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Three Stupid Words
Three Stupid Words
The English language contains many words, and those words can be assembled into various combinations to form statements and sentences to express and exchange ideas and thoughts. There are three words in particular that in and of themselves are fairly benign. The words themselves are harmless and individually really don’t mean much, however, put them together and they form a very powerful statement to express some pretty strong feelings between two human beings.
People say these words to each other all the time whether they mean them or not. Sometimes they come out by force of habit, sometimes they are said to manipulate people, other times they are said when people are dying. There’s an entire greeting card industry and “Hallmark” holidays centered on these three words. That’s how powerful these words, in this combination are. It’s pretty heavy stuff if you think about it.
I have used this combination of words to express a thought directed at other human beings, my parents, my siblings, my children, people whom I dated in the past, people I was married to and people that I am friends with. It feels good to tell people those three words in that particular order. At least it does to me.
Sadly, the reality is that these three words have seemed to elude me my entire life. I just want one special person in my life to look me in the eye and say, “I love you” when I’m not expecting it. I have no idea what that would feel like, but I’d like to find out.
However, having said that, I’ve come to realize that in actuality the words, or specifically that phrase really mean nothing. We all have heard the phrase “Actions speak louder than words.” While in a philosophical sense, this may be true, but in my opinion, these words have a place too. There are many ways for people to express the meaning of this combination of the three words. For instance, we can practice kindness to one another, giving portions of one’s life, time and commitment. We can perform acts that make each other feel worthy and deserving of our attention and devotion. There are actually many different ways to say it:
“Call me when you get home.”
“Buckle your seatbelt.”
“Good night and sleep well.”
“Let me know if you need anything.”
“I want you to grow as a person.”
And the list goes on and on. Just remember, if someone close to you doesn’t tell you specifically that they love you, chances are they probably do. They just have a different way of saying it.
Go on and tell somebody that you love him or her. There are many different ways to say it without using those three stupid words.