- Gender and Relationships
To live a life
We all have a question that comes up in our lives sometimes. Do we chose to live; or do we die? Life's hard; and it's not always good and fun times. People can do more harm to others than they realize. Some times, it's being too judgemental. For example: homosexuality. So- called christians or parents, family, or people in general, telling others it's wrong. Telling some- one something is wrong, is wrong in a since, is not really the problem; but when it interferes with who they are and they don't get a chance to discover for themselves that it's who they are, and when they later discover this for themselves, then they are too ashamed to allow themselves to be happy. They become too afraid to be with the one they are in love with, out of being judged negatively by others. If they are un-happily married, then they feel trapped in an unwanted marriage because they are afraid of being themselves, because of what others might think. If there are kids involved they become afraid of the judgement of the kids. They continue to live a lie, all the while hurting the one they are cheating with. Once you have discovered that you are gay, lesbian, transgender, or bi-sexual, then be true to yourself. Someone will get hurt; but at- least you're true to you. Don't you deserve that? If your spouse won't have sex with you or show you affection, then it's time to let go. Your children are being affected any way; and they aren't happy. It's not always best to stay in an unhappy marriage for the kids. It hurts them more. As far as people in general, all the negative judgementalism affects each and every one of us in some way or another. Some kill themselves. Others hurt or kill others. Even still, others withdraw and become depressed. Sometimes it even affects one's health. You can never tell what another is going through, just by looking at them; but sadly, we all believe we can. Some times all it takes is a kind word or a smile. It can actually save a life. Even if someone who you think you really know, don't be surprised that you really don't. My friend is in an un-happy long-term marriage; and her husband won't have sex with her or show her affection. She found out she is bi-sexual and is too afraid to be with the one who makes her happy. Her lover. Because of other people's negative judgment. Another thing that can kill some one is teasing and bullying, and lieing about another. It wouldn't happen if people were more tolerable and understanding of others. Do you really know what that joke or mean word will do to someone? For some, it can be ignored. But if someone's been pushed too far, it can drive them to suicide. Can we really tell by looking at someone if they have been pushed too far? The answer to that question is absolutely not. I know some one in just that place. Yes; they have been on medication and counseling, to no avail. It's just that others have always been mean and cruel to her; and she's had enough. She's tough, though. She's fighting, and refuses to give up. Why do people have to be so mean? This world would be a better place if we were kind to each other and not judgemental, and love and accept each other for who and what we are. There would be less suicide and pain. Wouldn't that be nice?