Top 7 Encouraging Bible Verses for Spouses Who Cheated

A troubling thought, isn’t it?

The fact that you cheated on your spouse.

And, subsequently, you are troubled mentally. You are sorry for breaking your marriage vows. And depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame all plague your mind.

But you want to experience peace. Peace for your mind and peace for your soul.

I know how you feel. I have been there before. I have cheated before and encouraging Bible verses helped me to maintain my mental health.

In this article, I want to share some of the Bible verses that helped me to cope with you to help you maintain the strength of your mental health.

“When I declared not my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me; my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer” (Psalm 32:3, 4).

This Bible verse was written by David after he had cheated with the wife of one of his soldiers. “When I declared not my sin” refers to his unwillingness to repent and his refusal to confess his sins. It weighed down on his conscience and he did not have peace of mind as a result.

You have felt drained and worn out after working hard on a hot summer day before, right? Failure to confess to the LORD will cause an inner struggle of your conscience, which may cause mental tension and turmoil in your mind.

On the other hand, confessing your sin to the LORD and knowing that He has forgiven you can help restore your relationship with Him and give you a clear conscience.

“My little children, I am writing this to you so that you may not sin; but if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous; and He is the expiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the world” (1 John 2:1).

Some Christians feel that once they believe in the LORD, God expects them to be perfect. And so when they succumb to temptation and sin, it tears them apart mentally.

This verse reminds you that you are only human. You may make terrible mistakes. But when you mess up that is not the end because “lawyer” Jesus will plead with the Father on your behalf.

Don’t forget Jesus understands. He was also tempted just as you were tempted. And He overcame for you.

He is the expiation for your cheating. He has accepted the punishment for your wrongdoing and you don’t need to turn and toss all those guilty feelings in your mind anymore.

“If we confess our sins He is faithful and just, and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

When you cheat, and the reality of what you did hits you, you can feel guilty and carry that guilt around with you for days, and even for months or years. And sometimes thoughts suggest that God can never forgive you for what you did.

However, when you are remorseful, and you confess your sin, accept it in your heart that the good, merciful, gracious, loving Father has forgiven you because He is filled with love for you.

And believe that just as He says in Jeremiah 31:34 that He will never remember the fact that you cheated again, He will do it because He never lies.

I’ll never forget the many times I’ve felt as though the LORD could never forgive me for cheating. I’d feel so guilty and filled with shame at times. And then I’d read this verse and it would burn so strongly in my heart and make me feel that the God of a second chance has given me another chance to live right. That is mentally liberating.

No, no mental arguments, no analysis of what you did, just believe God! And when anyone confronts you with your past, remind him or her of your future.

“And when Jesus came to the place, He looked up and said to him, “Zacchaeus, make haste and come down; for I must stay at your home today” (Luke 19:5).

The crowd around Jesus murmured when Jesus spoke these words to the man who was generally despised because of his character.

I can just imagine Zacchaeus’ face lighting up when He realized that Jesus believed in him despite all his failings. His mental perspective must have changed when he realized Jesus felt he had something to offer to help God’s kingdom.

People misunderstand you, right? Some judge you because you cheated, right? But God, the king of love and compassion, knows you need compassion, love and pity. He knows about the great ideal you had about your marriage, but which has been smashed by the hammer blows of the reality of marriage.

Rest in the assurance that Christ has not stopped loving you just because you slipped up. He knew about your slip up from the beginning. He loves you with an unparalleled love.

God does not want you to give up on yourself. He does not want you to feel frustrated and defeated. He knows you are not finished yet. He knows you can still bring glory and honor to His Name. Let that be more real to you than the opinions of others.

“Jesus looked up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, LORD.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and do not sin again” (John 10, 11).

Many condemn you, right? And that has made you develop low self-esteem, right? And “expert accusers” reject you and make you feel miserable, right? And you feel depressed, right?

God has a love letter for your heart today. A love letter with the title “I do not condemn you.” He is reminding you that imperfect people have been the only kind of people that have ever been on earth.

So remind yourself often that your accusers are also imperfect people with their own weaknesses who need to “remove the logs in their eyes” before they seek to remove the speck in your eyes.

Jesus is in your corner and so you don’t need to worry about what others think of you. HE does not condemn you. He only insists that you learn lessons from the episode and fight on in the battle of life.

“When the cares of my heart are many, Thy consolations cheer my soul” (Psalm 94:19).

Negative conversations develop in your mind, right? Thoughts such as, “How does my spouse see me now? Has he or she really forgiven me from the heart? Can he ever trust me again? Can she love me again like she used to?” trouble your mind, right?

And at other times, mentally, you blame your spouse for not giving you the attention you craved for, for neglecting you emotionally, for failing to help make the marriage exciting enough, for being unromantic, for depriving you of sex, or any other reason that made you cheat.

And now you imagine motives for things your spouse does, and read meanings into everything he or she says. That can destroy the camaraderie between the two of you.

Such thoughts may make you feel, “You are the reason why I cheated.” Anger can grow toward your spouse, which may explode later when you are both trying to deal with an unrelated problem in your marriage, or when an insignificant problem crops up.

To break the power of such thoughts, fix your mind firmly on God’s love for you. Meditate often on His mercies and grace. Ruminate on His kindness and goodness and you will think more positively of your marriage.

“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?” (Jeremiah 43:18, 19).

You may reminisce about the affair sometimes. But rather than review that incident, let go. Learn the lessons you have to from the experience and run the race of marriage as though you have just began it. God is going to do a new thing in your life. Look forward expectantly to what is ahead for God says in Jeremiah 31 that there is hope for your future.

*All these encouraging Bible verses are taken from the Revised Standard Version (RSV).

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