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Top 10 Ways Women Want To Be Kissed

Updated on May 31, 2010

Why is kissing so important to women?

Kissing is a very personal, intimate and sensual experience for women. Do you remember a first kiss that felt as if it stopped your heart? The soft whisper of breath on your lips, your heart pounds, lips touch and the electricity moves through your body, the world disappears around you?

Believe it or not, women use kissing as an assessment tool, determining his sensuality, how well he's in tune with our response, does his kiss say "I want you more than anything else on the planet"? Is he in it for himself or does he want you to enjoy the experience just as much as he does? Is he going to take control or leave that to you? What else do we determine? His sex drive, romantic capability, commitment potential. All from a kiss? You bet your sweet lips!

And, YES, there are specific ways that we want to be kissed. Women don't want to be thinking of how many loads of laundry they need to get done, they want to only be thinking of that tantalizing mouth working its magic on our senses and the thrill of what is yet to come. Not just that night, but tomorrow or even next month. If we're thinking of a chore, chances are it's over before it even gets started.

In essence, the "first kiss" is the deal-maker or the deal-breaker for a woman. When reminiscing about the men in our lives, whether flings or relationships; we remember whether he was a good kisser or a bad kisser, "He was a nice guy, but he didn't know the first thing about kissing". "He was a jerk, but Wow... what an amazing kisser!"

So what makes women say "Wow"? Read on for the Top 10 Ways Women Want To Be Kissed.

The Top 10...

10. Don't always kiss as a precursor to sex, give that passionate "I want you right here and now" kiss, walk away leaving her breathless.

9. Her back, his hands, braced against the wall, only the lips touching.

8. A soft moan while kissing or whisper against her lips something sexy such as, "I want you".

7. Kiss, release, gently running tongue along her lip or a nibble on the lower lip.

6. Start slow and softly sensual, moving into that deep french kiss, Make it last long.

5. Come from behind with hand on her hips or around her waist, kissing neck to ear slowly, turning her around to face him, the kiss deepens.

4. Pull away from the kiss slightly to look into the eyes or kissing with eyes open.

3. Kissing the neck slowly moving toward the ear, a kiss, a nibble, a soft breath on or just behind the ear.

2. Holding or stroking the side(s) of the face while kissing.

1. Having hair stroked while kissing softly, then pulled closer by the nape of the neck and the kiss deepens.

What surprised me...

I certainly enjoyed the research for this hub. Some wants from women were very explicit, some sweet, most romantic and intimate. I found myself saying, "Oh, that's a good one", "Aaaah, that was one of the best kisses I ever had". A few Wow, really? and on and on.

I was somewhat surprised by the differences between men and women and what kissing really means to them. Some of these bombshells included:

  • Many men can get past a bad kiss, but women can't.
  • Polls suggest that only 10-15 percent of women want sex without a kiss, compared to men at 50-55 percent.
  • Women remember every detail about that perfect, exhilarating, knees-melting first kiss. We remember the when, where, how and of course the who; Men generally don't.
  • A survey found that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women had at least once found someone attractive only to no longer be interested after the first kiss.
  • Men believe kissing is a highly effective way to end a fight. (I guess if it's one of the Top 10 and not just a quick peck to get it over with.... However, that's from woman's perspective.)
  • More men than women describe a good kiss as one that involves tongue action, saliva exchange and moaning.
  • One of the top suggestions to men on how to kiss women was to watch romantic movies and take notes. (Well what woman doesn't want to kiss like Allie and Noah's passionate kissing with the rain pouring down on them in "The Notebook". Or the hot, sexy, back against the wall, I can't deny myself any longer scenes between Jolie and Pitt in "Mr. and Mrs. Smith.)

My top pick? I can imagine each one being the perfect toe curling kiss. I liked them all. What about you?

Do you agree?

Of the Top 10 which is your number 1 pick?

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    • Peter Dickinson profile image

      Peter Dickinson 7 years ago from South East Asia

      I remember 100,000 kisses but one above all others. I recall where, when, why and who with. Well over 40 years ago now but so happily memorable. Thank you for your hub.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Peter thank you for your comment. I had wondered and like I said was surprised that a kiss especially a first kiss was not as memorable for men. I sure hoped it means something akin to what it means to women. Glad to know it does!

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Well based on the voting poll #6 is in the lead..... interestingly enough # 10 is second!!!

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      MFB III 7 years ago from United States

      In that split second before lips meet.

