything was going well, but you had been hit by reality and found out that your man was a cheater.

Usually there are two scenarios, after a woman confront her man about his cheating;

Scenario #1

He will react in regret and asking for forgiveness, following by the three biggest lies from a cheater guy's mouth,

  1. I’m not really that type of guy
  2. I won't hurt you again
  3. I'm sorry

Scenario #2

He will apologize for his cheating but start to blame you and make you think that you were the reason for what he did, claiming that he had found what he needed with the other girl and end the relation.

In both scenarios, you are thinking of how to win him back and to not to leave him for the other girl.

Well take that out of your mind!! because he really don’t deserve you, and there is no excuse for cheating, he did it while he knew that it will definitely hurt you, and that’s mean that he didn’t care enough for your feelings, so why you are fighting to stay with someone who didn’t do anything to keep you.

Once a Cheater always a Cheater

Only time can tell what type of man do you have, because it’s not easy to recognize a cheater until he do mistakes, and you should thank God that he did those mistakes.

You don’t really want to end up with a man who don’t treat you right and play behind your back

Once a cheater always a cheater, it’s a moral thing, all the time when you were together, you may had the chance to cheat on him but you didn’t and that’s because you are not that type.

Don’t blame your self for his mistakes, just put in your mind that he wasn’t the type of man you would like to settle down with , and make your greatest revenge to a girl that steals your man is to let her have him, because a truly good man can never be stolen.


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      DAVID ALAN JONES RIDGE 17 months ago

      And, He who will help you cheat, will cheat you!

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      d.william 6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      good hub topic. and it is true that once a cheater, always a cheater (with the same partner). People cheat on their partners because they are unhappy in that relationship (both male and female) but they are too afraid, or too weak, to face the truth and just leave the relationship. Just because one cheats on their current partner does not mean they will cheat on the next one if there is mutual love and satisfaction in it.

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      Exactly Suhana16,thanks for dropping by and your vote

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      That's so true Willstarr, relationships build on trust.I'm so glad you liked the hub and thanks for leaving this nice comment

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      WillStarr 6 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      For every cheating man, there has to be a cheating woman.

      In any case, if you can't trust them, why would you want them?

      Great Hub, and I love this:

      "The Greatest Revenge To a Girl That Steals Your Man is To Let Her Keep Him"

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      Wohowww!! finally a guy commented, I had been waiting for it and almost gave up lol!!

      excellent but a little bit hard explanation for the hub, you are so right when you said “Maybe this is his way of getting out of a relationship he is not happy with” so you agree with me about 'once a cheater always a cheater" !!! because that’s his way to get out of the relation, instead of confronting his partner and I think that you will agree with me again that a good –honest men will never get out of a relation by that same low way ,so truly good men will never be stolen,

      however,I understand were you are coming from but this time the hub was not personal I was talking about that unhealthy social behavior that keep on hurting wonderful and amazing women, were once I was one of them.

      People go through relationships all the time, some times they get along very well and some times they not, but that doesn’t mean that, when we want to get out of a relation we end up hurting some one.

      Thank you so much for your insightful comment and your time to read my hub

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      healthywholefoods 6 years ago

      This is good advice. I've known many a men that cheated, and even after there caught, would do it again. I have to ask this question though: Would a man cheat, if he were truly happy with his mate? Maybe this is his way of getting out of a relationship he is not happy with. Don't get me wrong, cheating is one of the lowest things you can do. My point is, if he cheats, like you said, let the other girl have him, cause he is obviously not happy with you. Don't worry though, you will find the right one. It just takes time, so don't give up.

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      @ Natalijad, you are so right players had out number the good men and actually this shirt is a hit and sold over 7 billion can you believe that!!

      @Amy Becherer, exactly what I was talking about!! you are not just that TYPE..mostly cheaters both men and women had a very low self-esteem ,so thank you for pointing that out

      @ Malunggay; Once a cheater always a cheater, so you had been in scenario number one and learn it the hard way, I really know how it feels and wish no one else will feel like that because it truly hurts , also I’m so happy for you!! you finally got what you deserve :)

      @ Stars439; well said God bless YOU :),definitely anyone would be much better without a cheater in their life, having someone who appreciate your existence in his life and treat you as you should be treated will make a happier and healthier relationship

      Thank you all for your time to read my hub and your lovely comments

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      stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear Precious heart : A person is better off without a cheater. A clean slate presents and opportunity for a person to find a loyal relationship with someone else. God Bless You, And A great Hub.

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      malunggay 6 years ago

      I was cheated by my ex-boyfriend and it was really hurt. He slept with another girl and the girl got pregnant, I forgave him and we moved away from their home. We live together. But then again, he never stopped having an affair with another woman. That's when I decided to leave him for GOOD. Now I found my superman and we happily live together with our healthy baby girl.

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      Amy Becherer 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      When I have been approached by cheaters, despite their well-groomed, charming outward efforts, I am always left with the realization that they have nothing to offer and the fact that I pity their partner. I wouldn't want to be her. What I have found is that most women DO recognize a "player". Some women find the challenge exciting or they succumb to the misinterpreted assumption that the man finds them special. I think, if most women would look at the reality that this behavior is generally a serial pattern that says more about the man than any woman he may fancy for a short time, they would think about the reality of life with a cheater and dare to imagine the wife's disappointment and grief. It is one big turnoff. It is a demoralizing reality that for every cheating man, there is a partner. As long as there are women who base their self-esteem on attention from a man, it will always be.

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      natalijad 6 years ago

      Faithfulness today?Very difficult to achieve.Everyone is lying, cheating, betrayaling.I don´t know what is wrong with people.Animals are far better than people.And that shirt that says "cheater" well, I think it should be at least 5 billion copies:)

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      Good for your Dewette, That's really great and I hope you will have your keeper for more and more years, Thanks for your nice comment

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      sam-eg 6 years ago from Happy Land

      @ Real housewife, ironic isn't it ? thx for dropping by real house and leaving this wonderful comment

      @Janesix, I'm really glad that you liked my hub, thx for your time to read it and your nice comment

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      Dewette 6 years ago from NV

      Your last paragraph says it all :) I`ve had a keeper for 20 years

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      janesix 6 years ago

      Awesome:) The title says it all....

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      Kelly Umphenour 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Sam - I have heard of a beast that cheats once and never again - but, much like a unicorn I have never actually seen one!! Food for thought!

      Up and awesome!