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How To Survive a Break Up
Ten Tips To Get Over The Ex
Alright, you're browsing the internet looking for tips to get over the love of your life. You might feel desperate, alone, and the world is crashing down around you. Well cheer up because I have been in your shoes and I know what it feels like. At the end of this article you will not even remember the person who broke you in two. Instead, you will be back to yourself in no time thanks to these awesome tips that helped me get over my ex.
Cry, Baby, Cry
STEP 1: CRY YOUR EYES OUT
Ok, so what is the problem? Why don't you cry about it? No, really cry about it. This is a healthy way of letting go. So, let the tears flow and the sobs fly. Some are afraid to cry because they have the fear of not being able to stop? This is entirely false! Crying is very essential and makes you stronger mentally, physically, and emotionally. Feel free to cry in the shower, on the way to work, in the kitchen cooking, before you sleep, when you wake up, or anywhere. Trust me, once you have everything out of your system you will stop.
STEP 2: DO SOMETHING REPETITIVE TO HELP HEAL YOURSELF
Doing something every day repetitively will surely help ease your mind and won't let you think of his/her face. You could take a walk around the block and enjoy the scenery, read a very interesting book, or maybe even watch Do-it-Yourself shows on TV. Try to avoid anything romantic or lovey-dovey for a while because we all know that it will only make you think and reminisce on what used to be. Do NOT do this, but instead think of moving forward and bettering yourself. Another way to pick is something fun and will benefit yourself or maybe all of man-kind. Take action and then take another it is not wise to wait and let the right mood " Hit You. "
STEP 3: GET EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
Now would be a good time to call a good friend and meet at a social area. Someone to talk to is very important when going through any kind of grief. When a shoulder is near you will feel comforted and no longer alone. Never try to go through this alone or tough it out, remember talking is healing. Also, there are many groups in your area that are for singles, divorcees, or widowers whose door is always open. Plus, even when you find someone to talk to you never have to make them your close friend but having a window to air your emotions out is a great tool.
The Ex is Calling
STEP 4: NEVER BECOME A DOORMAT
Everybody has heard the saying " You don't know what you have until it's gone. " Unfortunately, your ex now realizes what he/she had and is calling you non-stop and finding any way to communicate. Simply tell them that you are trying to heal and they are interfering with the process. Or, you could just ignore them completely ( which is what I did ). But, if you have a crazy ex who is still compelled to keep contact and is harassing you I would consider informing your local authorities. Trust me there are many crazy people in the world and one can be driven to this point if they do not get what they want. So, best advise for these types is POLICE!
STEP 5: STAY BUSY
Never give your mind something negative to think about and stay busy. If you are an early riser, get up and jog, go to your favorite diner and eat breakfast, do some yard-work or gardening, or just something that needs to be done around the home. I did what one would call retail-therapy which is another way to say SHOPPING! Another great way to stay busy is to attend a movie with a friend or relative. Or, if you like to be at home free your mind and work on some cross-word puzzles or trivia. Keep the mind focused on positive energy!
STEP 6: NEVER MASK YOUR PAIN WITH A REPLACEMENT
So, you think you can erase the pain by filling the void? You thought wrong! This is a big NO NO when trying to get over a break-up. Everyone has heard of the old " Rebound Relationship " and where we use another to fill a gap that has been created. Sure, they can possibly heal you now but what about the future? If you do not process your pain accurately you probably not be able to be fully committed in a partnership. Do yourself a favor and make sure you close a door fully before you open up another one.
STEP 7: NEVER BE ALONE FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME
You always want to be around others when grieving that way you won't feel alone. So here's another great time to call up some friends and hang out somewhere. If you have no friends you can make new ones, go out to coffee, volunteer somewhere in your community. Isolating yourself will not help you heal and will in fact set you back emotionally.
STEP 8: ALWAYS TRUST YOUR FEELINGS
OK, so you were taken by surprise with the break-up? Well I want you to go somewhere quiet now and listen for an inner voice. I can tell you right now the inner voice is telling you that everything is going to be OK. Let your feelings guide you and tell you that all will work out in due time and it will be for the good and never for bad.
Take Your Sweet Time
STEP 9: TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED
Never attempt to make a major change right now. For instance, do not rush out and buy a new car, move out of area, or move into a new home because this will only seem like you're avoiding your feelings. Have some hope and believe that in time you will in fact find love again.
STEP 10: DO SOME RESEARCH
Well, in a sense you have already completed this task. You have found this article and are growing more confident by the minute with these easy tips. But, just browse around and see what others are doing to get over a break-up. You might find someone to chat with or maybe someone who is going through the exact same thing you are. No one was put on this beautiful planet to suffer and always remember the sun always shines after a cloudy day. The next time you find love it will be even better because you have processed your feeling adequately.