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How to have fun in marriage? Romantic ideas!
‘If you fight like a married couple, talk like best friends, flirt like first lovers and protect each other like siblings, then you know you are meant to be together.’ – Indie Aroha Young
‘Lilliput’ is the nickname my husband had for me. It was his way of teasing me when he was in a happy mood. As I am short in stature, he usually teased me about my height and I enjoyed it as I knew he was teasing me in an affectionate way.
There is only a hair line difference between teasing and making fun.
What is teasing?
- It is done in a lighter vein.
- The words do not hurt you.
- It is playful and friendly.
What is making fun?
- It hurts your feeling.
- It is intentional.
- There are derogatory remarks about your physical aspects, your upbringing and also your habits.
You enjoy the companion ship of your friends more than that of your spouse.
Why do you like to be with your friends?
- You can tease them as you want to.
- There is no offense taken by your friends when you make innocuous comments about them and they enjoy it.
- You feel it easy to say whatever comes to your mind.
But you dare not open your mouth against your spouse as your teasing is not taken in the right spirit.
Why do you fear teasing your spouse?
- Your words are always misconstrued.
- Your teasing is not taken lightly as it should be.
- You fear the reaction of your spouse.
Making fun hurts.
If your spouse makes fun of your appearance\family\ religion it hurts you emotionally as these are very sensitive topics to you. You cannot accept when your spouse makes fun of your religion as it is very close to your heart. It is also a very personal aspect of your life and you will not accept him\her passing snide remarks about it. If both are from different religion, it is always better to refrain from commenting about it.
Comments about your appearance can hurt you also. Everyone wants to look good, but not all are blessed with it. It has become a sadistic trait of modern marriage to make fun of the physical attributes of your spouse and compare him\her with a more beautifully blessed male\female.
Another topic where making fun will never be tolerated is about your family. Your family means a lot to you and any meaningless comments from your spouse makes your hackles rise. When he\she makes fun of your upbringing you resent such unwarranted comments. These sorts of topics are better avoided in your married life.
Married life can be boring without fun.
But married life will be boring when you cannot tease your spouse. You do it out of affection and indulgence. You cannot tease everyone you meet, can you? It is when you are close to a person you pass breezy and humorous comments. So when your spouse teases you it is always in fun and it gives you immense happiness. It adds flavor to your marriage.
With the rush towards materialistic affluence taking an upper hand, life has become mundane and a dull routine. The conversation between husband and wife is lifeless, lacking the liveliness of love and intimacy. Only when you are compatible with your spouse, it becomes natural for you to tease one another in a fun filled manner. It is friendliness to the core.
Let us have a peep into the lifestyle of two types of couples.
The first group of exemplary couples
There is one group of couples whose compatibility literally shows in the way they talk with one another. Their marriage will never be a life of mediocre conversation and they feel their vibrant love in every second of their married life. They tease one another in a happy mood and their home has an atmosphere of pleasantness and beautiful relationship. You never tire out of such a marriage.
The second group of boring couples
There is another group of couples for whom life is a matter of day to day survival. Their conversations are to the point and lack the closeness which comes only if there is compatibility. Everything about them shows how their life is dull and without laughter. They neither know the trick of having fun, nor do they know the intense happiness teasing can give them.
Always chose the first group of couples
Which group of couples do you fall into?
I am sure you will always prefer the first type of couples. With the modern world inclining towards money, it has become essential for both husband and wife to go for work. Naturally both suffer from work related stress and tension.
How can you relieve this tension? You should tease one another in a friendly manner. You should hold your hands together in whatever problems you are facing.
You can easily step into the first group of couples if you shed your work related worries and problems in your work place itself. Take a lighter angle of everything and make your family your priority. Small things like teasing one another in a harmless way can elevate your marriage into a haven of love and belonging. Tease one another in a fun filled manner and feel your stress taking a retreat. Teasing in words or actions lends a happy touch to your marriage.
The great turn on
Teasing with a mischievous glint in your eyes is a great turn on for your spouse. It makes your spouse come even closer to you as you enjoy your marriage in the true sense of the word. It takes you to the threshold of mutual happiness and you will never find your marriage turn into a routine affair. Color your married life with fun, frolic and laughter.
© 2013 mathira