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Traditional Marriage No More: The Difference In The Yesterday and Today

Updated on September 29, 2011

Traditional Marriage Seems To Be A thing Of The Past

Traditional marriage, some might say; what is traditional marriage? Why? Because traditional marriage seems to be a thing of the past.

Because in the world we live in today there is a vast difference from how traditional marriage use to be, than how the typical marriage is today.

One of those differences is when people get married today, they usually already have all of what they need, instead of having to struggle for it. Thus, the woman no longer has to depend on the man to provide for her after they get married.

But because the traditional role of provider has been ingrained in most men. This situation can cause a serve problem and complex for the man.

Take for example, a man meets a woman whom he is attracted to, but discovers that she already owns a wealth of materials possessions. But since she has been working for a while, she makes more money than he does and drives a better vehicle than he does.

She also owns a condominium, a forty-two inch television, a refrigerator, plus all the food in it. Not to mention, she also can buy her own gas for her own car. She just has it all worked out. The man then says he wants to marry her and tend to her every need.

The woman sometimes finds this hard to except because why should she depend on him? She already has money in the bank and most of the times more, plus her credit is usually better.

So what then is the man going to give her?

Women these days aren't looking for survival and protection like back in the days of my parents and grandparents; but instead these days the women are so independent.

So her expectations in regard to men and marriage are totally different.

So then some women often wonder, " how am I going to be submissive to my husband when I make more money than my husband, plus all the house and furniture are mine?"

So the man says, " well, I can't give you anything that you don't already have besides love, because you already had more than I did from the very beginning."

No wonder why divorces are so ordinary these days, and especially among us Christians. One reason though, is because a woman can now tell a man, " if you can't tend to this properly, I'm going to leave you and find someone who can."

This shouldn't be.

Independence is becoming a new situation for women, and men are still learning to cope with this change. Many man these days don't know if he should open up the door to the car for her, or pull the chair out for her when out to eat.

We just don't know any more?

Why? Because when a man does take action and acts as a gentleman, in many cases its not always met with a thank you but sometimes a funny look like i can do that my self.

In many ways, the woman has taken over not only the man's traditional role of the provider, but also that of protector. Now days she has mace, a gun in her purse, and sometime she know martial arts to beat you down.

So what does the man do? He says, " I'm your protector," and she says, " I don't need you to protect me." It's a different world we live in today and us men sometimes don't know what to do anymore.

But there is one thing that i do know we can do. Lean on God and be yourself! Educate yourself, pay things on time, seek God's higher ways and ask Him for guidance in picking your mate.

Doing this wont guarantee that you will have a perfect spouse and perfect marriage but if the two of you depend on God, keep Him first, and seek Him and His higher ways together. I believe you will make it, because its God's will for marriages to lasts and not end up in the divorce!

Say NO to divorce and YES to Staying together FOREVER, because all things are possible with God!


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      James Brown 6 years ago from United States of America

      great article with excellent insight. Thanks for sharing.

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      chefaija 8 years ago

      I agree I have been married 18 years and it takes work

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      glendoncaba 8 years ago from Somewhere in the hubverse

      Great hub. Keep it up.

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      create a page 8 years ago from Maryland, USA

      You wrote a very interesting hub. The photographs were wonderful. I agree with some of the comments.

      I think judging from most relationships today, too many men refuse to accept their responsibilities as protectors and providers. As a result, more women are trying to survive by earning sufficient money to pay the bills.

      For those of us who believe in the Bible, it happened from the days of Adam, and it is happening even more today. If Adam was doing what he was supposed to, perhaps sin would not have entered the world. I cannot blame women for doing what is required to take care of themselves and their families.

      I have a big problem with men who fail to do their best to be the men they were created to be.

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      James A Watkins 8 years ago from Chicago

      AMEN! Excellent article. I enjoyed your words very much. Thank you.

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      coffeesnob 8 years ago

      I am an extremely independant woman who depends on her husband -if that makes any sense at all. thanks for writing this hub

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      sroberts9 8 years ago from Northern Virginia

      Being happily married for now going on 16 years, with two beautiful young women of tomorrow, I am definitely a fan of marriage. I teach my children what my parents and neighbors taught me and I think I got it right. I agree, there is so much in the way of two people who find love these days. In addition, I agree it is usally material things. Some women did not get the full lessons in life that were being taught by "real women" who taught you how to be a good little girl, a teen age lady, young woman, a wife, and mother and may I add in this order. These women being spoke about here, were young women when they were starting their families and they left home too soon; they missed half of some of the greatest lessons a woman can learn. Lessons critical to the ending of happily ever after. Its unfortunate that they missed out on these lessons. I see it all the time. They have an excellent education and went on to make a great living for themselves got all the fancy clothes, cars, homes, etc. but, now they find something is missing and they are correct when discovering it is a man, but when they look out there for one they don't know what it takes to catch a big fish. Those that seek God will find out what it takes and there is hope for those who missed the second part of the wisdom classes from Mama. Amen

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      This is an excellent hub! You have also selected great photos as well! I am Pro Marriage! God's WAY! I realize that the world is drastically changing. I believe

      that God's original design for Marriage still stands.

      Eve was taken from Adam's side...

      Marriage today for many means many different things. For some it means getting all they can get. For others it means "I DO" until I want a new partner... For some it means for better and I am gone if it gets worst. For others...

      There is much spiritual warfare to divide marriages as well as families. One must be prayerful and discerning. I totally agree when you say; "I believe you will make it, because its God's will for marriages to lasts and not end up in the divorce!"

      Marriage God's way is possible!

      Thank You and bless you for speaking forth TRUTH!

      I thank the Lord for a committed God centered marriage!


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      Alfreta Sailor 8 years ago from Southern California

      Great hub twill4jc. I do agree with you about the state of marriage today, and the reasons that you stated also seem valid, so all in all a good hub. Keep up the good work.