- Gender and Relationships
Hugging - An Invasion of Personal Space?
It's just a Hug
To Hug Or Not To Hug
I am a hugger, I like to hug. I hug as a greeting to others but not if I am meeting you for the first time. But you'd better watch out the next time we meet 'cause I'm definitely going to go in for a hug. I havn't always been a hugger I think I got hooked on hugging when I realised that some people just don't like it at all. It just made me more determined to convert them. I have a nephew that runs away when i visit but I usually pin him down eventually. He just makes me laugh, I mean what is so awful after all? He should just humour me and get it over with. Well that was how I used to think about the act of hugging until a few people left comments here reminding me that it can be very confronting and frightful for some people who may not like their personal space invaded.
Hugs and Kisses
I don't always combine a hug with a kiss on the cheek. I tend to analyze the receiver of the hug and try to determine how open they are to what I am about to do to them. I am giving them a gift after all. To me a hug says 'I accept you'...however if I don't like you no way will you get a hug out of me so don't even try.
I have found that over time, those that are a bit stiff when I first hug them seem to eventually enjoy my hugs and even instigate the hugging first. A similar thing happened when I first started telling family members that I loved them.
Saying I love You
One day I had this 'ah ha' moment when I recognized that nobody in my family had ever said the words 'I love you'. So I decided to be the first to get the ball rolling. I had telephoned my mum and just before I hung up the phone i said 'Bye mum, I love you' and hung up before she had the chance to reply....or not to reply. I did this again a few times and then eventually I didn't hang up immediately after saying the words and to my immense pleasure my mum said 'I love you too sweetheart' How wonderful to hear those words from my mum. She now says the words often and freely to all her children. I was able to eventually increase the words of love to involve my entire family...yes even my nephew...even though I feel he could say the words with a bit more feeling lol
Mini Reiki Treats Have Benefits
Through discovering the benefits of Reiki for myself and others, I realize the power of the human touch should not be undervalued. I completed a level one in Reiki a few years ago and loved it. I learned so much about myself and gained confidence in my life and the ability to understand I am at a point in my life that is equal to where I am supposed to be....Deep eh!
Whenever my daughter had a tummy upset when she was young I would place my hand on her belly not realizing that I was probably helping her by using the ancient practice of Reiki, in fact the whole of the body can be balanced using Reiki. Perhaps it was just a mothers instinct back then but since learning Reiki I have used it on myself to ease pain and handle stress and I know that it does work. I very rarely need to take painkillers, however if the pain were to persist I would go to the doctors because it could be a sign that something more serious was wrong. Usually first thing in the morning I will, before getting up, go through the reiki movements on my body as this helps me throughout the day with mind, body, and soul. Self nurturing in this way enables me to be at my best, it calms me and revitalizes me.
Hugging was introduced to me by my reiki teacher. It was the first and last thing we did on meeting each other over the three day course and she described it as a mini reiki treatment that can be given to others without them even knowing it. Therfore the random acts of affection by hugging are really quite powerful. The touch of anothers hands can be so comforting, especially when we are feeling unwell and the hands placed in certain places on yourself or another in times of stress, illhealth, fatigue, fear or injury can be beneficial.
Hugs Are Free
In general I believe that anyone who does not feel comfortable with being touched by others is to some degree missing out. This is not a criticism, it is however an observation and most of these people would probably trust a medical practitioner more than they would a friend to do something more intrusive than hug. Baby steps may help people overcome their fear or dislike of being touched, I know there are some people who avoid any contact at all, even shaking hands makes them want to rush out of the room. But I believe that the more you make an effort to hug at least those people close to you, you will gain a lot from their human touch.
A Shirt That Gives Hugs
Not sure how anti-huggers would feel about this shirt. There is no human contact but you get to feel the effects of hugs, the touch, warmth and emotion via sensors embedded in the shirt. How cool is that? Imagine being away from home for periods of time but still being able to receive hugs from loved ones. It would certainly reduce the feeling of being home sick, decrease depression and increase well being. Scroll down past the cute cats having a hug to see the video.
Hug the World
There are many animals on the planet that appear to enjoy hugs,
- dogs- from people and each other
- cats- ditto
- big cats- each other, people not recommended
- bears- each other, maybe not humans, depending on the size of their teeth and paws
- snakes- well what are they doing when they wrap themselves around each other?
- Birds?- a little challenging I think.
There is also a National Hugging Day
So to put it more in perspective a hug is just a hug, it doesn't hurt, doesn't take long, is free and can actually be good for you and the hugger. I can appreciate those who think hugging is an invasion of personal space, however hugging a tree or earth hugging might be the best place to start. So go on, what are you waiting for? Give it a try, you just might feel better.