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Thoughts on Same Sex Marriage From One in the Belt Buckle of the Bible Belt
Marriage is about love not gender.
There are those all over the country who want to say that having homosexual marry and be afforded the same rights as heterosexual couples, will destroy the institution of marriage. Personally I don't see how.
The statistics in the United States for divorce for a first marriage are approximately 41%, second divorce goes to approximately 60% and for a third divorce approximately 73%. These statistics are from 2009. According to the number of divorce filings, therapists and others that participate in these reports say this trend will not really change or go down, but more than likely it will go up. Since the majority of states from this date do not allow same sex marriages, so the reports are only following heterosexual marriages at this time.
Do those who are fighting so hard against this really stop and think about how this might affect someone else? How someone else's life from a legal standpoint might be affected? Do the vociferous ones stop and try to walk in someone else's shoes for a moment? Do they realize that someone they know and care about may be affected by this issue?
We all come into contact with someone, whether professionally or personally, who is homosexual. We may not always know it, but we do.
In the workplace, homosexuals have finally been included in the anti-discrimination laws that are in place.
When the prominent religious figures are vociferous against various issues that are divisive, do they not realize they are pushing more people away than they are bringing in? No one wants to be told they are a bad person every time they step through the doors of their place of worship.
I was raised Catholic and went to a parochial school until I was in what is now called middle school, and I'm sending my children to a Catholic school, however, I don't follow the teachings of Catholicism as closely as I should because of a few personal misgivings I have, not only with Catholicism, but with all organized religions, but I do follow what has been stressed to me from childhood, tolerance of others, even if they do not believe as I believe. To try to understand where someone else might be coming from, be kind and fair to others, because that is what Christ taught to his followers. I try to follow the Ten Commandments, as well as the commandment Christ added to the list. The commandment Christ added was "Do unto others as you would have done unto you." I don't always succeed, but I do try.
For my heterosexual family and friends who believe that same sex marriage is wrong. I want you to imagine if you will, you aren't married to your spouse because you aren't allowed to for whatever reason, but you love each other and are committed to each other, live day in and day out as if you were married building a life together, then suddenly your loved one, gets seriously ill, and you are not allowed to be by their side to comfort them, give them strength to fight to get well, because the law says you are not allowed to be in the intensive care room, or have a say so in their care because you are not married. Picture even further that your partner's family, because your partner is in a relationship with you, refuse to come be with your partner, so your partner has to lie there alone, scared and helpless because the hospital has to follow the law or lose their license.
That is what is happening all across the country in the states where same sex unions are not recognized and even where common law marriages are not recognized anymore. But unlike someone in a same sex relationship, it's easier for someone in an opposite gendered couple to lie and say they are the spouse, that person would be allowed in the hospital room, and by the time it's discovered it wasn't the truth, it's too late, either recovery has happened, or the person has died. Yes the person in the same sex relationship could lie and say they are a blood relative and do the same thing, and yes I know it's been done, but should it be necessary to lie? But yet this happens every day.
I digressed into personal beliefs because there are those that I care about deeply, who are very close to me and I know would be frantic if they could not be with their partner in an emergency medical situation because of archaic laws that don't include everyone.
Being in a relationship with someone of the same gender as I am, is not for me. But that is how I was born. People do not choose to be homosexual, it is just the way they were born. I believe in God. I believe that the Bible is a great tool in many ways for teaching us how we should be treating each other. But because it has been translated into many languages and interpreted, over and over through time by man, and man is fallible, I have a hard time believing that God wants us to degrade, malign or violate a group of people who don't sin anymore than anyone else, other than love someone of the same gender.
For my family and friends who are in a relationship or want to be in a relationship with someone of the same gender, I love you, and will always support you because of who you are as individuals, not because of who you love. You are all practically perfect in my eyes.