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The Male Narcissism Epidemic: Stay Single If You're Female!

Updated on January 8, 2018

I'd like to call out attention to a 'Toxic Male Epidemic' when it comes not only to dating, but to life in general.

I'm going to detail what it is like to be involved with a narcissist. Also, the phenomenon of gaslighting and what it can do to an unprepared women's psyche.

Your strength in dealing with any person, male or female, who tries to use blame or guilt as false power tactics over you, is in not absorbing that energy. Remember that you have control over YOU. You have no control over what anyone else thinks or believes about you.

Males are more prone to narcissism, or alternately, the need to dominate, by evolutionary or biological design. I have learned in my own 'body recovery journey' the reasons why this is so.

Females are more emotional and sensitive, and many blame our hormones for this.

In my body recovery journey, I have purged parasites, candida, and toxic bacterial overgrowth. I have learned that it is NOT THE HORMONES THEMSELVES that are responsible for our monthly mood swings. It is the ebb, flow and sway that these hormones have on OUR TOXIC INVADERS that cause them. For example, candida excess can cause depression, while toxoplasma can cause more psychotic symptoms.

When a woman is going through these phases, her crown chakra is affected to the point where she can no longer be rational enough to withstand a toxic male's narcissism, or his need to dominate her to submission.

Cleansing the crown chakra through daily Epsom salt baths, and enhancing that by essential oil diffusion, can help a woman achieve lasting empowerment and resistance to domination, gaslighting techniques and other tactics.

So, what is narcissism, and how do we recognize it?

I was personally involved with a narcissist until August 2015. Here are the signs I happened to notice:

-Extreme double standards. For example, the narcissist may have extremely high expectations of YOU, but has very little to show you from his own life. He 'talks the talk' but doesn't 'walk the walk'.

-Attempts to look good. Narcissists are extremely known for their social media presence, using that to make up for a lack of self-esteem deep down. You may also find them flattering others, as part of the 'inner boredom' disease I discuss later on in this article.

-The 'inner boredom' disease. This is often akin to addiction to alcohol or drugs. The sufferer may claim, even have high morals regarding alcohol or drugs, and claim he has no problems or issues because he is 'clean and sober'. Underlying this, he is unable to commit to a single woman. He may have a girlfriend to look normal, but you often find him flirting on the side with women he games with online. You may also find him trying to excuse a porn addiction because you are 'just not doing it for me' anymore.

On 'inner boredom' - I have taken a step back to analyze this one. We all suffer from this, male or female. I get this way in between psychic readings. Because I've taken the steps to clean myself physiologically (with the Epsom salt baths and other supplements), I turn to do something productive, such as writing this article, rather than succumb to my 'inner boredom' the way I used to. I cannot say that I'm perfect, but I'm definitely a lot better than I used to be. I don't have much social contact these days and prefer to talk to God himself. I've always been a loner. Sometimes, that's the best state to be in, because if you separate yourself from peer pressure and the need to compare your life to everyone else, that's when the best YOU can come out.

-Gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of blame in which the person doing the blaming (narcissist) makes YOU look like the bad person. This involves aspects of trickery or cunningness, designed to cut at your self-esteem and shift all the responsibility onto YOU. This is designed to cut at your foundation. The narcissist subconsciously is aware of your physiological vulnerabilities as a female. He is attempting to set off the emotional volatility that is induced by your candida, parasites, etc. Rather than respecting the spiritual richness and creativity that these rhythmic cycles give you, he totally disrepects it, seeks NOT to understand you before his own selfish needs can be met.

There are many more examples I could probably list, but these four traits are what stood out most in my mind.

The key is lack of self-honesty on the part of the narcissist.

Physical traits that may correlate with level of narcissism and / or domination attempting male:

-Thick neck. Please take a look around you, ladies! Men as a whole are physiologically resembling the physique of Larry the Cable Guy (thick neck, beer belly, round head). If this is what a guy looks like, RUN! What this correlates with biologically is an increased level of his OWN toxins (candida, as well as the others I mentioned) - that make him MORE female like (candida secretes its own fake estrogen, which is why men are becoming more feminized - but not in a good way)

-Angry demeanor. You will notice the men of the 20teens being more apt to just find someone to target for no reason. In 2016, I was astounded to encounter a driver behind me, just yelling and giving me the finger in my rearview mirror, because apparently I existed. You will also see these types of men at fast-food restaurants, very angry and impatient over their food not being served fast enough. Due to the above toxins in BOTH genders increasing (due to poor diet quality - the nutrition content of vegetables has dropped DRAMATICALLY since the 1970's), the collective cortisol has increased. Cortisol is a STRESS HORMONE, thus it increases fat storage, decreases body temperature, and is the root cause for our obesity epidemic, not excess calories or not enough exercise!

