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How to Find a Good Man Tips to Follow

Updated on April 10, 2014

Today, I will discuss what steps to take in finding your soul mate. While, I must admit that I am no expert obviously (LoL) I would like to add a little of my thoughts on this issue. Today, I challenge all women to take a moment and listen to my advice. As a single woman who have been through many ups and downs in life in general, I often find it hard to come across a good man in which I would love to spend the rest of my life with. I have seen many of my female friends go through similar hardships in their relationships with the opposite sex, everything from cheating, to physical and mental abuse, to dead beat dads and the list goes on and on.

I for one have learned to not rush things and let them happen naturally. I have accepted my single status in confidence that one day the right guy for me will come into my life. I believe some of the standards that I have set for myself will eventually lead me to my soul mate. I will discuss some of them with you today. Ladies remember, there is nothing wrong with being single. It allows you to put things into prospective and to live and learn from past mistakes.

Well enough about me, here is my thoughts on finding the right man and achieving happiness with that person.

Having Confidence

My first rule in finding a good man would be to have confidence in yourself and to respect your body. A good man appreciates a woman with great self confidence and who is not easy to jump in the bed with. Remember ladies, your body is your temple and you must treat it as such. I must note its important to not come off too confident because in many instances, a man will not want to be with a woman who acts as if the world is solely centered around her.

Trust and Communication

My second rule in finding a good man is to develop a great sense of communication and trust, its the foundation for every good relationship. A man doesn't want a jealous woman or one that acts like his mother. Ladies, remember trust and honesty can go a long way. If your with someone who you can't trust, I advise you to let go of the relationship because its not worth all of the headaches and fighting.

Other Fish In The Sea/ Warning Signs

Rule number three never try to force a man to be with you. there is always other fish in the sea. Its not good to hold on to someone who doesn't share the same feelings towards you. Remember ladies, you can't change a person only they can do this for themselves.

My fourth rule is to look for warning signs, If he was with someone when you first met him, he is mostly likely a cheater and cannot be trusted, If he never wants to bring you home to his mother, pick up the message, he is really not that into you. Most guys who really like a female are willing to introduce this special person in their lives to their parents and family members. Someone who is not willing to do so may just see you as a fling or may have something to hide.

Good Character Traits & An Open Mind

My fifth rule and finding a good man is to look for strong character traits such as strength, honesty, compassion, intelligence, maturity and patience. In my opinion, a good man will possess all of these great character traits. Ladies, If the person your currently with lacks some of these traits, I advise you to keep your options open.

My number six rule would be to keep an open mind, try to go outside of your comfort zone a little bit. Dating is not always easy. Its important to give individuals from other cultures and racial backgrounds a chance. you never know, If you will have more in common with that person than what you may have previously believed.

Never Settle For Less

My final and last tip in finding a good man would be to never settle for less than what you deserve. Ladies it's good to remember, your happiness comes first, everything else is secondary. No one deserves to be unhappy regardless of life responsibilities. Even children have the ability to realize when their parents are unhappy. Remember, ladies make decisions based on your heart and eternal instinct. Your inner self can never really fail you. Always believe that you a worthy of being loved and that this will come to pass when the moment is right.

In the section below, I have included a powerful song written by the R&B singer Lyfe Jennings. His song is truly food for thought. I hope you enjoyed reading this article. Until next time, cheers and good luck in finding your soul mate. Please leave your comments below. I look forward to hearing from you.

Song by Lyfe Jennings, Statistics 101

If you don't know where you are this is STATISTICS 101
and I'm your teacher LYFE JENNINGS in the flesh baby.

Books out. Let's go!

25% of all men are unstable
25% of all men can't be faithful
30% of them don't mean what they say
and 10% of the remaining 20 is gay

That leaves you a 10% chance of ever finding your mate
That means you better pay attention to these words that I say
I'm gonna teach you how expose the 90%
and show you what to do to keep the other 10.

Don't be a booty call
If he don't respect you girl he gon forget you girl

If he's in a relationship
If he will cheat on her that means he will cheat on you

Tell him that you're celibate
And if he wants some of your goodies he gon have to work for it

Be the person you wanna find
Don't be a nickel out here lookin' for a dime


15% of all men got a complex
15% of all men don't practice safe sex
20% of them come from homes without a father
and there's a 50/50 chance that you'll marry a coward

Something to think about when you're taking a shower
Something to swallow when you're drinking bottled water

I'm gonna teach you how to expose the 90%
and show you what to do to keep the other 10


Be patient! He's waiting!
You don't gotta settle for that
Leave what is past alone!
Get you a backbone!
Stop being (sorry for) yourself!

Have you no checklist?
It's gonna take patience
Time is still wastin'

Don't be a booty call
If he don't respect you girl he gon forget you girl

If he's in a relationship
If he will cheat on her that means he will cheat on you

Tell him that you're celibate
and if he wants some of your goodies he gon have to work for it.

Be the person you wanna find
Don't be a nickel out here lookin' for a dime.


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      melissa w. 3 years ago

      I've found many of the articles to be quite insightful. Great ideas and writers :)

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      Midasfx 6 years ago

      What kills me is the women who stay with guys who mentally or physically abuse them. I see this everyday! Women who get unfortunetly treated badly, and they always go back to them thinking things will be different or maybe they forgot who they felt yesterday? I have no idea. I once had a friend who didn't respect me or my kindness, and I now will not talk to that person or even look at them. But I find some of these girls are a glutton for the punishment, it simply amazes me. Wish someone could shed some light on the subject...