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8 Things No One Tells You About Moving in With Your Partner

Updated on October 28, 2017
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Ashi is a lifestyle and relationship writer. Ashi writes about love and relationship advice, wedding tip & tricks and romantic date ideas.


There are few things individuals with experience will disclose to you when you move in with your life partner: You need to sacrifice and compromise. You must be understanding and patient. These things are obvious to those planning a major move. However, what about the not so clear things? We all know we can't simply leave when we have committed to staying with somebody, yet do we truly know what that implies? NO. The answer is no. You don't generally know what you are getting yourself into until the point that you get yourself into it. Additionally, no matter what anybody lets you, nothing can truly set you up for what truly goes down when you move in with your partner.

I am going to tell you some of the things your family and friends presumably won't tell you. Though, there may be things which happen to you but that haven't happened to me that will be simply as unexpected. Don't let this frighten you with moving in with your partner. It is still the greatest thing I have ever done with my partner. Just remember that expect the unforeseen, and get ready to discover your partner's annoying habits. Here are 8 things nobody ever reveals to you when you move in with your better half.



Words can't describe how astounding it is. Nobody can truly disclose to you what it is like to live with someone you love — it's one of those things you simply need to feel by yourself. It's absolutely normal while also being truly fun. It's debilitating one day and it's easy the following day. However, one thing I can let you know is that even after all the astonishments and hindrances, at the end of the day, getting the opportunity to nod off and wake up next to your lover is the best feeling on the planet.



You may need to make date evenings, you may need to work more to keep the romance and love alive. Since you are now coupled up and now sharing significantly more than you did when you initially met, charming each other may tumble to the wayside. However, there's no reason it needs to. You can leave each other love notes (get imaginative and creative— incorporating into your spouse's wallet, by the restroom sink, or on their car seat), make your spouse's most loved dinner, and as yet bring home surprise gifts.



Before moving in with your better half, did you adhere to a financial plan? Whether the response is yes or no, did you talk about one with your spouse now? Like it or not, financial planning is essential when choosing to share a living space with somebody. Who will pay for basic needs? Repairs? Furniture? Also, lease?



It is possible that you or your better half might not have any desire to go out as much once you live together. Perhaps he or she will need to save money, or possibly their actual I-want to-stay-in hues will at long last shine through. Whatever the reason might be, make a point to talk about it early. Either you can simply make an assigned date night so you guarantee that you won't be home each night.



You have sought out quality time with your partner for better bonding. You would think that moving in together would mean quality time all the time. However, when I found that wasn't the situation. Sitting next to each other on the lounge chair on our portable workstations don't consider as engaging, significant relationship time. I make a point to look for "us" time beyond simply viewing a movie together after supper. We will attempt a new restaurant, go out for a stroll, or enforce a stringent rule such as no technology in the room.



Living together can be as easy as love notes and flowers. You will argue, you will weep, you will need alone time — and that is all OK as long as you settle your conflicts in a mature and healthy way, i.e., communicate with your partner and don't be aggressive or let issues a chance to develop, you will have much more great time than terrible, and that is the general purpose, isn't that so? Unlike living separated, you can't simply go back to your old place in in case if you both get in an argument or fighting.



There are things about you which you didn't know require improvement. You drink excessively. Your feet stink. You are keeping washroom cleaning. You are not washing your dishes. You are throwing your clothes here and there. Nit-picking truly can be an indication of affection, so you will need to disregard some of his/her objection. The point to remember is that he/she adores you, otherwise he/she wouldn't be there. However, don't put up with more criticism than you dole out: you are a partner, not a passionate punchbag for when he/she had an intense day at work.



When you will live together you might not sleep well. In the pre-living together stage, maybe your spouse snored or take up a large portion of the bed or almost pushing you off or maybe you tossed and turned. Maybe your sleeping disorder deteriorated. You think you can get sleep tomorrow night when only you will be at your place. However, when you share your bed with somebody consistently, you might need to put an earplug, an eye mask, a body pillow, whatever it takes to ensure you get an entire night's rest.

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    • Ashish Dadgaa profile image

      Ashi 5 months ago

      @Angel Guzman,

      Thank you so much :) I am glad that you liked my hub :)

      My best wishes are with you :) I am sure It will be done within 6 months :)

      Good Luck

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      dashingscorpio 5 months ago

      Generally speaking most couples technically live together long before they officially move in together.

      What usually happens is one person ends up spending most nights at the other person's place. Eventually he or she has a "drawer" or section of their mate's closet for a couple of changes of clothes as well as a tooth brush and other toiletries. After a while they may give each other a key to their respective places.

      At some point one person says to the other:

      "This is crazy! Why are we paying for two apartments and two sets of utilities when we (practically) live together?"

      My point is most couples who cohabitate did not move in together as "engaged couples" with upcoming wedding plans.

      It's usually to save money or simply a matter of convenience. Moving in together is always the "fun" part. However as you noted there is a period where they have to adapt to each other's daily household lifestyles.

      When they lived apart both of them made sure to clean up their places knowing the other was coming over. Sex and romance was always on the menu. However once couples "settle in" there is usually less effort made to (impress) one another and sexually frequency along with quality/passion oftentimes experiences a decline.

      It takes more effort to keep the magic alive when living together!

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      Angel Guzman 5 months ago from Joliet, Illinois

      Good read well informed read! I live with my woman but do not have fun control of situation. I long for our own house and hope that happens within 6 months. The no technology is a good rule!