So, what is a woman to do?

Yes ladies. Selection is tough. Your best bet is to not run for a man to shelter you. With this type of degeneration, you best work on yourself.

There is reason for hope. Various communities in the male gender (no-FAP which aims to demonstrate the dangers of porn addiction) are slowly showing men the TRUTH, that these behaviors DO affect their health and there is no 'quick fix'.

Many of you are panicking to have children, even in your 30's based on half-truths in mainstream American medicine about the quality of your eggs. Know that there is a LOT of literature out there that demonstrates that egg quality can be helped by numerous supplements, many of which I have tried. When I was 39, I was afraid I was starting menopause. After I completed my health journey, I am now 43, and am happy to report I have regular, BETTER cycles (more fertile mucus than I had when I was ten years younger!) Remember that women of the Bible (Sarah) conceived when they were 90 years old. I do truly believe there is truth to that and that women should be focusing on waiting for the right man who loves them. Settling for anything less is a death sentence for you and your future children.


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    • Esther Neptune profile imageAUTHOR

      Esther Neptune 

      8 months ago from Madison, Wisconsin

      Very good points you make, dashingscorpio! I have Venus in the 8th house natally which ties in very much with Scorpio energy, and along with it being in Virgo is the WORST sign and house placement for the Love Planet....but one cannot have a pity party. I've come to believe in 'transcendant astrology' - which is taking a step back to understand where we've been, how the planets SYMBOLIZE that, and where we go with that knowledge to raise our own vibration (which is all we can ultimately control, anyways) to overcome the circumstances of life.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    • Esther Neptune profile imageAUTHOR

      Esther Neptune 

      8 months ago from Madison, Wisconsin

      Pathways, thanks for the reply! I came across very emphatic on the 'stay single!' instruction. In reality once a person shows self-love and can RECEIVE love from a healthy person, s/he is ready for it to come into being!

      Yes, there ARE healthy men left out there! There are bands of strong, non-narcissistic men, those who advocate health (Dr. Josh Axe is a fave of mine, although I wonder about the width of his neck it's a little too wide in my opinion - yes I'm fussy!). I have my Venus in Virgo which is one of the worst positions for one's natal Venus, so I tend to 'preject' before something can ever form. But I don't hold to the planets as our ultimate fate- I consider myself a 'transcendant astrologer', which is believing the planets can guide us to a higher vibration, which ultimately overcomes fateful planetary conditions we were born with =)

      Off on a tangent for sure. But - yes. Healthy men do exist still today! It is just more of a challenge to find them.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      8 months ago

      Very interesting!

      "You have no control over what anyone else thinks or believes about you." - Very true!

      Unfortunately most people do not reach the point of not caring what others think until late in life. This is especially true of (women). From an early age they concern themselves with what {men} think about them. A man who feels amorous and has sex on the first date never worries about what the women will "think of him" the next day. He also doesn't have to contend with what (other men) "think". Truth is many men will want to know what his "secret" is! Granted (women) may call him a dog, jerk, or "male whore" but (he) doesn't care what {women} think!

      Men only care what a woman thinks when (he loves her).

      True freedom is being yourself without caring what others think.

      Another common statement women make is believing their problem is they "attract the wrong types" of men. As you noted YOU have no control over what others think of you. The same is true of people being ATTRACTED to you!

      Any woman who is "drop dead gorgeous" will have all types of men that are attracted to her. It's not about who is attracted to (you) that gets one into trouble but rather whom (you) are attracted to! Nothing happens until {you} say "yes"!

      "Yes ladies. Selection is tough. Your best bet is to not run for a man to shelter you. " Embracing the "weaker sex" role and pursuing the "Alpha/narcissistic male" while expecting him to be considerate and loving towards you has set many young women up for heartache. On the other hand guys who worship them are called "too nice" and placed in the "friend zone".

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".

      If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No!

      You learn to become a "better shopper".

      When (we) change our circumstances change.

      If we acknowledge that there are good women and good men in the world and yet we tell ourselves we're better off being single...what we're really saying is we don't trust ourselves to (choose) a "good man" or "good woman".

      Everyone's entitled to throw in the towel if they desire.

      The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world! One man's opinion. :)

    • GARH608 profile image

      Pathways thru life 

      8 months ago from Mid West

      Wow....well this clarified that I have attracted more than one narcissist in my life. However, as an empathic person that appears to be the norm. What would you say the probable population of men that are not narcissist would be? Do they even exist??


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