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Traditional Marriage No More: The Difference In The Yesterday and Today
Traditional Marriage Seems To Be A thing Of The Past
Traditional marriage, some might say; what is traditional marriage? Why? Because traditional marriage seems to be a thing of the past.
Because in the world we live in today there is a vast difference from how traditional marriage use to be, than how the typical marriage is today.
One of those differences is when people get married today, they usually already have all of what they need, instead of having to struggle for it. Thus, the woman no longer has to depend on the man to provide for her after they get married.
But because the traditional role of provider has been ingrained in most men. This situation can cause a serve problem and complex for the man.
Take for example, a man meets a woman whom he is attracted to, but discovers that she already owns a wealth of materials possessions. But since she has been working for a while, she makes more money than he does and drives a better vehicle than he does.
She also owns a condominium, a forty-two inch television, a refrigerator, plus all the food in it. Not to mention, she also can buy her own gas for her own car. She just has it all worked out. The man then says he wants to marry her and tend to her every need.
The woman sometimes finds this hard to except because why should she depend on him? She already has money in the bank and most of the times more, plus her credit is usually better.
So what then is the man going to give her?
Women these days aren't looking for survival and protection like back in the days of my parents and grandparents; but instead these days the women are so independent.
So her expectations in regard to men and marriage are totally different.
So then some women often wonder, " how am I going to be submissive to my husband when I make more money than my husband, plus all the house and furniture are mine?"
So the man says, " well, I can't give you anything that you don't already have besides love, because you already had more than I did from the very beginning."
No wonder why divorces are so ordinary these days, and especially among us Christians. One reason though, is because a woman can now tell a man, " if you can't tend to this properly, I'm going to leave you and find someone who can."
This shouldn't be.
Independence is becoming a new situation for women, and men are still learning to cope with this change. Many man these days don't know if he should open up the door to the car for her, or pull the chair out for her when out to eat.
We just don't know any more?
Why? Because when a man does take action and acts as a gentleman, in many cases its not always met with a thank you but sometimes a funny look like i can do that my self.
In many ways, the woman has taken over not only the man's traditional role of the provider, but also that of protector. Now days she has mace, a gun in her purse, and sometime she know martial arts to beat you down.
So what does the man do? He says, " I'm your protector," and she says, " I don't need you to protect me." It's a different world we live in today and us men sometimes don't know what to do anymore.
But there is one thing that i do know we can do. Lean on God and be yourself! Educate yourself, pay things on time, seek God's higher ways and ask Him for guidance in picking your mate.
Doing this wont guarantee that you will have a perfect spouse and perfect marriage but if the two of you depend on God, keep Him first, and seek Him and His higher ways together. I believe you will make it, because its God's will for marriages to lasts and not end up in the divorce!
Say NO to divorce and YES to Staying together FOREVER, because all things are possible with God!