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To Live a Blissful Married Life, Embrace Change

Updated on July 29, 2017
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Pallavi is a writer and blogger from Kolkata, India. Her writings have materialized in few online journals and blogs.

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“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

-Charles Darwin

The institution of marriage undergoes changes with the passage of time. And accepting these changes is the most intelligent way of making a marriage successful. When your partner is undergoing a metamorphosis, it is wise to embrace the change to let your marriage survive. Sometimes it is hard to accept an unknown facet of your partner. You fall in love with one person and then you encounter various changes in the same person which seem to be unfamiliar. You ponder, “Where is the person with whom I had fallen in love? Why did he/she change? Oh! My love has changed so much!” Well you have to find ways to be happy in your married life instead of agonizing over the changes in your spouse. William Cowper’s words, “Variety is the spice of life” teaches us that diversity is interesting and I think changes in your partner might turn out to be interesting. With the passage of time, various changes might emerge in the attitude, behavior, and habit of your partner. And I think it is exciting to explore the various facets in your beloved with whom you are going to spend rest of your life. This person won’t let you feel bored and would continue to surprise you with the evolution of various changes. Isn’t it exciting to enjoy a ride in the journey of married life where you get to love the variegated shades of your loved one?

I have been in a relationship with my beloved for the last two years and I have already experienced little changes in both of us. I was never into movies before I met him. I have always been a bibliophile and lacked enough patience to watch an entire movie. However, after being in a relationship with him, I have grown an interest in watching movies. He too has undergone a change. Earlier he used to confine himself in a room of negative thoughts. Eventually, a transformation in his outlook took place and I observed a sense of positivity in his attitude. I was overwhelmed to encounter this change in him. His optimistic thoughts now motivate me and make me discern the brighter side of everything. So changes can turn out to be a boon sometimes.

I have heard people saying how their partners change after tying the knot. Well I am not yet married but I can already envisage the changes that are about to evolve in the course of my married life. Earlier the mere thought of change which would evolve post marriage used to throw me into panic. I was not sure whether we would be able to happily accept the changes in each other. I used to plead my beloved by saying, “Please remain the same always”. But then I realized the fact that since change is inevitable, we both have to accept the little changes in each other to live a blissful married life.

You might miss the buzzing of your phone with your beloved’s honey-dewed late-night texts, the long night talks, the dates, but time will make you experience a different ride post marriage which would be equally exciting and joyous. Along with these changes, you might have to encounter changes in your partner as well. But you don’t have to feel deceived because of these changes. Marital stability depends upon how you deal with the twists and turns in a relationship. Since change is the only constant, let’s embrace change with a smile! This would precipitate harmony in our relationship and would help us get rid of pangs of anxiety and fear.

© 2017 Pallavi Banerjee

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    • Pallavi Banerjee profile imageAUTHOR

      Pallavi Banerjee 

      16 months ago from India

      Thank you.

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      Ryan Jarvis Cornelius 

      16 months ago from Hollywood Florida

      Of course. You have to change before a marriage to cater to your mate. Nice article. I knew it was nice even before I read it

    • Pallavi Banerjee profile imageAUTHOR

      Pallavi Banerjee 

      16 months ago from India

      Thanks a ton, Souvik. :D Well said.

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      Souvik Biswas 

      16 months ago

      Very nice article. It surely will motivate people to understand that change is the only constant. True they fell in love with someone and over the years the person changed. But that's not cheating, that's nature at work. Keep writing, let the world be dazzled by such insightful articles.

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