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To Kindle or Rekindle a Relationship....That is the Answer!

Updated on September 21, 2012

The man I love said to me, "I think there are so many things in this world that are so underrated, but should be so appreciated and should be done as often as you breathe." Kissing tops that list. Second is saying "I Love You". Third is making love in crazy places. The fourth is laughing. Now I'm not a professional expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I believe these four things keep a relationship alive. Having done none of these the first time around, I see how incredible these four simple and beautiful things can be.



Topping my list is kissing. If you're not kissing long and hard every day with your Love, then you're too comfortable or with the wrong person. I realize you might say, "well I don't like to kiss", but when you're with the right person you WILL want to kiss. It's a simple fact. Could even be an unwritten rule. I'm talking downright intimate kissing. With your eyes closed, long lingering, feeling every part of them, kisses. Get LOST in it. Throw in some chocolate or even your finger! Nibble on his/her bottom lip and travel to the top. When you're done look deeply into your significant others eyes and just say HI. I dare you to try it.

...You are the reason I wake up every morning.

...If You don't hear from me in the usual way, look outside for smoke signals...I will always find a way to tell you I Love You.

...Loving You is Breathing.

I Love You.

I Love You. No abbreviations, no cell phone lingo. Say it out loud, text the real words and do it more than once a day. Make your significant other feel Special and Beautiful. Tell them that they are…often. I think it is natural or perhaps human nature to get comfortable with life. We start to take things for granted. We assume that the people we love just "know" how we feel so we don't have to say it all the time. Loving someone becomes "lost" in our every day. But it is important to remind yourself and your partner just how important they are to you and that you do unconditionally love them. It's not hard to do! Just write down different words to say it…to get you started: Ti Amo, Te Quiero, Je T'aime. Pick up a thesaurus to help out if you have "writer's block". Put some energy into this. It is a natural principle that what energy you put into something you get back and then some. So what are you waiting for?

The Unexpected

Making love in crazy places. Yep, it could be indecent exposure if you're caught so be smart. Find a secluded spot and make it work. Lose you inhibitions. You are with the person you love after all. If you can't be free and intimate with that person, talk about it. Figure out the why's. Don't settle for "I'm embarrassed or They're embarrassed". Doing the unexpected keeps your life together exhilarating! Besides having a "dirty little secret" only the two of you share keeps the flame alive and the sparkle in your eyes! Life is short and in all seriousness you won't be taking embarrassment to the grave with you…so live A LOT.


It is amazing to know that yes you can lose your laugh. If there are people saying to you "Smile" when you pass them or are with them, chances are you've lost your laugh. Try it right now…if you can't find something spontaneous to laugh about right this minute. You need to look in the mirror and try it. If it makes you uncomfortable, keep doing it. Nobody knows what you're doing. I won't tell. Just do it. Laugh silly. Laugh happy. Laugh with tears. Find the laugh in what you see and do. The more you do it, the more natural it will become. I know, hard to believe. It is true, the more you smile, the more you'll find to laugh about. Now take your laughter and move it into your relationship. Find a reason to laugh together. Watch your favorite sitcom reruns, watch America's Funniest Home Videos, or revisit your favorite funny memories together. Look into the camera and say Smile…or better yet…Laugh.

Take the Time

Relationships take effort and if you're kindling a new relationship or rekindling your current relationship, I hope you like this simple list and find some inspiration to live life to its fullest in making your relationship the best it can be!

Some ideas to get You started!


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      twocupswithtee 5 years ago from Chesterfield, MI

      Thank you Mac! One thing I've definitely realized is that while relationships take work, truly being in love with someone is effortless!

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      Navjot Singh Pelia 5 years ago from Okemos, MI

      Your hub is really an inspiration for married couples. I have no idea how its gonna be with me, but whatever u've written, i will definitely try it.

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      twocupswithtee 5 years ago from Chesterfield, MI

      Thank you Justsilvie....I just think its the simple things that we loose sight of...taking the time to remember no matter how long or short You've been with someone is so important!

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      Justsilvie 5 years ago

      I really Enjoyed the Hub and your tips...