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"Tough Love For Bad Relationships"

Updated on August 7, 2013

"Tough Love For Bad Relationships"

We have to sometimes use tough love in bad relationships to free ourselves from unworthy people.
We have to sometimes use tough love in bad relationships to free ourselves from unworthy people.
This marriage is struggling after two years, because the husband doesn't communicate with the wife.
This marriage is struggling after two years, because the husband doesn't communicate with the wife.
This marriage made it through tough times and still striving for our 12 year.
This marriage made it through tough times and still striving for our 12 year.

"Tough Love For Bad Relationships"

This hub is all about tough love for bad relationships, so ladies never accept only what you can get in a man. We must always strive for more because we all deserve it. Being in bad relationships is hard emotionally but there are some relationships that are worth having. I think most women, young and old get tired of being alone and just settle for a half of a man, when they don't know that they can have a whole man with a loving and caring heart. I have learned to be greedy, when it comes to my man because I want the whole thing or nothing. If we aren't careful, we will end up with a leach for a man, one that will continue to take from us, until there's nothing left to give. You see, leaches suck blood from their victims and the men with that mentality, doesn't want anything and will keep you from having anything. Once we find out that we have a leach for mate, we must immediately free ourselves from the problem.

If you're giving more than he is giving, you don't need him or her in your life. We are God's gift to man Literally, but not to be misused,abused and taken advantaged of. So, this Tough love article is telling us to check ourselves and the relationship we're in to see if we're striving or prospering with the man or women that we're with or are we stagnated and drowning in the relationship. If you're prospering with joyful happiness and contentment in your life, then your relationship will continue to grow. If we're walking around with an albatross around our necks, we're weighed down, until that burden is lifted. If we want love, happiness and contentment in our lives, we have to find the man or women that want the same things as we do. Don't make a mistake and hook-up with a zero, when you can have a willing hero in your life . Don't accept a loser or a user in your life when you can have a man or women that will love,respect, and cherish you for the person that you are for the rest of your days.

Ladies once we have been a welcome mat to our man, it's hard to change our habits, but change we must, in order to have a healthy, meaning worthwhile relationship with someone that really cares. The most important thing in any relationship, is our self worth, we have to know that we deserve the best that God has to offer us and when we think like this, we will only get God's best for us in ourselves. We must remember that using tough love can almost guarantee that will get real true love from our relationship.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copyright 2011




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      benny Faye Douglass 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      So true,I know you're new in town, but that doesn't stop you for looking up things on the internet or usingg the phone to find help in case you need it immediately. Don't tell him anything that will agitate or get him upset,play the game until you can see a way for you to safely get a way without any problems with him. when every you leave make sure you don't go back to where you were or a place that he know he can find you.If you went to A shelter for a while that would be good until you decide where to go next. Again if you want to keep this between you and me, contact me at my hubpage contact email and no one will be the wiser. I want you to keep safe at all cost, don't take unneccesary chances. God bless you and yours. Godspeed. Faye

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      so true 5 years ago

      Hello creativeone, first thanks for your thoughts and concerns and yes we have become violent before. Every time I try to leave or talk to him about it he gets mad, and all of sudden my things end up damaged like my car, or something I would need for survival.He is very jealous,but is not that much here because I do not know anyone.I am in the process of getting a job so I can make a move quietly.I just don't want him anymore, and in away I feel bad about it, not sure what that's all about. I know this person is not my soul mate or even near to it. I guess its just having someone there even if he is not the right person. I have noted in my mind that this relationship will never be what I need. I have to stay in that mode no matter how much he tries to fake being nice and kind for a month. I have been through so much with this person, and frankly I'm mad and tired. I want someone who genuinely loves me and I don't feel that here. Having someone look into my life is helping me to put things into light. Thanks

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      benny Faye Douglass 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      so true, my first question to you is, are you mate violent or does he threaten you with violence. If he does you might need help getting away from him. I know you're in a new state,but you might need to find out about shelters and help to get away. If he is a reasonable man and you don't have to worry about violence, then you should tell him what you're feeling about the realtionship. It seems you all have grown apart. My daughter is going through something simular, she married to someone 10 years older than she and she want to do things together and he does'nt want to do anything,but the bedroom deal. The bedroom is okay but we want to know that we're more than a piece of meat to be used anytime they get ready.When men forget to wine you and dine or be kind to you, it makes you feel taken for granted and resentful. You need to tell him that you need to find yourself again and find out what you want out of life. I really stress for you to becareful in talking to him, if you think he's going to reliate and attack you. Try to seek help through the Domestic Violence agency, they have shelters and maybe able to help you more, and always keep your plans to yourself. Please keep me posted on how things are going. You contac me at my hubpages email address. May God Bless and keep you and your kids safe. Faye

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      so true 5 years ago

      I so understand what you mean. I have been in this relationship on and off for 13 years. We have a son and I have two children prior. He is 11 years older than me, and for some reason I think that is a problem. I'm in my mid thirties and hes in his late forties. We do not do anything together, no dinners, club or anything. He says he's to old. I still have a lot of life in me and I don't want to wither away before my time. We just moved to another state were I have no friends or family. We argue all the time, and we say some of the most awful things to each other. Before I met him I was very nice, quiet and respectful to him. I changed when he began to call me names and try to control what friends I need, when I can go out ( which was only with him). I have tried and I don't want to anymore. I want out, but every time I try he becomes mad and starts in on me about how I'm this and that. I am angry because I am in a state I do not want to be in, I'm frustrated because I just can't be me anymore. I am mad at myself for even getting involved in this mess.I don't know what to do. I want out but, I want it to be peaceful. Any suggestions would help