- Gender and Relationships
Who is the other woman in a man's life? Home wrecker!
‘Being the Other Woman doesn’t make you special; it makes you a runner-up. Second place doesn’t get the prize.’ –Home wrecker’s quotes
My friend was unhappy as her husband was behaving rather indifferently with her. 'He is always late from work and would not explain the reason to me' she was inconsolable. My friend was a good wife and I knew she looked after her husband with love and care. Her husband too had hitherto loved her, but of late something had happened to make him act callously towards my friend.
She was breaking her head as to the reason for this change in him and soon she found out why. She went to see her mother and when was returning in the bus she could not believe her eyes when she saw her husband walking in the street laughing with a highly made up woman. He had forgotten to smile at her for a long time and to see him in such a mood pulled her heartstrings.
There was a harsh fight and the children could not understand why their parents were fighting so bitterly. My friend's husband demanded divorce and my friend cursed the woman who had wrecked her life.
Whose mistake was it that a marriage of eight years had to end?
- My friend or her husband!
The main culprit was the other woman in my friend’s husband's life.
- She knew that he was married.
- She knew he had children and was duty bound to look after them.
Why then did she allow such intimacy to develop between them?
She should have known that she was destroying a family and lives of two tender children who were suddenly thrown into the yearning world of a single parent.
Deviate from a married man
When you know that the man you are attracted to is married, you should immediately deviate from him. You might argue that love does not come with planning, but you should also realize that you are intruding into the peace of an innocent woman. You should show him that you cannot be taken for granted and would not allow betrayal of trust.
Love may be blind, but you are sensible with discerning brain and in total control of your emotions to have power over your feelings.
Are you working with a colleague who makes the situation charged with emotions?
Do you feel you might give in to your emotions?
Then it is time for you to act! Do not hesitate to ask for a transfer to another work branch. This move of yours does not mean you are running away from the situation because you are meek, but shows your empathy towards the to-be affected- family.
You are in fact behaving in a magnanimous way, with a clean intention of not spoiling the life of another person.
- Are you are a strong person?
- Do you think you can control the situation?
- Do you think you can keep the man at a safe distance?
Then you can work in the same place, but you should not behave aggressively, but be friendly in an aloof manner with that person. He recognizes the signal and he too maintains a dignified distance and the situation will be back to normal.
When you master your feelings, you do not suffer the guilty conscience of breaking a marriage. You retain your peace of mind, but if on the other hand you let your feelings rule your heart and slip into a relationship with a married man, the result will be disastrous to say the least.
‘If he cheated on me with you he will cheat on you with someone else!’-Home wrecker’s quotes
When the man feels his interest dwindling, he does not think twice before leaving you to return to his family fold. You are left in the lurch and you undergo immense stress and pressure to pull your life back to normalcy. You should not allow yourself to be a stopgap interest to a married man, and when you keep away from such a person, you too will find a life partner who is your own.
© 2011 mathira