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Sexual Bond's Role in Marriage

Updated on July 27, 2016

Oftentimes we hear that sex is very vital for married couples. There is more to it than sex itself. It is actually the sexual bond that plays an essential role in marriage. However, spouseless individuals also experience this special bond. This is because it is not only the married people who engage in sexual acts.

What then is sexual bond?

It is what happens during the act of intercourse where each partner experiences emotional attachment towards a sexual partner. The funny thing is even with a single act of intercourse, a sexual bond transpires between two individuals. The truth, on the other hand, is it does not happen to married people only. Once the act is consummated each of the sexual partner becomes connected.

During the act of intercourse, there are brain activities that are happening – the limbic system uses the hormones (oxytocin for female, vasopressin for male) to send messages of bonding and attachment. These hormones are produced and released in both partners during the act and strengthens the connections between the neurons in the brain. The strengthening happens when the act of intercourse is repeated frequently.

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What is the role of sexual bond in marriage?

In marriage, sexual bonding produces a lot of minimal and substantial advantages. One is deep and powerful intimacy between the married couple. An active sex life energizes and inspires. It strengthens the relationship when couples are sexually compatible. A leading expert in sexual medicine and former chairman of the British Society for Sexual Medicine, Dr. Geoff Hackett talks about active sex life, ‘It promotes intimacy, reassurance, the realization that both parties are wanted and needed. It is hard to find researched evidence, but most surveys point to the fact that a lack of sex in a relationship is a leading factor in break-ups.”

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What are the factors that affect sexual intimacy?

If a single act of sexual intercourse produces this so called sexual bond, how much more if sex between the husband and wife is frequent, fulfilling and intense? The bond surely is strengthened developing a more stable marriage relationship with one’s partner. Sadly, a lot of factors affect the connection, or this emotional attachment. Sex becomes infrequent as couples get older, one research says. Aside from the fact that a man and a woman regard sex differently, where they give and get mixed messages, or one or the other shows inhibitions and other relative destructive reactions and feelings during the act, the challenge of married life strongly affects the desire. Sexual desire wanes, too, when faced with busy schedules, raising children, earning a living, and many more other concerns.

Do you have tips for strengthening the sexual bond of married couples?

Sex as one of the biological needs has to be an enriching element for married couples. Like any other need, if not met, will cause one or both partners to resort to finding ways to meet this need, or to resort to decisions not in agreement to the vows uttered for each other. There is a need therefore to assess the health of a married couples’ sex life and sexual bond. It can be the saving grace for a lasting marriage.


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    • bingskee profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

      thank you for appreciating, <b>brenda</b>!

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      \Brenda Scully 

      9 years ago

      interesting hub, you know your stuff eh?????

    • bingskee profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

      thank you so much, James! glad you liked it.

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      James A Watkins 

      9 years ago from Chicago

      Good advice. Nice Hub.


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