      >< >< >< >< >< >< >< >< >< >< >< >< ><

      In that breathless

      eye glazing moment

      before a kiss,

      the world around

      takes on a sheen,

      of crystal clarity.


      Eyes become magnets

      that four pupils study

      in rapt wonder

      as their forces propel two

      sets of lips to gravitate

      into a buttery soft meld.


      Then eyes close in sweet bliss,

      as lips communicate love

      but beneath shuttered lids

      remains a sparkle.


      A heat that grows

      and overwhelms,

      an image burned

      on the retinas

      passions flame simmering

      as the most perfect connection

      becomes sealed,

      like two o-rings

      protecting liquid love.


      Noses side by side,

      tongues teasing together,

      and small gasps as lips break,

      and then reglue with

      eager adhesion to love

      found in the sharing of

      this silent wonder.


      Love is a smorgasbord

      of tantalizing delights,

      its appetizer is the kiss

      that makes all lovers

      wet their lips

      in anticipation

      of the

      nectar 's

      it holds.


      Thanks for a most intriguing hub~~

      ©-MFB III

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      MFB - you are such a talented poet! Just Beautiful. Thank you.

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      Lisi Hansen 7 years ago

      Great Top ten kissing techniques! I love the detail you gave.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you Lisi, I'm glad you enjoyed this hub. I liked the details too.

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      jwjulie40 7 years ago

      I love this one let the how to please a women completely!!

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      jwjulie that certainly would be very interesting research! Glad you loved this hub. We'll see what we can do about the other pleasures.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      I am glad to know that. It can raise the passion of love. I'll bookmark this one.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      prasetio20 thank you for your comment! Glad you liked this article. You're right and passion is key for women!

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      DrSyn 7 years ago from United Kingdom

      Kissing is intimate, it's touching the soul. I recall hearing the shock-jock on the radio, while being carried in a cab. A sex-industry harlot was the winning prize, the lucky guy could 'do-her-in-the-derriere'. When asked how she could be so unfeeling about this - her reply gave insight. She had one man only for her heart, and only he could kiss her. She would never kiss anyone else. Getting ram-raided was part of her chosen career and counted for nothing.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      drsyn, it does touch the soul. They say the 'pros' dont kiss because its too personal. Thank you for your comment.

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      dongately 7 years ago from Sana Clarita, California

      When the relationship is new the kissing is exciting, stimulating, intoxicating. But as the relationship lasts for years, kissing becomes less passionate and more just an expression of caring.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      dongately completely agree. An expression of love.

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      samboiam 7 years ago from Texas

      An excellent read. Just wanted you to know I have linked this hub to my latest hub Funny Before And After Pictures.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you samboiam, glad you enjoyed this hub.

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      DjBryle 7 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =)

      I love this! I wish I could pick all the choices at the poll. lol! Thanks for sharing! =)

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you DjBryle! Oh me too, I liked them all!

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      JannyC 7 years ago

      Still looking for that wow kiss. That is how I will know if the guy is the one with the kiss. Though on guy is trainable I think. Lol

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      Andrea 7 years ago from Italy

      Missi Darnell this hub is simply great. I've always found interesting how women and men see the same thing in different ways. Not only this hub has sound material, also the layout is very good. A pleasure to read. :)

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      Andrea 7 years ago from Italy

      I forgot to say that since the quality of your hubs now I'll follow you. :) Have a great Sunday!

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      JannyC thank you for your comment. I hope you get your WOW kiss. I can still remember the first time I ever kissed my husband and yes, I knew he was the one.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      hypnodude, so glad you enjoyed this hub, it was fun to write. It was quite surprising how we see a kiss differently. Thank you for becoming a follower.

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      Lynda Gary 7 years ago

      Gee, thanks. Now I need to find a man... LOL

      Another good article! Love the way you write well and get right to the point. Thank you!

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      Don Simkovich 7 years ago from Pasadena, CA

      Great Hub . . . I think some couples can get in to a kissing rut! Way to make think readers view kissing creatively!

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Lynda... LOL! Glad you enjoyed this hub, thank you commenting.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Don, thank you for commenting, that would be wonderful if they get some ideas from it! Keep them out of that kissing rut!

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      Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks for sharing. Lots and lots of tips.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you for visiting Philipo, glad you enjoyed.

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      DARRYL WILLIAM CRAWFORD 7 years ago from Philadelphia PA to Tucson AZ.

