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Traditional Love Vs. Modern Love in the Age of the Internet
What happens to love? Is love an outdated idea? Nowadays is so hard to find a serious relationship. Do you believe that social media and dating sites ruin love?
Traditional love was romantic. It lasted longer than modern love. Here is a story which describes traditional love.
"It was once upon a time. Two teenagers fell in love. Their friends helped them to meet each other. He was trying to attract her attention so he sent her gifts, especially the red roses. He was writing letters to her, too. Finally, she fell in love with him. They knew to appreciate their love. Good relationship takes hard work but they didn't want to give up. They had to overcome every obstacle. Their love became stronger and stronger. They got old together. They made an effort to live happily ever after."
"Live happily ever after is not a fairy-tale. It's a choice."— Fawn Weaver
Modern love in the age of the Internet
Modern love is not so romantic. In the age of the Internet romance has disappeared. Young people are experiencing their first relationship on their phones. Virtual relationships are popular. Today's relationships are in the chasm between virtual and actual reality. We share our thoughts, feelings, and everyday experiences by texting. Is it real intimacy?
It is easier to text someone than to talk in person. Why? We can be whoever we want. We are wearing masks that we don't want to take off. We are great people in the virtual world and why we need to meet in person? Is virtual life better than real life?
What's more, it is easier to meet someone on the Internet than in real life. Is it easier to find love nowadays? Is virtual love true love? Are we happy in our virtual world? Do you sometimes feel alone even though you have virtual love?
This story describes today's online dating and modern love that doesn't last long.
"A girl wanted to find Mr. Right and she wanted him immediately. She realized that a dating site is an ideal solution. It is easy to find someone. She looked at all photos and made the right choice. She was texting the pretty guys. She decided to meet one of them. He was a man of her dreams.
They finally met each other. As she saw him, she realized that he is not so cute. His voice didn’t sound good. There was no chemistry between them. However, it wasn’t really a question of whether they should have sex or not. They both wanted some pleasure. After that night, they lived happily ever after, but separated."
Do you believe virtual love is true love?
Parents' views on modern love
Our parents can’t understand virtual love because they are traditional. They are sarcastic when talking about virtual relationships. The story describes our parents' views on modern love.
Daughter: “Mum, I met my dream guy. He sent me a friend request. I believe he is a good guy. He sent me a lot of kisses and liked many photos. He is funny, kind and cute.”
Mother: “I can’t understand modern love. You fall in love before meeting someone.”
Daughter: “We are not in a hurry. We will meet.”
Mother: “It is not necessary to meet him. You should chat with him on Facebook. You can watch each other on Skype. Meet his friends on Facebook! If you want to break up, you can delete your relationship status. It is so easy. You don't need to meet him in person. You don’t need to walk with him holding hands. Romance doesn’t exist anymore. I am old-fashioned. I can’t understand modern love.”
Traditional love vs. modern love
In earlier times dating was different. Finding a date required more effort and energy than in the age of the Internet. Our friends would meet us with their friends, or we would ask someone to dance in the club. We would meet someone at school, or at the cinema. It was hard to make somebody likes you. Nowadays we are sitting at home and swiping through our mobile phone. Before the age of the Internet, we would appreciate the person we found, instead of treating him or her like our latest online purchase.
Nowadays only strong relationships can survive. If your partner likes Facebook photo of another girl, it may lead to fights that are breakup worthy. We become detectives on Facebook. Almost everyone will be found guilty. Social media can ruin our relationship. We become very jealous because of Facebook.
A modern relationship is difficult to maintain. What's more, it is hard to find true love and a long-term relationship. There are a lot of people who are afraid of love. Love is so scary so one night stand is better. We are robots now, aren’t we?
We are afraid of emotions and intimacy, that's why we prefer virtual love. It is not easy to love someone who you see in prison very rarely. Modern love won't hurt us as traditional love. Traditional love was true love. True love can bring us sadness and pain. We don't want it.
In conclusion, we forget the true meaning of love. The Internet has ruined our love life. What a pity.
In modern world people are afraid to love each other, so they like each other on Facebook.— Prabakaran Thirumalai