The truth about sincerity
By Michelle Liew Tsui-Lin
Speaking from the heart
“By being natural and sincere, one often can create revolutions without having sought them.”
Fashion Mogul Dior certainly created a revolution with the Dior empire, and it would be certain that she could not have done so without a little genuine feeling.
For that is what sincerity is. Saying what you mean and feel, and meaning what you say.
In the complex social context of today, with the presence of social media in almost every aspect of our lives, it can be difficult to be truly sincere to one another.
After all, it is difficult to express ourselves over the internet when physical presence is challenged. Even with the advent of Google Hangouts and Facebook video messaging, nothing is as sincere as the person just simply being there. Feeling. Listening.
Sincerity is the true knock on someone’s door. The quality of that knock makes all the difference in a relationship. It reveals sincerity’s true essence, and fosters good relationships.
What it takes to show a little sincerity
The quality of a genuine knock on the door is subjective to each person, but there are some things that will make a difference to how sincere a person is.
All of us will have the best of intentions, but may have difficulty expressing ourselves. That being such, sincerity may be a little difficult to put across. It can be a little hard to knock. It can also be difficult for others to hear.
There are ways to knock more sincerely.
Being sincere is being consistent.
That means adopting the same standards of behavior for yourself and everyone else. Everyone dislikes double standards and starts asking questions when our behavior is one way towards one person a different towards another.
It comes from the heart.
When we knock, others can hear whether or not the gesture is heartfelt. When we do things out of genuine intent, both others and ourselves can tell from the sound of the knock if it comes from the heart.
Do not have any expectations in mind; cast them aside. The giving becomes an expression of concern;the sound of the knock becomes genuine.
Say nothing unless you mean it.
Sincerity means only saying what you mean, and meaning what you say. We should not knock and make a sound unless the sound comes from the heart and is truly what we want to be heard.
Be positive with your affirmations.
A sincere knock means affirming others positively and trying our best, no matter how difficult it may be, to find the good in them or in the difficult situations they may put us in. Use the positives to override the negatives. Sincerity thrives on our ability to think in the right way.
Do not over polish.
Knocking sincerely means knocking immediately, spontaneously and giving spur of the moment responses that come from within. Sugar coating and being too perfectionist can easily be sensed by the other party and can determine the quality of your interactions.
The sound of a sincere knock is heard when we answer sincerely.
By that, I mean doing our best to accomodate when others ask something of us. This is the hardest part of being sincere for me because there are times when interacting with the difficult people in life can be trying.
There are many things we can do to show that we are sincere, but more important that all of them is to ask ourselves if we really want to do any of them for other party.
If there is any hint of unwillingness. our knock of sincerity would be a very weak one.
Compliments are always a way to knock on the door sincerely. People are always drawn to those who speak more positively of them. A compliment, genuinely given, is a heartfelt knock on the doors of another.
Straight from the heart by Bryan Adams
Have an outstanding greeting.
When we meet someone for the first time, it is good to make our greetings as significant as possible. Make the person feel as if he or she is the most important person on earth.
Make warm and authentic eye contact and offer a handshake with a firm grip. People like to answer the knock on the door and find a friendly, sincere face behind it.
Remember their names.
A knock would seem more sincere if it is given a personal touch. When interacting with others, it is always good to remember names. It pays the other party a subtle compliment and makes our knock more sincere.
These do not necessarily have to be personal and can be as simple as what was done over the weekend. But questions with a genuine desire to know a little more about the other person make our knock of sincerity resound and motivates others to be more interactive.
Acknowledging people means giving credit where it is due. It shows that you appreciate the other person’s effort. It could also be going the extra mile to say hello when we see someone at a restaurant. When we go out of our way to acknowledge others we leave a positive impression and our knock on their door appears more genuine.
Give them a call.
A phone call from someone to ask how they are shows that you cherish the relationship you have with them. We are all drawn to calls out of the blue with no self-serving agendas.
The most sincere knock on someone else’s door is when we give them hope. By encouraging others and empathizing with their goals and aspirations, we add fuel to their motivational fire. Sincerely caring about others is encouraging them to persevere.
Remember special events in peoples’ lives.
Remembering someone’s birthday tells them that they are important enough for your time. It is a sincere knock that tells them that you hold them in your heart and builds great relationships!
I sum up with a little free verse poem on a making a sincere knock.
Knocking sincerely requires a lot of patience and effort, but is the necessary foundation for deeper, more meaningful relationships.
What are your thoughts on sincerity? Do share in the comments below and have a great weekend ahead.
By Michelle Liew
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