      This is good stuff. Thank you. I do know a few of these and I'm glad I learn the more. Thank you again. A good kiss is what a woman deserves. The expression of a kiss shows a lot of how they care for you. My next relationship (hopefully the last one, I'm not in my 20's anymore lol :)) I'll put ALL of this to the test. At the beginning of a loving relationship, the first kiss can be exciting and stimulating. I also believe women should also be kissed from head to toe but we can start with the lips, neck, etc. and see how far she wants to go, respectfully. I've learned to never rush a good thing. Slow cook that kiss for her.......fella's we can't microwave anything when it comes to kissing and sex in general. Forget about you and focus on your partner. AND MAKE IT LAST FOREVER! Great hub!!!

      With your permission Missi Darnell here's a link to my hub on how Men can keep it up with nutritional foods and supplements. Very helpful when it's time to go beyond the fabulous and memorable kiss......

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Wonderful comment darrylcrawford! Excellent points and I don't think you'll have any problems, you have the right ideas. Thank you for commenting. Off to read your hub.

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      Asif 7 years ago

      Sit on a chair and ask her to sit on you, facing you. hold her from around the back and kiss. She will close her eyes with pleasure.

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      Missi Darnell 7 years ago from Southern California

      Asif... I'm sure she will. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Dawn Michael 6 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      great hub and very interesting facts, I do agree that there is alot in a kiss. A first kiss can actully make or break a new relationship. If that special someone just does not get the kiss right it is very difficule to go back for

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      Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

      dawnM thank you for commenting... absolutely right! If the first kiss isn't special it's done and can't be taken back.

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      tpr2 6 years ago from Auckland

      Drsyn commented about a "pro" not kissing but happy to "do it in the rear" to which you replied "They say the 'pros' don't kiss because its too personal."

      A friend of mine who is a prostitute (it's legal here in NZ) sums it up like this.

      "kissing is way too intimate" and I agree. Kissing is the ultimate in intimacy, if you look at tantric massage for example most of what you are taught is about controlling breath and one of the ultimate pleasures is to exchange that breath with your lover, breathing her in and letting her do the same to you.

      Love the hub Missi Darnell, xx :)

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      AngelTrader 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Wonderful insights! Or rather confirmed my own techniques.

      Need to work on finding someone to kiss now.

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      Luke 5 years ago

      I tried the No.9 on my girlfriend, the next day, her mates were coming up to me saying, WOW SHE TOLD US EVERYTHING, SHE LOVED IT!!! I was like..... Thank you internet!! This sooo helped light a spark, thank you soo much!!!

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      earthbound1974 5 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      What a romantic hub you got here, Missi! I love those 10 tips of yours. That's what my man should do to me, if ever I meet him in the future. :D

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      Kyle 5 years ago

      How is it like kissing someone?

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      Want some love 5 years ago

      I am facing a very big problem.I am 17.I am homosexual.No one knows it even my parents.What should i do?its not my fault,its natural.I have two handsome neighbour boys.they are not interested in me at all.I am also a boy and want a liplock with them or any one of them.I am homosexual.What should i do?Should i suicide?How will i marry to a girl,i am not interested in girls at all,i am interested in boys,i am homosexual.Please help me,thanks.

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      sharif adams 5 years ago

      thank you all liked your comments they teaching some of as how to do it am really glad to know that thank missi darnell

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      Kylie Bryant 5 years ago

      Follow your first mind because I was in the same situation

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      ZahiduL AlaM 4 years ago

      I have no problem. :)

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      Derrick Bennett 4 years ago

      I've done at least 4 of those types of kisses before. Great hub by the way.

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      Ken Taub 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

      This hub is better than camping & survival tips in the Alaskan wilderness! An article, for adults, on how to kiss and why it's such a measure of of the man, and his sensuality and perhaps very character. Love it. Talk about valuable information. I love kissing. And this piece nicely highlights the whys and better ways. Great stuff.

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      Johnny Smithz 3 years ago

      I like this hub. Ilove kissing, especially french kissing. I would really like to know more about that.

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      Johnny Smithz 3 years ago

      Long lasting french kissing is the best for me. Especially when her tongue is long. It is sweeter to suck on it...!!!

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      suckit 2 years ago

      I like when she tongues my nostrils. SUPER hott

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      paul hoffman 2 years ago

      I like to kiss a women from her head to her toes and stop for lunch the bigger the bush the better I like it

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