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The things men want before they get married!

Updated on March 18, 2012

Never Judge A Book By Its Cover (we all heard this before!)

As women I think most of have fallen into the stereotype that most men want a beautiful face, nice body, and sexual aggressiveness that is the top of line. When truly all those things are great in theory for a man but most men know that is unrealistic. Men really crave a woman they feel secure with meaning someone they can relate too and trust. They are not unfeeling perverts; they have emotions too but express them differently. A woman who can dial back and have fun is what they look for. How well she communicates with the people he cares for. How she carry’s herself in situations that get out of control. How well she cares and listens to his needs.

Every women dreams at some point of a fairy tale ending
Every women dreams at some point of a fairy tale ending

Don't put him on pedestal that is unrealistic

You have to be able to be open minded, you have to accept he will have flaws like everyone else and willing to be there when things get bad. You have to support his dreams, you have to be willing to take risks for him, you have to be ready to understand that a relationship isn’t just about your needs it is a package deal. Away to a guy’s heart is being able to be in tune to his feelings as well as your own. If he is feeling down don’t force him to open up because that will make him push away just let him come to you when he is ready.

We have all heard this saying before...
We have all heard this saying before...

This is a huge deal and deal breaker

Too much drama can be the number one killer of a relationship. I know we naturally want to fan every drama out and fix it. Men don’t work that way they rather look at the drama, step back from it analyze it, address it, and then move on from it. This can drive women crazy but if you always stick to high powered drama then you’re going to get high powered results. For men that is never what they want. Too often I see woman attack there men with words, which is more deadly than a punch to the face. Words stay with you while bruises may heal. Don’t go into aggression mode with your man when you’re upset. Trust me he will get the message and if he doesn’t change then you make the final call. If you can put it with it or not. Simple no need to verbalize an attack for every quam with him.

It can be reached
It can be reached

Mindful of each other

On the same note you can’t lose control of your own feelings. You should never be so clingy he feels like running away from you. Some things your man can’t solve but you can lean on him for support just don’t jump in arms unless he is ready or asks you too. Let him guide you once and awhile. LET HIM BE A MAN. Just remember that every guy has a bigger ego than women do. Don’t crush his ego to much or your man will look elsewhere for validation. Just see him for who he is not always what he can offer you and he will respect you and want to give you more. Always encourage and praise him for his efforts. It’s very simple; you have to be more than just a beautiful face. You have to be a best friend, a mother, a lover, and a beautiful person on the inside and out.


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    • Mistressoflove profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Rhode Island

      Thank you so much Ladybird33 for all the support. :)

    • Ladybird33 profile image


      6 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Very good here! Great tips and probably even more to come!


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