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Tiger Woods and the Strange Case of Monogamy
Some Humor is Better Than None
"Nobody knows the age of the human race, but everyone agrees that it's old enough to know better." Anonymous
just recently published two Hubs, one in which I
insinuated that Tiger was pretty much the perfect guy; and, the other in which I asserted that we human beings are not
being honest about how important sex is to us. Relating these two Hubs, one area of our sexuality that
we are being very much less-than-honest about is
monogamy. Let's try to be a at least little bit open here if we
If we follow along with the literal interpretation of the bible it's difficult to figure out how we got started with only one mom and one dad who had two kids, both boys. The obvious answer is not going to be very acceptable at all. If we move over to evolution, we've had a hard time estimating how old the modern human race is, but it's generally agreed that we are about 50k to 100K old. This is not going to be a scientific article, so please forgive me if I'm off by a few thousand years or so. Getting quickly to the point, there are now more than 6.5 billion people on this planet, soon to be over 7 billion. Crunching the numbers, it's just not possible that all of those kids could have come from monogamous couples. The world might be a better place and with a lot fewer people if they had, but for a very long time we had to be flip flopping from one bed to another. There is another quote from anonymous, and I'm not sure which of the many anonymouses it was, that says that throughout human history when isolated groups met they sometimes made war, but they always made love.
Now, whether or not we follow the biblical view or the evolutionary one, the concept of monogamy can't be very old at all. Taking a leap here, I'm going to estimate that it isn't much older than 10,000 years at most, or two thousand at least, i.e. the Jewish and Christian influences. Give or take a thousand years for the concept to catch on, that makes the practice still very young indeed. Let's face it, King David sure had his problems with it, as did King Henry; so, genetically, it just isn't part of our DNA yet.
Putting aside the moral aspects of it for now, monogamy is not yet natural, at least for the male of the species. If we, however, judge from sex-in-the-city-type media offerings, the female of the species may be hiding some deeper feelings, too. Don't get me wrong, I'm not putting it down, nor promoting free love or promiscuity, I'm just saying that if we guys mess up once in a while, cut us some slack. Monogamy is just not in our jeans, yet.