- Gender and Relationships
How modern technologies destroy marriages? Let go the addiction!
‘I am not addicted to face book! You know, I just use it whenever I have time. Lunch time, break time, bed time, off time, that time, this time, any time, all the time.’ –unknown quotes
Social networking has taken the world by storm and has become part of your life. It feels nice to be connected with your friends\relatives even if they are far away, isn’t it?
- But has this trend gone a little over board?
- Is it being given too much of importance?
- is your addiction affecting married life also?
Sadly the answer to these questions is a big ‘yes’. You find it interesting to be browsing the internet than to be with your spouse.
The latest technologies are amazing and they have brought modernity to your life. You are able to manage work from your home itself and it has brought entertainment right into your living room. But the way you have become addicted to it make it assume the notoriety of being one of the top marriage destroyers.
What are the main technological inventions that can be called marriage destroyers?
- Mobile phones
What do you do when you return from work?
Do you interact with your spouse or do you sit before the computer\television to spent quiet moments with it?
Why do couples find it easy to spend time with computer than with each other?
Life has become very hectic and you face tension and stress everywhere. You have to adjust to your colleagues in work place and your boss makes your work torturous by being unreasonably demanding. You have to put on a facade of friendliness even though you seethe inside in anger.
You do not feel like interacting with your spouse
You return home tensed and your nerves creep up alarmingly when your spouse makes the most innocuous comments. Family issues crop up when you interact with him\her and both end up in having fierce arguments. So you feel it safe to catch up with your friends in the social media or watch your favorite shows in TV.
If this is the scenario you experience in your married life, your life is bound to a very a non-communicative and boring one. Your free time at home is for your family and unless you spend quality time with them your relationship cannot mature into an excellent bond of love.
It is true family issues can make you feel highly strung up. Why is only family issues and problems the only topic you interact with your spouse? Whenever you talk with your spouse you divert the topic towards family problems and end up in having vicious argument with him\her.
You do not want tension at home also and find mobiles\TV\computer a far better companion than your spouse. They don't argue, you see!
- Do you have dinner together?
- Do you interact about the fun moments you had in your work?
- Do you feel it good to interact with your spouse?
it is plain truth that modern technologies have made you say ‘no’ to all these questions. It is very common to see wife before TV, husband with his laptop and children with their mobiles. Conversations are far and in between and silence rule homes.
Latest technologies are not your entire life
You cannot ignore modern technologies as it simplifies your life in many ways. If you do not use them you lag behind others and you lose the advantage of being connected with friends and relatives. But it cannot be your entire life and your constant companion.
Married life is meaningful only when you spend quality time with your family. TV and mobiles do not take care of you when you are sick, does it? It is your spouse who does it. When you know how to spend just the enough time with these modern inventions and spend quality time with your family, your relationship blossoms into a strong bond of care and love.
© 2013 mathira