- Gender and Relationships
The guide to a long-lasting relationship
Relationship over time
Do you still recall the moment when your significant one proposed or accepted your proposal? Be it a relationship or a marriage, the thrill of success is pleasing. Seeing him or her would have been sufficed to give you a heart-pounding sensation. The beginning of the relationship is always considered to be the blooming stage. Life is seen to be always delightful and pleasant.
Like all other flowers, relationship will also meet the wilting stage. Over time, we would tend to. find that there is not much excitement left as we have known enough about our significant other. We have already used to have each other. Life goes back hectic as our time is fully occupied by our career. The main point is that there will be a point in the relationship where things do not run so well and there are always fights between you and your significant other. You feel that you are lacking of what the beginning of the relationship offered you and you are convinced that there is not much hope and love in this relationship.
However, it does not always go that way. A relationship can always be well-maintained if both parties do their part and put effort into it.
2. Spending quality time
4. Constant reassurance
This is one of the key elements to maintaining a relationship. When we allow our significant other to be in our life, we must learn to embrace everything about him or her, and that includes his or her weaknesses. Otherwise, never make him or her your significant other. We should always learn to put up and if there is indeed something which you dislike, discuss with him or her, instead of criticizing or complaining right into his or her face.
Also, be tolerant if there is any quarrel or argument. There is no need to be mad at something for days or weeks. It is just an exaggeration of emotion! Sometimes, fights are indeed inevitable as we may be stressful due to our career. But what we can do is that we can always put up with one another and stop the fight as soon as possible. No matter how, you know that he or she loves you. So, why try to hurt feelings among yourselves when you can tolerate and get back to normal or even closer?
2. Spending Quality Time
When it comes to time commitment, you don't need to spend all the day with your loved one to keep the relationship to stay in put. Always know your priority in life and decide things accordingly. You can still focus on your studies or career even when you're in a relationship. You don't need to choose to have only one because you always get to have both. You only need to know how. Even when you are busy with your work or studies, you can always send a sweet love note to him or her when you are having a break. This would be enough to let him or her know that you care even when you're in the midst of work because he or she is your priority.
When you actually spend time together, be sure that he or she is your 100% focus. Do not be distracted by your work or other stuffs at this time. Try to make the time spent together to be unique and memorable. Enjoy the time together and that is a quality time well spent.
You need to trust your loved one. In fact, trust is the fundamental foundation of how a relationship works. Therefore, you don't need to be with your loved one all the time. Give each other some personal space. This is essential as most of us need some time only for ourselves. Besides, if you are with him or her all the time, then you will not have much to talk about anymore. If there is any doubt in the relationship, then it means that you two need to work things out.
4. Constant reassurance
Over time, we need to always reassure our partners that we still love them and care for them. It is what that strengthen the trust in the relationship. It is good to always tell your partner that you still love him or her. Of course, there is no harm to bring in a little bit element of fantasy or sweet talk. You can also encourage and motivate them to be better in things they do.
You don't need an important date to give something or value someone. You can always plan something occasionally and give him or her something as surprise to spark things up. It is always pleasing to be cherished and cared by your loved one. Of course, important dates should be remembered for celebration too as it is very important, especially to women.
Taking your partner to travel is also a good idea. It is always pleasant to take your mind off work for some time and only enjoy the trip together with him or her.
Do you have any problem encounters in your love life? How do you solve it?