- Gender and Relationships
Tips For Getting the Guy You Want
He’s Gorgeous and a Flirt
If he’s gorgeous and a flirt, make your move before the other woman gets there first or you just might have to wait forever. This type of guy is so used to come-ons, he tends not to take them seriously because most girls never follow up. This means you might have to wait a bit after you give him the green signal. If he flirts with you too, flirt right back. Tell him when you get the chance that you’d really like to see him again and really get to talk to him.
But don’t go all mushy over him. Keep it light-hearted. Tell him that you want a good laugh, a good time, not marriage and kids. Once he gets to know you better and is enamoured by your wit and beauty and lack of possessiveness, he’ll see how confident you are and stop flirting with the competition.
He Prefers to be Friends First
This is not the sort of guy who’ll fall in love with you at first sight. He has to get to know you better before he allows things to develop. Just be natural with him and treat him like a really good friend and let things take their course. In fact, this is really the best way to start a romance because if one day the romance fizzles out, you’ll still be friends.
It won’t be difficult to be friends first because he’s the open and approachable type. And when you think you can’t stand just being friends any more, tell him honestly what you feel. If he’s even a little bit sensitive, he’d have got the vibes by then anyway.
Remember not to get jealous when he talks to other girls. Being the friendly sort he could do that a lot, but that doesn’t mean that he’s passionately romancing them.
And don’t demand all his attention when you go out in a group. His friends will resent that and he will find you overpowering.
Your Romantic Interest is ‘One for the Lads’
This type of guy is always surrounded by his guy friends. He drinks with them, he parties with them, he even holidays with them. So be warned, if his mates don’t like you, he won’t either. If you’re not into going to clubs and pubs and all that, it’s going to be pretty impossible to get close to this social creature.
One way to his heart is to make him look good in front of his friends. He’ll love you for that. This means that you’ve also got to come on as the one so blinded by love for him that all you can get out in company is: “Hi, you look great!” Save the real talk for when you’re alone. This guy doesn’t want a girlfriend who’ll make all the moves.
So if you want to get the guy you want, you need to let him know that you’re available and then let him take over. Give him adoring looks and dazzling smiles (he loves being worshiped from afar). Just don’t ask him out when he’s with his friends, but do go ahead and ask him out. And make sure you can take rejection when you do.