- Gender and Relationships
True top qualities of a good friend.
'Don’t walk behind me; I might not lead, do not walk in front of me, I might not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend'-Albert Camus.
You adore your parents and love your spouse and children. You share your feelings with them, but there are some inner secrets within you which only your true friend knows. You might have many friends with whom you share fun time, but there is one person with whom you share all your problems and that person is beside you always and that special person is your true friend.
How do you tell who your true friend is? My husband had a childhood friend and they were very close to one another. Their friendly days were a period when my husband was well off. But when ill luck struck my husband and his financial resources dwindled, the man whom he considered to be his best friend gradually withdrew from him. If the man was truly my husband's friend he would never severed his ties when he found out that my husband was having tough financial problems.
Your friend should stand beside you in your ups and downs. Some friends have fun time with you when you are free with your purse, but vanish when they come to know that your purse is empty. You do not need such friends. When money becomes a matter to be considered in your interaction with your friends you can never call it a true friendship.
If you are doing a mistake, your true friend will have the guts to say that you are in the wrong. He never minces words when you do something which will have an adverse effect on you. He appreciates your good points and is happy for your success. If your friend feels jealous when you are climbing up in the ladder of success, you should be wary of such friends.
There are some friends who give wrong advice and take you into the path of destruction. It is these type of friends who introduce you to drinks, drugs and other habits which wreck your life. You should just deviate from such friends. Your true friend will actually try to pull you out of such habits, if you are so addicted.
When you are interacting with your friends, your true friend is more attentive than others and always listens with care to your woes. He gives you true advice and keeps contacting you to see whether you have solved your problem. He never takes a backward step when you are in trouble and in fact he keeps in pace with you to give you a supportive guidance.
Your secrets are safe with your true friend and he does not indulge in petty back biting. He locks your secrets within himself and when others criticize you, he is the first to come to your defense. He knows his limits and does not intrude into your family time. He maintains good and respectful relationship with your spouse and he makes his family know that you are his best friend. A good and true friendship has a wide angle and your family and his family come close together to give your friendship a tinge of family- like -relationship.
As in any relationship there is a dividing line and your friend knows his borderline.
‘Lots of people wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down- Oprah Winfrey
Yes, there are lots of takers when you ride high, but there is no one within your sight when your pastures are dry. If one hand acts as a crutch when you are limping, you can be assured that he is a true friend who will be beside you in your high and also in your low.
© 2012 mathira