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Things I have learned from my Dog; One-You can't change a dog
Dogs don't change. This is one important life lesson I have learned over the years. If you want to have a successful relationship with your dog, accept them for who they are. The behaviors a dog initially exhibits is probably what you are going to deal with for years to come. If there are things that you don't like and think that you will be able to affect change on, you are dreaming. The only way for a dog to change is if they change from within. Be very selective when choosing a dog.
All dogs are different. They all have different traits, make sure you select one that is compatible with your lifestyle. Let's say you are an avid runner. Bringing a chihuahua into your life is probably not the best move if you want someone to enjoy running with you. A Greyhound may be more compatible with your lifestyle. Decide what you are looking for before you start shopping. Sometimes you may be distracted from what you are really looking for by a flashy dog at the pet store. Just remember some dogs you might find at a mall pet store are defective and may put on a good show at the store but when you commit to bringing them home it's a whole different story!
If a little thing about the dog slightly annoys you at the pet store or breeders, your sensitivity to these issues may increase over time. Maybe the dog is extremely jealous and demands all of your attention all the time. Down the road this may become a problem. They may become jealous of the rest of your family. It may even turn out that they do not get along with your mother or father. Worst case scenario is their irritability turns into down right anger and they injure someone with their pointy little teeth.
You can not change a dog. You may be able to slightly alter their behavior but deep down at their core they are still the same. Don't start out your relationship thinking, "well...I don't like how laid back this dog is"...or "I don't like how aggressive this dog is" but I can change their behavior. Not gonna happen. Maybe on the surface with a few well timed treats you can manipulate the behavior but in the long run deep down inside they are still that same dog from the pet store.
In very rare cases a dog will actually change. You will not change the dog. The dog has to recognize their negative behavior and affect the change from within. It may take the dog years to realize it even has a problem. In the meantime, your relationship may suffer immensely! Sometimes it's too late and the damage is beyond repair. You may even end up parting ways with your dog.
If this happens, the most important thing is to learn from your mistakes. Take everything you have learned both good and bad and put it to good use. Take some time and analyze what went wrong. Make the most out of your experience. Hopefully, the lessons you have learned will enable you to be a better person and choose the perfect pooch the next time around!
Bottom line....Be very selective when choosing your next partner and maybe you will find true happiness and a friend for life.